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I dont think you will all care, I am writing this more for me to get it out than anything else. I have been with my fiancee for 5 years. He was basically my high school sweetheart. Well since i got pregnant, he has not been the same. We are 23 years old and he has started going out until all hours of the night, staying over at his bosses house or friends houses. I mean he's engaged with a baby on the way. I tried telling him that hes 23 and its time to grow up but his response is i'm not 4 i can go out without permission. And i agree, he doesnt need to check in with me but when he goes out he just doesnt call to tell me he wont be home. he wont answer his phone nothing. I do not think he is cheating on me he is not like that. But anyway so we live with his sister right now who i do not get along with anymore. She wants us to sign another 6 month lease because her boyfriend just left her and she cant afford to live here on her own, that is fine i dont mind that but i dont like it here at all. I am depressed all the time. Jeremy told me i could go home and he'll try to be home before the baby is born. We got in a fight about it the other night and he let everything out, apparantly i am not the same girl he fell in love with because i have gotten fat, i dont do my hair and makeup every day, and i dont act the same. So basically he told me he isnt in love with me anymore. Thats great, now i am pregnant with his baby, and in love with someone who doesnt love me back. I didnt even know anything like that was wrong. He just started not coming home... I dont even know where im going with this, i guess just trying to make myself feel better and all i did was make it worse. If you read this whole thing, thanks....

Aw. I'm really sorry to hear you guys are having trouble. Maybe he's just scared about becoming a father and doesn't know how to relay this to you and is acting out. I hope things get better  

Thanks, I just dont know if i can handle being a single mom...

Aw I'm so sorry. Maybe he's just confused about what he wants. Having a baby is a big step. Idk. I'm not an expert. My husband(he was my bf at the time)told me one time like a year and a half ago that he didn't love me anymore and I was soo very sad. We broke up and 2 months later he wanted me back and he said that he just needed to have time to figure out what he wanted. I think this is BS because he should have known from the beginning but I guess we're just two different people. This is upsetting because he should have thought about that before you guys got engaged and had a baby!!!

i am really sorry you have to go through this.. he is being an ass.. and shold understand you are pregnant.. you may not feel like doing your make up or messing with your hair..which is fine. he just really needs to grow up. guys can be such dicks sometimes.. I dont think we will ever understand them.. things will work out.. you just have to remember things happen for a reason.. if you need anyone to talk I am here!

I am sorry for what you are going through but it does sound like he is getting scared to me.....Than it don't help if his friends are feeding him full of BS like man you are only 23 and you trying to get married and you got a baby on the way......what they need to be telling him is man you got a baby on the way why ain't you at home with youe girl.......Shit me and my husband had a communication problem about we fixed that and it has been working we had a problem a few months ago and we were gonna split up and then we worked things out and figured out that we really didn't wanna leave each other and we worked things out. and then i ended up pregnant.....i guess when we were having makeup sex....LOL......but he be sures to call me everyday when he working outta town.....try talking to him and see what he really wants and tell him that he helped make this responsibility he needs to man up and get his act together

he does sound like is getting scared are trying to push you away..

but honestly for me.. I don think my life has change to much because of my kid(s) and if it has changed its been for the better!

It could be him just freaking out because a new baby on the way has strange effects on different people... or it could be for real. It's kind of like he's a teenager and you're having to play the part of 'mom'. He's like, "I'm not 4 Mom, I can stay out, I'm a big boy" and you're just like, "Whatever" because I'm sure you don't want to play the part of mom. He knows that when the baby's here, his going out days could be over, that could be what he's freaking out over.

He will have the chance to go out all he wants, i'm leaving we decided that. He was like i'll still provide for my kid, well thats great but while i sit here for the next 5 months taking care OF MYSELF he'll be taking care of his sister, he doesnt want her to be alone.

I'm so sorry you're going through that.

He may get upset about this, but I'd suggest counseling. I know it's not your fault AT ALL he's acting this way, but I'd tell him it's not fair to his daughter to be raised with out a mom and dad.

I'm all for bridging communication gaps. =]

I thought about that but i dont think he'll do it, he's happy living single right now. i just have to suffer the consequences. I thought we were ready for a baby. I guess I was just ready for a baby!

You'll be able to get used to being a single mom. You'll never get used to being tied down in a relationship with someone you know doesn't want to be there. Good luck, doll. It sounds like he's just not ready.

Quoting Vannessa_615:“ I dont think you will all care, I am writing this more for me to get it out than anything else. I have ... [snip!] ... this, i guess just trying to make myself feel better and all i did was make it worse. If you read this whole thing, thanks....”

My soon to be MIL... not so much my fiance, made the comment that I don't dress up all the time like I used to... and I don't put make up on as much anymore... I turned into the tee shirt and jean Mom... which isn't really like me, but it's all I have time for anymore... but she told me, that men tend to go look for women that do that because their girlfriend/fiance/wife... doesn't do that stuff anymore... and when they find a girl that will play that game with them... they do their make up and dress up really pretty... they start spacing away from their spouse... my soon to be MIL was telling me this, so I would start dressing up again. Not that my fiance was straying or anything... she was just trying to help when my fiance and I were fighting one day. Also another thing, the baby thing might be scaring him... start dressing up and putting make up on, spice up your relationship... i'm sure he'll fall back in again!!