re: Had a Stillborn...Want to try again!

I thank everyone for the advice and sympathy. Thanks for really caring!

You just do whatever you feel is right

Why were you high risk?? And, I am confused (sorry) but the way you said that confused me....did you have her at the hospital??

I am high-risk cuz I have nutrion problems. Yeah I had her at the hospital.

Quoting MiniManda1453:“ Ok I have no idea how to reply to anyone seperately cuz I have never used those before. My docs do know ... [snip!] ... long and 15 counces. Say I got pregnant on accident again I wud have to deal with it but I am being very careful right now.”

u dont really sound emotionally ready right now..but i dont know you...i dont believe things happen to babies because something will eventually happen to them..i think thats a bad theory but whatever makes u feel better i guess...it was medical, so u have to take precautions asnd talk to your doc

The only thing I am confuzed about was the fact that less than a week ealier at my doc appointment everything was perfectly fine!

Hmmmm...that's just so weird!!! I wonder what happened....Would you see the same doctor again if you do become pregnant?

Quoting MiniManda1453:“ The only thing I am confuzed about was the fact that less than a week ealier at my doc appointment everything was perfectly fine!”

first let me say.. i am deeply sorry for your loss.. but i do believe you need to give it some time.. focus on you and your husband .. then maybe later on this year try again if you still feel ready.. sometimes when these things happen women feel the need to replace the baby in some way.. and want to be pregnant again.. i know that i would feel that way.. but it is completely up to you.. but i would definatly make an app. with your doc/ob and discuss this with him/her.. bring your husband along so you can all make the decision together

Yeah I would probably see the same doctor again. Like I listened to her heart beat and everything. See I didnt know that I cud have the placenta otopsied on no idea how to spell that but I def wasnt going to have the baby otopsied on so. I go to see my specialist this Monday and Im going to talk to her about it. Mi reg doc told me instead of previtimans in pill form they wud give me shots. I have problems with mi digestive system so they think it wud be better for me to just receive them through mi blood stream. And thats the only thing I know they are going to help me with so far. I had told my doc that I was plannin by the 6 month after the loss I wanted to try again and he didnt have any problems with that so idk. But I wanna see what my specialist say first. Other than that I am pretty sure I am ready.. Before I go to bed everynight all I think about is how much I want to be pregnant and want a baby. I think I deserve a baby because I missed out on my first one.

sorry for you loss, when i had stilborn twins i got pregnant as soon as i felt ready even tho some thought i was crazy and should wait!i think if you feel ready then try again but only if you and your partner are ok with it

Quoting MiniManda1453:“ Yeah I would probably see the same doctor again. Like I listened to her heart beat and everything. See ... [snip!] ... I think about is how much I want to be pregnant and want a baby. I think I deserve a baby because I missed out on my first one.”

Well, if you think you are ready then all I can say is good luck and I hope everything works out for you!!!! But, def. talk with your doc first and all that good stuff. Again....good luck and sorry for your loss!!!

I had a stillborn at 35 weeks and 9 weeks later was definetely too soon for me to even chance going through a pregnancy. You will be scared in your next pregnancy and once you have the baby you will always wonder about your first. I waited until 9 mths after my loss to have another baby and that was still hard.

Quoting AriJ&?sMommy:“ I had a stillborn at 35 weeks and 9 weeks later was definetely too soon for me to even chance going through ... [snip!] ... baby you will always wonder about your first. I waited until 9 mths after my loss to have another baby and that was still hard.”

That is terrible...you have to be strong to deal with something like that...and honestly I don't think I could ever do it!! Sorry for your loss....

I will be honest...

My son was still born at 23 weeks, and logically you will need at LEAST a few cycles before you start trying again or your body may not be ready to handle another pregnancy... And you will want to be EXTRA careful especially because you don't know what happened with your daughter... I would wait until they have given you some answers before trying again to avoid the same thing happening again...

As for the emotional aspect, I know that i'm not you and therefor don't know what you and your fiance are feeling.. But going off my experience (and we were 'prepared' for our sons death ahead of time), I can tell you that you are not ready emotionally... Believe me, I know how ridiculously strong the desire for another baby is, don't get me wrong... But you need to remember that if you get pregnant again and decide that you're not ready and the wounds are too fresh, you can't change your mind...
Often times the grief will hit you months later... and if you are pregnant when that happens there is no telling how you will feel...

I would say to wait a few months, there is no need to rush into it if it is something you really want, and for the right reasons...

Sorry for the loss of your little girl...
- Jess

I am sorry for your lost. I lost my son last july at 38 weeks along. he was stillborn. it was caused by Fetal-Maternal blood transfusion. all his blood with through his umblical cord to me. it has been a year since i lost him but not a day goes by that i do wish he was here with me. I knew what happened to my son and by me getting pregant again didnt increase my chance of it happeing again. what happened to my son is very rare but can happen anytime throught out the pregnancy. Three days before i lost my son, he was prefectly fine. I did get pregnant pretty much right after i lost my first son. but my doctor told me i was fine. and i had my period before i got pregnant the second time. i had nine weeks off last year after i lost my son. and i was pregnant by the time i went back to work. i had my second son this past may. And i was watched closely. NST weekly from 30 week til i had him. If you were high risk with you first you might what to talk to your doctor before you start trying again right now. especially since you dont know what happened to your daughter. if you need anything just let me know.

melissa