How do I tell him no?

I've been with my boyfriend for a year on the 23rd but lately things have not been the same. when I met him he took care of his business now he's all over the place and at firstt I thought okay maybe he's just having a hard time but now I see that he is just plain not trying then his other babymama takes every dollar he comes across which I can't get mqad cause she needs help but at the same time I'm like what the fuck .Lately I've been telling him to just get a regular job . No matter how much money it is do something now he wants to move into another apartment with no stable income and I know better why move and we can't afford to at this point. I say when he get the little money he's waiting on that we just simply get all the things our son will need . Carseat ,clothes ,etc. But no he just say let him take care of evrything I'm thinking how do I tell him no ,I can't keep listening to this bullshit I don't want to give up on my man but damn it's getting hard as hell.Help ladies.

NEVER rely on a man for everything...

If he wants to contribute thats fine, he should, but otherwise you need to take care of business if he isnt. And you dont have to tell him anything, just handle business...

Quoting ja'keith's mommy!!:“ I've been with my boyfriend for a year on the 23rd but lately things have not been the same. when I met ... [snip!] ... no ,I can't keep listening to this bullshit I don't want to give up on my man but damn it's getting hard as hell.Help ladies.”

okay so taking care of business and he needs to get a regular job? what does he do

Do you have a job?

If you're that worried I'd say get a job, or if you already do have one make a savings accound for you and your son and put like $25 of each check in there so if something does go wrong you'll have money saved.

Quoting WiFeY- MoMMy- PReGGo:“ NEVER rely on a man for everything... If he wants to contribute thats fine, he should, but otherwise ... [snip!] ... but otherwise you need to take care of business if he isnt. And you dont have to tell him anything, just handle business...”

I AGREE!!!

Sales the music that He makes and when I first met him last year he was working in the pants here in texas but he failed a past drug test and they laid him off the six months are up that he couldn't work in the plants but it takes 500 dollars for the classes and drug screen in oder to go back to work . Which he has had many times and everytime something happens till where he has to give it away. Then it's the babymama who for some reason always have a prob;em that need money but she works and get 's support but needs extra that he don't have.

Quoting WiFeY- MoMMy- PReGGo:“ NEVER rely on a man for everything... If he wants to contribute thats fine, he should, but otherwise ... [snip!] ... but otherwise you need to take care of business if he isnt. And you dont have to tell him anything, just handle business...”

I dunno my hubby works and I dont but then again we are married and he has a regular job and works everyday! but if he isnt able to support you 2 then you should get a job just to be on the safe side

Quoting ja'keith's mommy!!:“ Sales the music that He makes and when I first met him last year he was working in the pants here in ... [snip!] ... who for some reason always have a prob;em that need money but she works and get 's support but needs extra that he don't have.”

if he pays her regular child support he doesnt have to give her any extra money that needs to be for you and your baby! and you need to let him know that he needs to quit choosing her over you and your baby (well financially) since he pays regular child support his baby should be taken care of!

No I'm but working I 'm on bedrest because I blackout with a sign so my doctor has told us that I shouldn't be on my feet if I could work I wouldn't care about if he was going to be there but right now I need him until I'm back on my feet . I just wish he wouldget the basic things the baby need until I can work.

Quoting Married Mama:“ I dunno my hubby works and I dont but then again we are married and he has a regular job and works everyday! but if he isnt able to support you 2 then you should get a job just to be on the safe side”

i cant work right now cause of my daughters illness and it is KILLING me that i cant contribute... even if im only working part time ya know??

but married is a diff story,

trust me I know the feeling I've never been without a job sinceI was sixteen so this is very different for me. I'm pulling out my hair going crazy