Please Read

Ok so its been about a month sence i lost the baby and i think i'm doing ok but i just had a break down i really want to try again but i think it will be better if we wait so we are doing to try again in august 2009 i can't wait so here is when it gets hard. My sister and her husband just found out she was pregnant shes excited hes not they have 4 kids 2 are hers and 2 are his he just got out of person and he is starting to do drugs again and he does not want to be with her why she keeps letting him go back i dont know so i'm a little upset that she pregnant only because but they are going thru she calls me and tells me how her boby is changing and when she gets her first ultrasound pics and why she is telling me this i act like i'm happy but in side i am dying   then my friend calls me when i have not talked to her in like months just to tell me she made her baby but she was not excited i'm saying to my self as i'm talking to her (YOU BITCH) just to make a long story short all my friend are pregnant and i'm happy for them but at the same time i'm not because they have something i want which is to be pregnant wht do i do to get better i know my time will come but until then i can i make myself better i'm always sad and crying i'm tired of crying i'm not the type of person to be sad i'm always happy and full of smiles can anyone please help. Sorry if i did'nt spell things right i'm in a little hurry

Ah hon, thats really hard... you'd think the people close to you would be more sensitive to the fact that you're still greiving the loss of your baby... people can be really inconsiderate sometimes.
If you can mention it to them in a nice way that you're very happy for them, but that it's hard for you to hear the details right now maybe they will understand better that although you are happy that they're hppy, you still need some space form the preggers talk.
Good luck with trying again.

im very very sorry for your loss! I think your thoughts and feelings are rational and eventually will get easier. Its just something that takes time to adjust to. My best friend is going through a similar situation and she has the same feelings and resentment. I cant say that I know personally but after talking to my friend day in and day out about her feelings.. i can say that its normal to feel the way you feel. I know im probably not much help but just know that i am thinking of you! HUG!

Quoting God needed an angel.:“ Ok so its been about a month sence i lost the baby and i think i'm doing ok but i just had a break down ... [snip!] ... be sad i'm always happy and full of smiles can anyone please help. Sorry if i did'nt spell things right i'm in a little hurry”

Im sooo sorry to hear that! I've had 4 MC....I didnt ever tell anyone about the first 2, So i dealt with it myself and it was pretty hard! The other 2 I had my friends. So if you need ANYTHING or someone to talk to im here.

I'm sorry for your loss and I know its hard not to be bitter at those around you who are having babies. I think pain will ease with time. Don't rush into having another baby if its not what is best for your situations. Like you said... your time will come!
good luck
XOXO

Quoting God needed an angel.:“ Ok so its been about a month sence i lost the baby and i think i'm doing ok but i just had a break down ... [snip!] ... be sad i'm always happy and full of smiles can anyone please help. Sorry if i did'nt spell things right i'm in a little hurry”

Right after I lost my twins my sister wouldn't come around for awhile & it was because she was pregnant. I had friends getting pregnant and then getting abortions and i didn't understand. right now, you're going to be very emotional and I know exactly how you feel. It's normal to be sad and crying. Have you tried support groups? After I lost my twins I went to support groups for a few months and actually talking about it to people in person that have been throught he SAME thing as me, helped me A LOT.

It's normal to be a little jealous. I lost a baby last year aswell. I have 4 close friends and all of them have kids now and Im the only one left. Me and my hubby wanted to waite awhile before we try again.But a little piece of me wanted to get pregnat right away but I knew it was just to replace the baby I lost. And as far as the people around you getting pregnat you shouldn't really worry about them. It's there life and you can't help what they do. Just be happy for them and eventually things will work out for you. Just take a little more time for yourself to cope with things. I lost my baby in June and got pregnat at the end of Dec. When one door closes another door opens. Good luck!

Quoting God needed an angel.:“ Ok so its been about a month sence i lost the baby and i think i'm doing ok but i just had a break down ... [snip!] ... be sad i'm always happy and full of smiles can anyone please help. Sorry if i did'nt spell things right i'm in a little hurry”

Before I got pregnant with my daughter I went through a miscarriage & 2 weeks after my miscarriage my sister was pregnant. I was so pissed when she did that but I just decided to try for another & I had Samantha. But I'm sorry about your loss I understand where your coming from here. But my sister did do it just to get under my skin & get attention because shes always in the spot light.

Thank you ladies so much now i know i'm notan bad person for filling the way i do. I fell a little better.

Is there any particular reason why you are waiting until next year? I know you dont need to rush things right now so that your certain your body can handle the stress but if its this hard on you why wait? ............ have you joined any support groups or talked to anyone about how your feeling? My sister in-law just lost her baby at 5 months and I know it kills her to be around me so I intentionally try to not "rub" it in (so to speak). I make it a point to not talk about my baby. If they know exactly how your feeling and that its still too fresh for you to cope with they will most likely tone it down for your sake. But you have to let them know. They will understand...trust me.

The feelings you are having are completely normal. I remember times when I was trying after hanging out with a friend that was pregnant, and I would bawl on the way home. I was always happy for them, and all of that, but it still hurt because I wanted it, was trying for it, and nothing was happening. You can ask them to not talk about the details around you for a while, or find someone you can talk to about it. It will just take time to get over it, and even then you may still end up sad and crying after talking or hanging out with a friend. I don't think I felt better until I was pregnant.HUGS

I am sorry for your loss. My son passed away when he was 21months old and we instantly had feelings of wanting to have another baby. All of our family and friends didn't think we should try to have another baby so soon. We tried for a year and over that time everyone I knew it seemed like was pregnant. I was happy for them and I put on a happy face but deep down I was heart broken that I wasn't pregnant. Also I know I would see people or hear stories on the news about parents neglecting their children and I would get so mad that people who don't appreciate their kids get to keep them I had to loose my son who I took great care of loved dearly. Everything you are feeling in normal and you have a right to feel the way you do. Also you and your husband will know when you are ready so don't let anyone tell you when they think it is right for you. We just had our baby on May 27th and some people still think it was to soon. June marked the two year anniversary of our sons death and I know what helped me the most was to talk with another mother who had been where I was so if you need anyone to talk to I am hear for you. Good luck I hope everything works out for you.

Quoting Mommy x's 3:“ Is there any particular reason why you are waiting until next year? I know you dont need to rush things ... [snip!] ... to cope with they will most likely tone it down for your sake. But you have to let them know. They will understand...trust me.”

My boyfriend wants to wait   if it was up tp me i would try in 2 months but he thinks we should save up money because i might be high risk the next time. I some what want to wait because i dont want to get pregnant just to replace the baby i lost if that makes sence?