Anyone else deal with this?

Ok... my fiance is being so stupid. He was acting like a jerk to our puppy because he always wants attention. I noticed this and said "uh... are you going to be like that to the baby?" He got all pissy and said "no! That will be my own child... this is a dog." I then went on to try and explain to him that just because it's his own child doesn't mean he isn't going to get frustrated. He got even pissier and said "I'm getting frustrated with YOU because you're sitting there trying to tell me that I'm going to do a horrible job with my child." That pissed me off because I wasn't saying he would be a bad father. So I explained to him that I don't doubt he'll be a good father... but that even the best fathers get frustrated when they are trying to deal with a crying/sick/fussy baby. But it seemed like he just had a mental block or something. Seriously... it was like talking to a wall. A very stupid wall. He tried to say that because I'm the youngest in my family (but have 8 nephews and 1 neice between the ages of 16 and 7) and that he had ONE younger sister (that wasn't even a blood relative, he was adopted) that he knew EVERYTHING about taking care of children and I knew nothing. It pisses me off because he doesn't realize that he wasn't taking care of his sister... his parents were. He seems to think that because he gave her a bottle every now and then and shared a room with her for the first year or so that he will be a perfect parent that never gets sick of hearing his own child cry. Am I totally ignorant here? Or does he need to stop fooling himself and prepare to be frustrated at some point? I just feel like he's setting himself up to feel really bad the first time he gets sick of hearing our baby cry. I'm trying to be relalistic. -Angela-

Quoting LuckyLime:“ Ok... my fiance is being so stupid. He was acting like a jerk to our puppy because he always wants attention. ... [snip!] ... himself up to feel really bad the first time he gets sick of hearing our baby cry. I'm trying to be relalistic. -Angela-”

LOL i had that same fight a couple nights ago about our cat. i told him he needs to clean the cat box since i cant and he was like its not my cat (keep in mind his dad gave Lily to us and when we almost broke up a couple years ago he told me i couldnt take the cat). So i totally know how you feel

You both will get frustrated...and from personal experience having your own child is completely different than nieces, nephews, and siblings!!! Your man should not get upset cause you said he would get frustrated! All parents get frustrated you just have to take a break and then try to deal with the situation properly!

well you need to be very careful about what you say because with him freaking out on you means that he is actually thinking about how he is going to handle the whole baby thing..just like moms go through a faise were they think they wont be a good mom..guys go through it to.. and trust me it doesnt help when you try and tell him that you didnt mean it like that lol.. i go through it with my Fiance sometimes.. its hard i know but they go through all the emotional stuff that we go through.. so take it better than others..Just give him time..

Quoting Mindy 2008:“ You both will get frustrated...and from personal experience having your own child is completely different ... [snip!] ... get frustrated! All parents get frustrated you just have to take a break and then try to deal with the situation properly!”

Thank you! I let him know I posted something on here about the "fight" and then read your reply to him. He shook his head in a 'yes' motion and calming said "ok". It was an "ok" of understanding and maybe a little of defeat.   But hearing some one with a child already helped him to see what I was trying to say and take it seriously. So thanks again. -Angela-

Quoting RiCHARD JAMES' MOMMY!:“ well you need to be very careful about what you say because with him freaking out on you means that he ... [snip!] ... i know but they go through all the emotional stuff that we go through.. so take it better than others..Just give him time..”

I just read your reply to him too... he liked yours. lol. I think he somehow managed to think it made him seem "right". Thank you though... you are due in Aug. I'm due in Oct. and we're both engaged so he took what you said to heart. -Angela-

Quoting LuckyLime:“ I just read your reply to him too... he liked yours. lol. I think he somehow managed to think it made ... [snip!] ... Thank you though... you are due in Aug. I'm due in Oct. and we're both engaged so he took what you said to heart. -Angela-”

well just let him seem right lol.. just like when you go into labor..YOU are always right lol.. so he needs his turn to lol