help :(

well thihgs have been rocky with me and my partner for a while. we have been togethr for 3.5 years now and for about 1.5 of those years have been pretty uneasy. march last year i fell pregnant accidently but lost the baby at 11 weeks. i felt so lost and decided that i wanted to have another bub. DP was all in for it. so here i am now with my bub Seth who is near 4 months old. i want to say that i love my son with all my heart and i would never give him up for the world.

things havent been the same with me and him for ages. we have grown apart and i must say i do still care for him but i dont think i love him any more. i am only 19 and i have been pretty much locked away since being with him. i have to ask him if im allowed to go up to my sisters or my mums. if i make plans that dont involve him he gets pissed off. we cant spent every minute of our lives together.

i still also have feelings for my ex, which i feel horrible about but i cannot help my feelings.

i havent left him because of seth. i grew up without a father in my life pretty much and the only reason my mum stayed with him was because of us kids and she was so unhappy. i dont want to be like that but i dont want him to not be able to see his child. but if i move out i will be moving a few hours away. he also told me that if i ever left him that he will do everything in his power to take seth from me and have full custody. he cant even look after him for 30 mins a day!!

i really dont know what to do any more. he doesnt think about my feelings at all . he expects me to have the house spotless all the time. he doesnt realise how shit i feel as im not getting much sleep (even though bub sleeps about 10 hours straight)

i need helP!!

thanks girls

aww sweetie  this happened to my friend they fell out agter the baby was born
idk why men r that way..... u being 19 u have a life to live dont let him stop you he will have to pretty much have good reason to take that baby n move away he cant stop you!!! do as u feel is right for you. the baby will always have a father the difference with ur child would be u will make sure the fathers in his life..... dont worry everything will be fine trust urself more than anything!!! 

It really is unfortunate that you are going through this and I am sorry.

The only advice that I can offer is to talk to him about how you feel, if you have done this and he doesn't adjust his attitude then it might be time for a move.

He can't take your baby from you so don't worry about that, just talk to your mom and your family and discuss what options you have.
Good luck mama.

thanks girls. im trying to get my mind around things at the moment. i really feel like i should be fair to him and let him know how im feeling but i dont know how to say it.