re: I am back! Do I have to tell everyone something!

Quoting kmg83:“ Wow! That was out of line, you two should have discussed having more children, poking holes in the condom is deceptive! I hope that everything works out for you!”

We talked about having more kids but not until Gabby was around 9 months or older. I told him that we might try to conceive around December or January, but I guess he didn't want to wait. His excuse was, because me and him tried 9 months to conceive Gabby and well it took us that long.

Well that was pretty stupid.

Quoting Meg.:“ Good catch. Your husband doesn't respect you  ”

I guess you could say that. Yeah he pulled this stunt and I am pissed! But honestly, you can't judge my husband because of this. You don't know him at all. But when it takes almost 10 months to conceive then you can see his point. In no way am I saying what he did was right cause I am not saying that at all. But for you to judge my husband that is not right.

Yeah if my husband did that he wouldn't be my husband anymore. It's selfish an incredibly disrespectful. I heard a friend of mine did that to his girlfriend and I took one look at him and literally told him "get the fuck out of my house."

my hubby would be getting a vasectomy right about now

Wow, I probably would have kicked him so that sex wouldn't be an option anymore. Just kidding  But seriously, you have been through a lot. Your body has been through a lot. Trying to conceive another child is something that the couple should agree upon together. Mistakes do happen sometimes, but it is basically a lie to go and poke holes in a condom while your wife/girlfriend believes you are being safe. After delivering a baby at 28 weeks, your body needs time to heal up and prepare before having a second one. I knowmany doctors will recommend 2 years in between a preemie birth and another pregnancy depending on the cause of the premature birth. If I were you, I would have a LONG talk with him and then not really sweat it yet until around the time your period is due. If you are late, then sweat away and go take a test. Worrying about it now wont do you any good. Gabby needs your attention right now and just deal with things as they come. Hopefully you aren't pregnant but if you are, you know what you have to do. You just see an OB ASAP and get really good care. But for now, dont worry, be happy!  

umm, I'd be pokin some holes in something else if I found that out... like a certain spot on a voodoo doll!! Omg, I would die... lol... but then again Chris would be MORE than happy if Aidan was it... so I know I won't have that prob...

OMG, uh no, not your fault for not getting on the pill. I would seriously be kicking my husband in the ass and telling him to start using his brain. How would he like it if it were reversed and you said you were on the pill and you weren't? You know that if it's been less than 72 hours you can get the morning after pill if you don't want to take the chance that you are pregnant.

IF you didn't want him to be judged, you shouldn't have aired his dirty laundry.

Sounds like you should have more communication in your relationship. I would lose respect for my husband if he were to do me like that.

i find this funny, he actually did this!
wow, what a douche! 

What if it were the other way around? What would he say to you?

That's amazing. I don't care what excuse he gives you...not discussing life choices with you before going ahead with them shows a level of disrespect and a lack of trust in your decision-making skills.

Wow...I would be pissed if my fiance did that. Thank GOD Brock isn't that stupid though.

Quoting ♥mommy of Lorelai:“ Wow...I would be pissed if my fiance did that. Thank GOD Brock isn't that stupid though.”

 
*replaces with tony*