re: Had a Stillborn...Want to try again!

i as well had a stillborn at 20 weeks. and i also thought i wanted to get pregnant right away i felt as if it would help me.. my doctor told me at my 6 week check up that everything also looked fine and if i wanted to try again to go right a head. as i thought about it i seemed as thought that was the answer but it didnt happen. the more we tried the more i thought about my son that i lost. that happened in may 07. finally in november 07 we decided that we was going to stop not only was the pain and suffereing from losing my son still in my head the only thing my fiancee kept saying was we cant do this we cant just forget about everything and keep trying to cover it all up.. well we did stop and it did get easier to get over losing my little boy and now im 15 weeks pregnant and i couldnt be more happy that i waited almost a year i know its not long but at least i can say i didnt do it to try to forget what happened.

its honestly totally up to you.. i support you no matter what. but just think about it before you make any decisions.

hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently (in June 08 ) had a stillborn at 26 weeks and my husband and I are definitely ready to try again. I am going to wait at least 12 weeks before I start trying again. But then I also have to go through genetic counseling before I get the green light anyway. I believe God took my baby awaybecause he had problems as well. Good luck to you and may God bless you with another reaaallll soon!  

When i went to the doctor after my stillbirth he told me to wait at least 3 month because b4 it would lead to more complications such as miscarriage . So wait until its been 3 months I know its hard sometimes because you miss you baby...
When i lost mines i knew that god took him because he might have come with problems even when he was born the nurse told me that he was underweight and smaller than the other babies ....

Quoting MiniManda1453:“ I had a stillborn babygirl at 22 weeks. That was almost 9 weeks ago May 12, 2008. I miss mi Ava. But ... [snip!] ... to ealy to try again. My fiance and I are ready. We just dont know if we can. If anyone has any advice plz let me know. Thanku”

Honestly i think u should wait!!! just to make sure u r healthy enough so that this wont happen to u agian.. u have to be healthy physically and emotionallly.. let ur body get strong and enough and specially ur uterus.. if u try to soon ur uterus might not be able to carry the pregnancy and u can to truw this again.. just wait a few months and then try again.. mean while eat healthy and let ur body get really for another pregnancy.

I am soo sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through. I lost my little girl at 22 wk. June 15 2007. She was 12 in. long and 2.5 lb. she had a bad heart, which I had just found out 3 days before she passed awaywhen I had my fifth month ultrasound done. The first2-3 weeksafter she passed I didn't want to think about what happen. A month after I felt ok and wanted to have another baby. As I was looking through some papers and books that the hospital gave me,I read a section about wanting to get pregnant right after a loss. It suggested that I wait at least six months to get pregnant again not because of health reasons but because of mental reasons. You need to give yourself time to grieve over the loss of your baby. Trust me it is better to wait and give your self that time, then rush into it. because you will most likely end up thinking thatyour new baby will replace yourlost one. I know at this monent it sounds hard to do but trust me its worth it. It's already been a little more then a year since I lost her andfeel like I am ready to have anotherbaby. The reasonIfeel like thisis because it took me a whole year to be able to talk about her and not cry at the same time. The painwill always be there and I will never forget her, but the tears are gone and I am ready to move on.

Hoped this helped.
Thank you for sharing your story.

SIN

I would definitely wait a little bit. I had a stillborn at 40 weeks in April of 07 - a few weeks later I insisted that I was ready to try again but in all honesty I think I just wanted something to look forward to to take my mind off of the loss. However, nothing works to do that - trust me. Not to mention that I did get pregnant within about 10 weeks of my son being born and wound up having a miscarriage because they said my body just wasn't ready. My doctor told me to wait 2 full cycles and then try.. I didn't try but didn't prevent anything after my 6 week check up. I can assure you now though, even though I'm set to have a baby in 13 days by induction and everything has been going perfect - I'm still terrified every single day and I wouldn't wish this stress on anyone.. sometimes I think I'm going to have a nervous breakdown from the fear.. also, nothing has fixed the pain of losing my son. He's the first thing I think of when I wake up and every night I can't sleep without a teddy bear that we bought and named for him.. I still have my breakdowns over his death when I'm alone. I would give yourself a little more time than 9 weeks but that's just an opinion. I just wouldn't want anything else to cause you more stress or pain right now, you don't deserve it.

Quoting MiniManda1453:“ I had a stillborn babygirl at 22 weeks. That was almost 9 weeks ago May 12, 2008. I miss mi Ava. But ... [snip!] ... to ealy to try again. My fiance and I are ready. We just dont know if we can. If anyone has any advice plz let me know. Thanku”

I lost my daughter at 24w 3d and they tol dme to wait 3 to 6 months so we are waiting until January,

**Added**oh, and my doctor said you can still hav epregnancy symptoms up to 8 weeks, i think you are just passed that line because i lost Jaylynn May28tha nd im 7 weeks.. i think. ANYHOOTER! you also have to ask yourself if you are READY to have another baby, emoitionally and financially. We tried for our baby so my goal was i wanted a baby to take home. i didnt get that. so i am going to try again later. to give myself a mental break, my bodya nd boyfriend.

i lost my son on april 30 2008, at my 6 week checkup I was told that i could try again as soon as i wanted to. Having another baby right away seemed like the only thing that mattered to me, but then it hit me, I had just lost my son not 2 months before and I wasnt ready and i still not. I cry everyday for my son, and i thought to myself .... Do i really want to be carrying a baby when all i do is cry? the baby feels what i feel which is why i decided to wait untill i am fully healed *emotionally* because although my body has healed, my heart needs more time.... I think that you should do whatever you think is right for YOU .... I was just sharing my story..... I will keep you in my prayers.... good luck & god bless.