Just a vent...

Due to some major issues in the past month I've had to move in with my husbands parents until we can get a place of our own. We just wanted to wait until after the baby comes so we won't have the stress of that too. Anyway, I have a vent about our situation I guess.. Had to put it somewhere, and I thought here would be good....

BJ, my husbands brother has 3 kids. KK is 5, Bubba is almost 3, and Billy is 19 months.
BJ and his wife Casey also live with us, along with their 3 kids. They wake up at about 7 and scream all day long. BJ and Casey work, so Brians mom watches them. She has several health problems so it's really hard for her to watch the 3 kids, clean the house after them and then make dinner. I try and help as much as I can, but she's also got her pride and really won't let me. Plus, I'm 9 months prego there isn't much I can do.

Anyway, when the parents are home their way of disciplining the kids is yelling and cussing and screaming. I can't stand that. I can't tell them what to do because they're their kids. During the day when I'm helping with them I try to keep my calm (it's hard with hormones and 3 bratty kids). I try to tell them to do something or not to for that matter and it doesn't work. I'm worried that when my baby gets there she'll never be able to sleep with all of the screaming going on and KK, the biggest one has a BIG problem with picking up the smaller ones. I'm worried that she will try and pick my baby up and end up hurting her if I'm not in the room. I trust that my husband won't let anything happen to her, and I know I won't but if his mom is watching her while I shower or something she can't exactly jump up and get her....

Casey's exact words were "beat their ass when they do something wrong" but I can't bring myself to do that. I feel bad if I even pop their hand if they hit each other or something. They're not my kids and I feel like I shouldn't have to be the one getting on to them, but nobody else will.

Does anyone know of any way I can get my point across without having to scream at them or spank them?

honestly the best way to deal with this problem is to get on the kids level. I know it sounds corney and I'll admit I tend to yell and scream sometimes too, no one is perfect and Everyone has bad days. The best way to dela with younger kids is to get eye to eye with them and talk like you care. Talk to them with a normal level of your voice (no yelling or high pitched) because it seems that is what they are used to from thier parents. Alot of times kids just need someone to listen to them and understand them. 3 kids that close in age they probably (especially the older girl) would love for some one-on-one attention from pretty much anyone but especially desire it from their parents, doesnt seem that they are getting it there, try see if that works. Instead of saying "dont hit your sister" or whatever try getting down (i know hard at your 9months along) to their level or sit by them on the couch & say somehting like"its not very nice to hit your sister how do you think that makes her feel?" will work well with the 5 year old im sure. if you get one calmed down some you can work out ways with the younger ones. if all they know is screaming & yelling that is what they do. Children mimic what they see.
Extremely long post sorry but hope helps ya dear

Quoting bubblezcasto:“ honestly the best way to deal with this problem is to get on the kids level. I know it sounds corney ... [snip!] ... screaming & yelling that is what they do. Children mimic what they see. Extremely long post sorry but hope helps ya dear”

It does a lot. Thank you so much.
I'm probably going to have to wait until after I have the baby to try though because right now with my hormones and mood swings I want to just smack her and go about my day. I don't! But sometimes I really want to.

I'll def. try that method. I feel so bad for them because it's really not their fault they act this way. It's just there isn't much I can do because they're not mine, or even blood related for that matter.

yeah i know how you feel. I have been that mother.. always yelling & screaming &one dayi realized that seemed thats why she always yelled and screamed.
Most of the reason i was always yelling was the stress level I was in with her father (who is now my ex-husband) she's now soo much happier since i changed my ways and split from her dad. Hopefully it will help you and yes it does take alot of patience