babys dad

when i was 8 weeks preg , me and him broke up , at 10 weeks me n him had sex .. and then i did not hear from him untill 2 months later ( which i was 19 weeks) he stoped talking to me becasue of a girl he was seeing , well they broke up about a week and a half ago .... he's been wanted to see me and hangout but i wasnt sure about it , cuz all he'd want is some ass ... well since weve been talking again , i was thinking on mayb working things out with him for the baby s she knows who her father is , but .. already a week and a half later after he broke up with that ther girl he's found differnet girl , i was upset and hurt .. n now i regret even talking to him again... i just dont understand why he cant keep his dick in his pants .... n i was hopeful to let him back into my life and t be part of my daughters life but now i dont want nothing to do with him no more , thats final.. he's gone n fucked up too many times ...

Even if things aren't working out between you two, if he wants to be in the baby's life, give him a chance. Just don't give him a peice of ass whenever he's around. I would never keep my baby from their father unless there was a very good and valid reason behind it, and us not getting along is not one.

Quoting duein1108:“ when i was 8 weeks preg , me and him broke up , at 10 weeks me n him had sex .. and then i did not hear ... [snip!] ... my daughters life but now i dont want nothing to do with him no more , thats final.. he's gone n fucked up too many times ...”

Just because things aren't working out for the two of you and you're mad at him, doesn't mean you should keep your daughter from knowing her father.

You need to set out ground rules for him if he wants to be involved with her and let him know that he can't keep messing up or he'll have to go to court if he wants to see her (once she's here of course)

If it is at all possible for you two to be civil to each other, you should be for the sake of your child.

Quoting Rileyxo[MAEK]:“ Even if things aren't working out between you two, if he wants to be in the baby's life, give him a chance. ... [snip!] ... keep my baby from their father unless there was a very good and valid reason behind it, and us not getting along is not one.”

i dont want my daughter arund the drinking , the drugs and the diffent girls hes going to bring home everymonth .. he already has a 5 year old son , that he cant even see because he cant afford a car to go pick him up..

Quoting duein1108:“ i dont want my daughter arund the drinking , the drugs and the diffent girls hes going to bring home ... [snip!] ... home everymonth .. he already has a 5 year old son , that he cant even see because he cant afford a car to go pick him up..”

Then take him to court. If he's legally the father and he wants to see the baby, you can't keep her from him unless there is a court order. And if the court orders him to see her, you'll have to deal with it. But you would probably get child support too.

i will not deny him of seeing her , he wont have her alone or over night thats for sure

Quoting Rileyxo[MAEK]:“ Even if things aren't working out between you two, if he wants to be in the baby's life, give him a chance. ... [snip!] ... keep my baby from their father unless there was a very good and valid reason behind it, and us not getting along is not one.”

agreed. that says it all! learning to put your pride aside is hard, buts its the best and most fair thing for your child

This sounds similar to my situation. My son's father I haven't "been together" since I was 16 wks pregnant. I have made the decision to omit him from my child's life.

I did give him many MANY opportunites to be involved and unfortunately all he did was cause me stress and disappointment when he didnt live up to his promises of being a "good Dad".

Being a parent is a gift and it is NOT something to be taken lightly. Never leave your child's father out because of your own anger, but if you truly feel you are both better off without him then know it is a VERy hard road but you will do just fine.

We as Mommy's need to make sure to do what is best for our babies! Always.

You can' t make him bea dad. If he wants to be a father in his child's life..that is on him. Don't hold his hand. You can' t make him come around. Just be a good mother to your daughter....and only let him be a part of her life. Go on with yours. In due time she will see her father for who he really is.

Quoting duein1108:“ i will not deny him of seeing her , he wont have her alone or over night thats for sure”

Well it's a good thing you won't deny him seeing her because you really can't do that unless there is a good reason.
But I don't know about where you live..but in Indiana he wouldn't be able to take her over night anyway until she was 2, or so. He'd only be allowed visits for a couple hours at a time.

i just want him to get his shit together , hes not setting a god example for his son bringing all these different girls around , u would think by 27 years old he would have his shit together .. i guess i iwll have to see how it goes once she is born .

Quoting Kimberly & Baby:“ This sounds similar to my situation. My son's father I haven't "been together" since I was 16 wks pregnant. ... [snip!] ... it is a VERy hard road but you will do just fine. We as Mommy's need to make sure to do what is best for our babies! Always.”

I agree. I have been dealing with this for 2 years and I still want to tell him to f*** off because he does no good, but I don't. Hegiving nothing,NO support, NOtime, NO NOTHING. I said this before the only time he pays his child support is when it right around 6000 so hedoesn't get his licesne revoke. 

Quoting duein1108:“ i just want him to get his shit together , hes not setting a god example for his son bringing all these ... [snip!] ... , u would think by 27 years old he would have his shit together .. i guess i iwll have to see how it goes once she is born .”

That's another reason I swore I'd never have a baby with a guy that already has kids. I feel like my child would be getting the second hand on top of it all.

Quoting duein1108:“ i just want him to get his shit together , hes not setting a god example for his son bringing all these ... [snip!] ... , u would think by 27 years old he would have his shit together .. i guess i iwll have to see how it goes once she is born .”

I know what you mean with the "girls" because my ex said the he can NEVER stand alone and the how 12 years that I have know him he is telling the truth.  So I do understand your reasoning plus we don't even know these people and we are have to trust them with our children.

Quoting duein1108:“ i just want him to get his shit together , hes not setting a god example for his son bringing all these ... [snip!] ... , u would think by 27 years old he would have his shit together .. i guess i iwll have to see how it goes once she is born .”

That's the sucky part. Just because you want it doesn't mean it will happen.