so he is gone...

the father of my baby is gone. He has made the final decision to be away from her, but he still has the nerve to say he really wants her to have his last name. When I told him it wasnt happening he said well fine, I think we need to stop texting/talking... I promise this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through, and I dont know what I am going to do from now on... i dont even know if I want anything to do with this anymore

I'm so sorry! But You are strong.. I can tell because you stood up to him and told him that you would not give YOUR baby his last name!

If he wants to leave it is his loss. Be strong for you and your baby girl and forget him!!!

What do you mean you dont know if you want anything to with it?

Men [not all  ] are silly

It is his loss! And what is up with all these guys now wanting the responsibility, but wanting the baby to have THEIR last name? Ugh, boys.

take the last name and take the money......are you guys forgetting he still has to pay for this child......

Sorry...but I think you can do this. Just don't worry about him. He may/may not come around but at least you will have your little girl all to yourself and you CAN get child support from him, which your daughter will deserve because you will be able to give her more. You can do it and it will be very rewarding in the end. You will find someone else who WANTS to be a dad to your baby and then things will be a lot better. It just doesn't seem that way now.

Quoting LOVES MONKEYS:“ take the last name and take the money......are you guys forgetting he still has to pay for this child......”

No but the child doesnt need to have his last name for her to get child support,I'm dealing with this myself.

Quoting I Can Do This:“ the father of my baby is gone. He has made the final decision to be away from her, but he still has the ... [snip!] ... to go through, and I dont know what I am going to do from now on... i dont even know if I want anything to do with this anymore”

Well, unfortunately you don't have achoice. You will have a baby soon and it will always be partially his child as well. You will have to deal with him for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! Trust me, I know how much it sucks. I absolutely hate the father of my child. He is the biggest asshole alive. I haven't even seen him since before I knew I was pregnant. He has never contributed in any way and yet he has the nerve to tell me that I have to do what he wants and what is convenient for him after the baby is born. He even told me he wanted to be at the hospital when he's born and I told him absolutely not and have already let the hospital know as well. The only thing I can tell you, and I know this is easier said then done, (I really do) is to worry about yourself and the baby. Make sure you have everything in order, insurance, child support, etc. as much as you may hate him, he is going to be a part of your life from now on.
I hope you feel better honey!

Quoting babyboo.:“ No but the child doesnt need to have his last name for her to get child support,I'm dealing with this myself.”

but it makes it easier whne you take the rat bastard to court. 

Quoting babyboo.:“ No but the child doesnt need to have his last name for her to get child support,I'm dealing with this myself.”

You can name the child Michael Jackson if you want, it doesn't matter. I know I can give my baby any last name I want, the only restriction is the number of names allowed. Why should she have his last name? Theres no reason for it. And it does not affect child support or anything else. One has nothign to do with the other. Babyboo is right.

Keep being strong for yourself and your baby!!! I can so relate to what is happening to you, my baby's father vanished when I started suspecting I was pregnant and then when I was 7 months (til now) he argues that she should have his last name, and that it isn't fair if I don't let him meet her but he doesn't want to take any of the responsibility. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here!!!

Quoting MindyW:“ You can name the child Michael Jackson if you want, it doesn't matter. I know I can give my baby any ... [snip!] ... reason for it. And it does not affect child support or anything else. One has nothign to do with the other. Babyboo is right.”

 

Quoting LOVES MONKEYS:“ but it makes it easier whne you take the rat bastard to court. ”

Fuckkkkkk that,it'd be the biggest mistake I ever did make lol.

Quoting Bisonbird:“ It is his loss! And what is up with all these guys now wanting the responsibility, but wanting the baby to have THEIR last name? Ugh, boys.”

I don't get it either but I hear it a lot. the father of my child doesn't want to pay any medical bills and is only offering me 50 a month but he wants me to schedule visitation around his and his new girlfriends schedule. He also thinks that I should allow him to bring his 10 yr old and girlfriend with him when he comes to see the baby. I told him absolutely not. Show me a judge that will order that and then they can come into my home!! Men are assholes!!