Having My Mom There

So..Im 27 Weeks Today and Due October 15th.
and I had a horrible dream last night...with my mother in it..my mom is the kind of person who will always throw things in your face if you dont do it right or the way she'd like...so my dream was her standing over me while i was giving birth..and her telling me i wasn't doing it right..and she could do it better..just things like that.

Now i really dont want her in there..Because that is EXACTLY Something she would do..

My question is..how can i tell her i just want my fiancee in the room..but not offend her..cause this is her first grandchild..and i dont want her to feel left out..but i dont want her angry...cause she also is the kind of mom ..who thinks she has all rights to be wherever I am..

PLEASE HELP!

Tell your nurses to say only one person allowed in the room.
She should understand why'd you'd choose your fiance over her.

That's what I did to keep my MIL out.

Do you know how many people you're allowed to have in the room?
You could tell the nurses to tell her that you're only allowed one if you only want your fiance in there.

I told my mom that I just wanted it to be a special moment between my hubby and I. Not only is my mom also the kind of person who thinks she knows everything (and probably would have been ordering the doctor around), but I would have felt weird having people watch. Just tell her you don't want anyone else in the room and be firm about it. Even if she's mad at first she will get over it. Just let her in as soon as possible after the baby is born and once she gets to hold her grandbaby she will forget all about anything else.

Use the hospital as your scapegoat! Tell her you can only have one person in the room with you, and you would like it to be your fiance. (They told me I could do this at my hospital tour today...)

Quoting Viktorya:“ Tell your nurses to say only one person allowed in the room. She should understand why'd you'd choose your fiance over her. That's what I did to keep my MIL out.”

I would soooooo not want my ex-MIL in the room when I went in (when she was my future one). I just didn't say anything about her going in. She didn't ask so I was happy.
But now my mom doesn't want to get pregnant ever again... she's never seen it from that end before!

Quoting Kasey91:“ So..Im 27 Weeks Today and Due October 15th. and I had a horrible dream last night...with my mother in ... [snip!] ... i dont want her angry...cause she also is the kind of mom ..who thinks she has all rights to be wherever I am.. PLEASE HELP!”

its funny, i wanted my mom my fiances mom and my fiance there..it meant alot to our moms but when the time came i didnt want anyone but chris..they completly understood but i felt terrible.

Quoting xpubg:“ Do you know how many people you're allowed to have in the room? You could tell the nurses to tell her that you're only allowed one if you only want your fiance in there.”

When i had asked my OB she told me 3 people at most in the room..but that wasnt the "for sure"..
but see im also worried she would tell me to tell Travis..my fiancee to leave...cause she's kinda selfish also..
my moms kinda nutts and controling in case you were all wondering lol.
She kinda believes she has the right to be there cause she's my mother and she knows better then anyone else in the world..
im thinking i'll just tell the nurse to tell her only 1 person..see i never considered that..but i'd hate if she found out there could be more people..like if someone let it slip..

Quoting Kasey91:“ When i had asked my OB she told me 3 people at most in the room..but that wasnt the "for sure".. but ... [snip!] ... 1 person..see i never considered that..but i'd hate if she found out there could be more people..like if someone let it slip..”

So you basicly have two choices... Stand up to your mother and face her wrath, or go behind her back and hope she doesn't find out and perhaps eventualy face her wrath. Which one do you think she'll be more willing to fogive you for?

It's a problem when friends want to be there  I like you, but I dont want you to see my vagina exploding. Dont worry though she should understand. My husband is the only one I'm allowing in the room, and he's staying by my head

Quoting Kasey91:“ So..Im 27 Weeks Today and Due October 15th. and I had a horrible dream last night...with my mother in ... [snip!] ... i dont want her angry...cause she also is the kind of mom ..who thinks she has all rights to be wherever I am.. PLEASE HELP!”

oh my gosh! I have a mom that feels like she has the right to be where ever I am too! I called and was talking to her about a month ago about my delivery plans. I told her straight up that I only wanted my hubby in there with me and she almost started crying! I couldn't believe it! I told her that it was ok and not to be sad but i don't know if that really worked...haha. Anyway, I am gonna hold firm to that unless I feel the need to have her in there when i start going. But good luck with telling your mom! I would just be straight forward about it but it's different with everyone.

Well i guess i have to be firm and kinda stick to what i want..cause if i dont i might end up hateing my labor and not getting to do what i wanted...
I just can already see my mom..its like those horrible day dreams you have of things..like my mom would just go nuts..first anger..and then everytime i said something about the baby she would just be a giant baby..idk
Well im sticking to it..my mom isnt aloud..only my fiancee..and if she ends up hateing me..it will suck..but in time she will get over it lol..
i think i might just also use the nurses too to help me =]

Quoting Kasey91:“ Well i guess i have to be firm and kinda stick to what i want..cause if i dont i might end up hateing ... [snip!] ... up hateing me..it will suck..but in time she will get over it lol.. i think i might just also use the nurses too to help me =]”

I just had to tell my mom this weekend she probably won't be in the room. She definitely flipped and made me feel guilty. But I don't need the one person who can drive me crazy in a room with me when I'm giving birth. It was hard to do, but ask her if her mom was there??? Probably not. My mom is a nurse practioner and she was saying shit, like--"I will be right behind the midwife watching so, if they do anything wrong I can put my hands right in there."...I was horrified.

definantly! having the nurses help keep it firm with your mom will take so much stress off your back! my mom lives about six or seven hours away from me so maybe i will be done by the time she gets down here.  But your mom sounds a lot like my mom. I feel so bad for you! sometimes mom's can be such babies. i don't think i would wanna be in there when my little girl has her baby. i would be to grossed out! lol!

Quoting LotusBaby:“ I just had to tell my mom this weekend she probably won't be in the room. She definitely flipped and ... [snip!] ... will be right behind the midwife watching so, if they do anything wrong I can put my hands right in there."...I was horrified.”

Omg wow..if my mom told me that i'd flip out..my mom is a nurse also so she thinks she knows everything..but she doesnt even work in a hospital so im like whatever mom..just back out.