Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ So lets say that you had a m/c at7 weeks and the contents came out in the toilet or in your panties.... you would reach in there and pic up whatever came out and go bury it in your yard????”

I would i saw growing up how hard it was on my mom and our family i wish i had a place to go to put flowers out for my lost siblings

Quoting momofthree1523:“ Well i have had a m/c and i wouldnt do that i mean really when it happened i was so mad at myself and ... [snip!] ... that was farther along than i was which was only about 7 weeks or so. I dunno something i wouldnt do but hey to each there own.”

I agree. To each their own. Whatever you need to do to get you through your day.

If I had a miscarriage that happened before 10 weeks, I personally would not do that.

ButI would NEVER say that someone is weird if that is their way of dealing with it. That is totally their choice.

And I really dont like to hear of miscarriages being downplayed or mocked in any way by suggesting "reaching in and grabbing contents"...Sorry, but things like that bother me.
ETA: I know you werent mocking it....I just dont know how to get across what I mean. It just upsets me I guess. Sorry.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ So lets say that you had a m/c at7 weeks and the contents came out in the toilet or in your panties.... you would reach in there and pic up whatever came out and go bury it in your yard????”

Speaking from experience, no. I'd flush... but that's just me b/c at that stage (I m/c'd at 6 weeks in March) I wouldn't have been able to tell blood from tissue...

Quoting MommaOfAngels:“ If I had a miscarriage that happened before 10 weeks, I personally would not do that. ButI would NEVER ... [snip!] ... me. ETA: I know you werent mocking it....I just dont know how to get across what I mean. It just upsets me I guess. Sorry.”

I'm sorry. I just didnt want to go into any details that would give away this person we are talking about. But I understand where you are coming from.

Quoting Tara Maureen:“ Speaking from experience, no. I'd flush... but that's just me b/c at that stage (I m/c'd at 6 weeks in March) I wouldn't have been able to tell blood from tissue...”

Thank you!
See, we were friends with this young lady and we tried suggesting to her that she get some professional help after months passed and she still was VERY depressed. She went all psycho on our asses. She started making fun of our angel babies that we all lost later on in pregnancy and hers wasnt even out of the first trimester. (A loss is a loss, but to lose a child later on is worse) IMO...

She named them and said they both were girls. And we tried to ask her how she knew when she wasnt even past 8 weeks yet.It would have still been a large bloodclot. The embryo would have been hard to see unless you went sorting through everything. It's just a long story.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Thank you! See, we were friends with this young lady and we tried suggesting to her that she get ... [snip!] ... large bloodclot. The embryo would have been hard to see unless you went sorting through everything. It's just a long story.”

I don't think there's anything wrong with burying the remains/ naming the babies if that's how she can help herself. But it sounds like there may be some other underlying issues.

Quoting Tara Maureen:“ I don't think there's anything wrong with burying the remains/ naming the babies if that's how she can help herself. But it sounds like there may be some other underlying issues.”

 

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ I'm sorry. I just didnt want to go into any details that would give away this person we are talking about. But I understand where you are coming from. ”

I know. No need to apologize. Im sorry too though.

Its just such a touchy subject. Im sure you know that though.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ Thank you! See, we were friends with this young lady and we tried suggesting to her that she get some ... [snip!] ... a large bloodclot. The embryo would have been hard to see unless you went sorting through everything. It's just a long story.”

I've had a miscarriage. After months of TTC. It was early, and never would it have crossed my mind to bury my heavy period anywhere...

And that lady does indeed sound like she needs psychological help. I understand everyone grieves differently, and I'm not out to belittle her or her sorrow, but there is such a thing as taking things TOO far.

Quoting MommaOfAngels:“ I know. No need to apologize. Im sorry too though. Its just such a touchy subject. Im sure you know that though. ”

O I do know. I've lost two children as well. One at 16 weeks and one at 21.4.
I went into a panic attack when I lost the one at 16 weeks. He/She must have passed earlier b/c it wasnt as big as a 16 week old fetus.
M/C and abortions are very touchy subjects for me. But we wont go there. I'd like to leave the drama out of this one. It REALLY pisses me off when people who havent been down that road try to spout off crap when they dont even know what it feels like to walk a mile in our shoes.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ O I do know. I've lost two children as well. One at 16 weeks and one at 21.4. I went into a panic ... [snip!] ... who havent been down that road try to spout off crap when they dont even know what it feels like to walk a mile in our shoes.”

Yeah, that many months is totally different. Happened to a good friend of mine. She got a certificate from the hospital with foot prints and all. It was a sad, sad time.
I'm sorry you've been thru all that.

I don't think that I would personally do it. But I think that if that's how they deal with it then it's their business.

Quoting Amy78:“ Yeah, that many months is totally different. Happened to a good friend of mine. She got a certificate ... [snip!] ... She got a certificate from the hospital with foot prints and all. It was a sad, sad time. I'm sorry you've been thru all that.”

Ehh, I am too. What makes me weak, only makes me stronger! I have my sons footprints too. They are locked in our fireproof safe.

Quoting ~Terra~ CowgirlUP:“ O I do know. I've lost two children as well. One at 16 weeks and one at 21.4. I went into a panic ... [snip!] ... who havent been down that road try to spout off crap when they dont even know what it feels like to walk a mile in our shoes.”

Yeah... I know what you mean. My first I lost between 12-16 weeks (not sure how far along I was). They told me the sex, but I didn't offer the option to do anything else. The others were really early on (5 and 6 weeks respectively). I'm still very very upset about my last two as they were back to back. Some people just don't get why I sometimes get so upset over seeing pregnant women at the stage I would have been, or getting teary eyed while walking down the baby aisle...