Quoting Tara Maureen:“ Yeah... I know what you mean. My first I lost between 12-16 weeks (not sure how far along I was). They ... [snip!] ... so upset over seeing pregnant women at the stage I would have been, or getting teary eyed while walking down the baby aisle...”

Yes that is very hard. My baby sister is pregnant right now and due the same week I would have been with my first loss. It's hard for me not to be jealous.

Anyhow... thanks ladies for your responses.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Yes that is very hard. My baby sister is pregnant right now and due the same week I would have been ... [snip!] ... week I would have been with my first loss. It's hard for me not to be jealous. Anyhow... thanks ladies for your responses.”

My sister is due 3 days before I was due with my March baby... so I can relate, lol. I try not to be jealous or critical especially since she's not really capable of raising a child right now. It's not her fault and I have to keep reminding myself of that so that she can be happy.

Quoting Tara Maureen:“ My sister is due 3 days before I was due with my March baby... so I can relate, lol. I try not to be ... [snip!] ... capable of raising a child right now. It's not her fault and I have to keep reminding myself of that so that she can be happy.”

OMG...SAME situation here.
Sister has no job, no insurance and is having the time of her life. Here I am. Married, having trouble TTC, two loses, working my way through college and working full time and I cant get shit...

I wouldn't. Yes, it's weird to me. How do you know what's a blood clot and what's fetal tissue? (In the case of what? 7 Weeks? Embryonic tissue)

I know the pain of a miscarriage. I've had one at 5 weeks and one close to my 2nd trimester. Neither time did I go fishing, pick out what I -thought- was possible embryonic/fetal tissue, and go bury it in my back yard. It was hard enough knowing I lost a child, let alone digging around for it in the middle of my tears.

If that's how you cope, fine. IMO, it's weird, strange, bizzare. Should I keep going?

Bash me if you want =) But I think you need help if you're out burying blood clots.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ OMG...SAME situation here. Sister has no job, no insurance and is having the time of her life. Here ... [snip!] ... Here I am. Married, having trouble TTC, two loses, working my way through college and working full time and I cant get shit...”

Yep... it sucks...

Who cares if it was before ten weeks, if it makes that girl feel better, who cares.

I don't think it's weird.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Thank you! See, we were friends with this young lady and we tried suggesting to her that she get some ... [snip!] ... a large bloodclot. The embryo would have been hard to see unless you went sorting through everything. It's just a long story.”

I disagree, an embryo at 6 weeks is definately more than just a blood clot as shown in this picture **WARNING IMAGE MAY BE UPSETTING TO SOME PEOPLE ** http://www.jillstanek.com/archives/bethanyf.jpg I don't think there is anything wrong with her wanting to bury the embryo, it's not something I would personally do though.

Quoting OzMum2B:“ I disagree, an embryo at 6 weeks is definately more than just a blood clot as shown in this picture **WARNING ... [snip!] ... I don't think there is anything wrong with her wanting to bury the embryo, it's not something I would personally do though.”

Right, but that is an embryo that obviously has been cleaned off.

Quoting OzMum2B:“ I disagree, an embryo at 6 weeks is definately more than just a blood clot as shown in this picture **WARNING ... [snip!] ... I don't think there is anything wrong with her wanting to bury the embryo, it's not something I would personally do though.”

I agree, but when you're in the throws of a m/c that early on, it's hard to distinguish tissue from blood.

Quoting Tara Maureen:“ I agree, but when you're in the throws of a m/c that early on, it's hard to distinguish tissue from blood.”

Also very true. I cant even tell you how many large clots I passed, any of which could have been fetal tissue.

True, but when I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks I could see the embryo and that was the most upsetting part for me.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Ok ladies, a few of us are being called "weird" because we think that another young woman is "weird" ... [snip!] ... do you think it's weird to bury an embryo in the ground after a miscarraige that occurs early on during pregnancy? ~Terra”

why is this weird? doesn't every mother have a right to grieve and say goodbye in her own way???


in my religion everything should be returned to the earth to continue the cycle of life so, i would personally want the same.

I luva ya terra, but I think this post is really cruel even if you aren't giving names, the mama will be able to read this. This is the absolute last thing i'd expect from the mafia. I'm really dissapointed in this.

Quoting Monkyn&Coco'sMama (HippyB:“ why is this weird? doesn't every mother have a right to grieve and say goodbye in her own way??? ... [snip!] ... the mama will be able to read this. This is the absolute last thing i'd expect from the mafia. I'm really dissapointed in this.”

Apparently you havent been in TDC following the mafia ladies and this person we are referring to. She wont read this anyway b/c she doesnt come out of TDC b/c she knows people here dont like her nor do they trust her.
If you knew what she has put us through, you'd know that she has said some pretty mean things about our angel babies and such.

Sorry if I offended anyone, BUT this girl thinks she walks on water and we just wanted to see if anyone else found it weird.

I KNOW people are free to do what they want and need to do to make them feel better. Thats not what I asked.

I am kind of torn of what I would do. I think flushing them down the toilet is morbid. I mean come on it is your child but burying it in the yard like an animal is morbid to. In both of my M/C the dr. took them to do tests on and I never got them back.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Apparently you havent been in TDC following the mafia ladies and this person we are referring to. She ... [snip!] ... some pretty mean things about our angel babies and such. Sorry if I offended anyone, BUT this girl thinks she walks on water.”

i don't go to tdc unless given a link   I'm sorry if she has been less than loving towards you ladies. god knows how much love and respect i have for all of you but, don't know if fighting fire w/fire is the way to go about it.

no offense taken. this just caught me off guard.