there are a passel of books out there about pregnancy. we've got an entire
weekly book club
the one we've specifically recommended for dads-to-be is:
The Expectant Father.
still, it sounds a little unfair that you're expecting him to not react when you're flipping out.
if you're acting all crazy (b/c of hormones), it's pretty understandable that he freaks out as well. crazy is crazy, whether or not it's hormonally induced-- once one of you is allowed to throw tantrums, the other one is going to as well. try to explain to him how you're feeling. being pregnant isn't an excuse to act like a psycho.
hope the books help!