Still Love My Baby Father

Me and my baby father was togetha for 10 months. 2 days after i found out he as cheating and he left i found out i was 4weeks pregnant. now 7 months he is still with this woman and i still love and miss him. i no longer call him. i just feel as though he will come around wheneva but i still love him so much. i mean he has put her before me on mutiple occasins. he 20 shes 36. she is always tryna argue with me over him and there nothing but drama. now she treating him like dirt and i still have yet 2 turn my back on him. i had to leave in an ambulance cuz i was having pain at work and he didnt even call. he only calls if he wants or need somthin how can i still love a man like this. he is bipolar so he is even worse. I mean is there any thig i can do

nope , just wait for him to come back to you.

You're probably going to always love him...but the longer you are away from him the easier it will be to eal with. I still love my first and he is the father of my oldest...but I grew to accept that we can't be together for multiple reasons...and that's really all you can do is accept it.

nothing to do with the post but how do you pronounce your child's name?

You didn't fall in love over night so you shouldn't expect to fall out of love that quickly either. Love isn't like a light switch that can be turned on and off, it's a lot more complicated than that. For the rest of your life you are going to have a child with this man, that in itself will make it hard to get over him. You can't stress over it though. He's already made a choice and you can't make him change his mind. You have to worry about you and your babynow and what's best for the 2 of you. It's not going to be easy, but you'll eventually be ok. Good luck, if you need to talk pm me. Sorry you're hurting and I wish I had something better to say to try and lessen your pain.

yes cuz everyone says he loves me not her and he just on a money chase that he is gonna come back when i have the baby but then you gotta say wow he messed me over pretty bad and wasnt there through my entire pregnancy should i let him back i mean i want him but i dont you know. i lovethe man that used 2 do me so right. but i hate the man that left me so alone. i still havent seen one thing from him for my child. i have everything. and he hasnt given me nothing.

Avoid contact with him. Its the only way you will get over him. Apparently hes not interested in being a father anyway, so shed a tear and walk away. Good luck girl.

its Z-Tali-Yah

Quoting *Lindsey*:“ nope , just wait for him to come back to you.”

WHAT?!?! No, dont wait aroudn for him. As much as it hurts... I know it will, you have to try to move on. Go out with friends, date around. If he doesnt care now, he isnt going to care later. Dont put yourself through the pain. He is not worth it! Trust me, I waited around and it only kept happening over and over again. It doesnt stop. I hate to sound so blunt about it, but you need to forget about him...you can do better!!!

Quoting sands_sammy:“ WHAT?!?! No, dont wait aroudn for him. As much as it hurts... I know it will, you have to try to move ... [snip!] ... over and over again. It doesnt stop. I hate to sound so blunt about it, but you need to forget about him...you can do better!!!”

I know. and blunt is best in situtations like this. i kno my second trimester was so much better. i think cuz the hormone thing is coming back that i am takin it hard again like the 1st trimester. but i know when she arrives i will be alright thankx

Quoting Z'Taliyah's Mommy:“ its Z-Tali-Yah”

thats different. cute.

Quoting I ♥ Skylar:“ thats different. cute.”

thanx

Aw it's hard, but waiting around for someone who doesn't deserve you is definately not hte advice to take. My daughter's father left us when I was still pregnant, and I hate to say that I still love him and I am not sure I will ever be over him. I would have married him and spent the rest of my life with him. That doesn't mean I would ever invite him back into my life after what he has done. I love myself and my daughter too much to do that. Just accept how you feel, cherish the good times, but remember why you are no longer with him and move on! Work on feeling good about yourself and creating a relationship with your child.

okay i was kind of in a situation like this....my hubby...started sleeping with his friend and then they became bf/gf and she got pg and left him at around 3 mos pg decided she didnt love him and didnt want to be with him...well he never loved her thought basically nothing more of her than a get laid (he hadn't got any for over 2 years) so he called me pretty much the day she left he had wanted to be with me for 2 and a half years! so we started dating that very night...well 6 mos later that baby came and well now that we have been together 2 years she is now telling MY Motherin in law that she is just so heartbroken bc she just now realize she was never gonna get to be with MY husband..I knew she was in love with him after the baby was born even he did and he told her he wanted nothing to do with her he only wanted to be with me and to see his daughter. well to me she is just stupid SHE is the one who LEFT him not him leaving her. so she pretty much tried to make our lives miserable until we got married..she doesnt seem to bother us anymore thank God  .......so if youre in love with him and he isn;t with you....i dont mean to sound like a bitch but he isn't gonna come back to you just because youre having his baby..and my hubbys ex always through the baby in the picture....if he comes because he is in love with you then I'm happy for you if not..don't do what she did it's not worth if and she has wasted 2 years of her life trying to take my hubby away from me when she didnt have a chance in hell

one more thing....if he left you while youre pg...you deserve better than that..hope everything works out for ya!