Tubal Ligation? Should I?

I'm 22 years old and I am going to have my second baby in December. I already have a 2 year old daughter. Both my children will have different daddys which isn't bothering me. I was talking to my mom and she suggested that I get my tubes tied because apparently I'm attracted to the wrong types of guys and end up getting pregnant. She acts like it has happened hundreds of times.......I'm only on my second pregnancy! Anyway, I agree with her to some extent about it because if somewhere down the road I was another baby there is always babies that need to be adopted or foster care. But, I'm only 22! Would I be making the right decision? I know I have a while to go before I need to make a decision but I think it just may take me that long!!!

Please give me your input. Good or bad.

(And please nothing abut getting on birth control because I've tried 4 different ones and I get extremely sick for anyone that I have tried.)
(Oh and I used condoms with both of the suprise pregnancys.)

So please no smart a$$ comments.

I thought of doing it im 23I got the iud instead. Everyone I know that has gotten a tubal regreted it

i hear that too. i have three kids. 2 are from my ex who i was with for 7 yrs and my youngest from my b/f who i plan on marrying. some people see that as "having a bynch of kids by different men"  like im the only woman to end a relationship and be with someone else.

It's up to you, that is a big decision and none of us can make it for you. My advice is to get the iud Paragard, it doesn't use hormones.

That's a tough position. I know someone who was in a similar one--she got pregnant, and then married the dad. They then had two more unplanned babies and she got her tubes tied at 23. She is now 28 and she really regrets it. I hope this helps.

Speaking from experience, I say don't do it. I made that decision while pregs and I painfully regret it with all my heart. I'm 30, and I regret it. I hurt every day for doing it.

I'm torn on this as well. I have 2 kids from a boy (he's not a man in my eyes) I was with for 5 years. And I have a baby w/the man I hope to be with for the rest of my life. He doesn't want any more kids, and I don't either, but I AM only 25, and I'm not sure I'm ready to take that huge step. He doesn't understand one bit and just says "Get your tubes tied woman!" LOL

After I have my second (if I ever have a second) I'll be getting one. I've already made up my mind. I'm only 21 but I can't imagine having more than two. Plus I'm all for 0 population growth...

As far as I know most states will only approve such a procedure as permanent sterilization if you are over 24 OR have 3 kids... So you may not even be able to, ask your OB to find out. The reason for this is that they want to make sure there are a minimal amount of "Oops, I want more kids" cases, bc the reversal is very difficult, expensive and only sucessful in like 5% of cases. At 22 I would look into the dif inplants for BC, have you tried those?? You didn't mention which ones you had tried... I have major issues with hormonal bc, so I know how THAT feels. At 22 I would not want something that permanent myself, regardless of circumstances. I am getting it done NOW atfer my third at 27 because I am ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE I don't want anymore. While its wonderful that you would consider foster or adoption, those can both be very difficult and in the case of adoption expensive situations. I would wait, but thats JMO. Good luck to you hon.

My doctor told me no matter how many kids I have, she wouldn't do it at my age ( I'm 23).
It's not one of those things that can be undone easily, I honestly would try the iud, or something else as long term birth control. Also, the pill makes me barf horrifically for days on end, and I just started the nuva ring, and it's been amazing for me!

Quoting AndeeLee:“ I'm torn on this as well. I have 2 kids from a boy (he's not a man in my eyes) I was with for 5 years. ... [snip!] ... and I'm not sure I'm ready to take that huge step. He doesn't understand one bit and just says "Get your tubes tied woman!" LOL”

Tell him to get fixed lol

Quoting AndeeLee:“ I'm torn on this as well. I have 2 kids from a boy (he's not a man in my eyes) I was with for 5 years. ... [snip!] ... and I'm not sure I'm ready to take that huge step. He doesn't understand one bit and just says "Get your tubes tied woman!" LOL”

hahaa this is my situation down to a T except i was with my ex for 7 yrs and im 26.

i didnt think u could have one that young... im 24 and my doctor said i wasnt a candiate for it bc u have to be 25 maybe thats here or maybe thats just with medicade

Will doctors even do a tubal on someone that young?

I know it is hard to imagine your life any other way right now, but I wouldn't do anything permanent. I would try an IUD. They last up to 5 years and they make them with no hormones. Hopefully you will meet a great guy at 28 (or whatever) and you will want to have kids together... Think of a positive future, then take small steps to make it happen...

my doc will do it if you are 23 OR have 3kids