*Vent* OMG, just LEAVE ME ALONE!

I'm so incredibly irritated right now. Okay, so I'm almost 14 weeks (by my dates, almost 16 weeks) and my stupid husband is driving me absolutely NUTS! Every single day, he tells me that I need to be working out. "Nae.. you REALLY should hit the gym today." "Hey, I signed you up for a few classes at the gym today." "You really need to start working out again.."
A little background. He works at the gym. He LIVES at the gym. All of his friends? Yeah. Stupid guys from the gym. I used to be there every day right along with him. Until I lost all of my energy, otherwise known as THE FIRST TRIMESTER OF PREGNANCY! And then, I lost my job making over 70k a year (for the stupidest reason ever, btw), along with my health insurance. Then, after already being approved for unemployment, was denied. I have a mortgage, a lexus, five credit cards, and a massive amount of bills. And now, nothing in savings. *sigh* And a baby on the way. With one income that was nowhere near mine. No place will hire me because I'm pregnant, despite my jaw-dropping resume and all my experience, and I would have to quit in about four months anyway (you have to work for a company for a year before you're eligible for maternity leave or FMLA) and be left without an income for as long as I want to stay home with baby.
Because of all the stress and trauma, I've lost weight.. I'm about three pounds under my pre-preg weight of 115, even though I'm bigger. And yet he still badgers me multiple times a day to go to the gym. I don't want to lose any more weight - I'm already freaked out about it enough! I just feel like he's repulsed by seeing me looking bigger (even though I weigh less) and wants me back to the toned, sexy thing I used to be. I know this isn't in my head either.. when I first told him I was pregnant, the second thing he said to me, behind "Please let this be a mean joke.." was "Promise me something. Promise me you'll lose the weight immediately after."

Okay, sorry for the long venting post. I just needed to get that off my chest.

Don't tell them your pregnant til they hire you.

Tell your boyfriend to shove his gym up his ass. Pregnancy doesnt mean fat. & I lost all my pregnant weight 2 weeks after I had my daughter...WITHOUT a damn gym. He needs to leave you alone and quit stressing you out.

Wow that is really shallow of him.

My DH is nagging me about the gym too e.e I tild him he can go, I am happy right where I am.

When I was preggo though he as cool wiht it.

Sounds like your man is a little TOO into appearence and needs a reality check. He should not be telling you that you need to workout ot anything during pregnancy. Its your body not his. If my man ever signed me up for somethign at the gym his ass would be sleeping on the street!

I agree with Rileyxo(MAEK). It's not legally required, plus they can't discriminate against you bc you are preggers.  Now then, your husband is an ASS! Your body HAS to grow and gain weight while pregnant to support the life GROWING inside of you. I can see what kind of stress you are under, you certainly don't need unnecessary stress added to it all. Sheesh!

Quoting Nae and Baby:“ I'm so incredibly irritated right now. Okay, so I'm almost 14 weeks (by my dates, almost 16 weeks) and ... [snip!] ... me you'll lose the weight immediately after." Okay, sorry for the long venting post. I just needed to get that off my chest.”

Yuck yuck yuck.  I'm sorry but that's the saddest stuff I have ever read.  He doesn't seem to care about the baby, just having you be his barbie doll.  You are making a baby.  You have to stay healthy for the baby.  You will put on a little weight.  Just because your pregnant does not mean you are going to become obese like me.  I think you are beautiful and when your little belly starts getting bigger you will be even more beautiful.  Good luck.

Wow has he always been such a shallow prick about your physical appearance? I mean damn if he thinks you are "gross" now, which you are SO not, what about in like 16wks? What about when you actually gain weight and get stretchmarks and possibly cellulite? Pregnancy is a time when it is important to stay healthy but that doesn't include working out, not for everyone at least. You need to talk to him, seriously...a lot of major issues could come up from his way of thinking.

I am sorry, but your hubby sounds like a jerk.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Sounds like your man is a little TOO into appearence and needs a reality check. He should not be telling ... [snip!] ... pregnancy. Its your body not his. If my man ever signed me up for somethign at the gym his ass would be sleeping on the street!”

 

Quoting Rileyxo[MAEK]:“ Don't tell them your pregnant til they hire you.”

Exactly. Don't tell them. You don't have to.
And just give your husband a good kick in the ass or in the balls. That will fix him. Haha.

Tell him the gym has gotten to his head a bit too much!!! YOU ARE FREAKIN PREGNANT....HELLO?!?!

Awwww.... I'm so sorry chick! I've found that pregnancy this time that is supposed to be th ebest time of your life, it tends to be the most stressful.... Money has been my #1 problem both times... Things get better, its just horrible waiting for it to get better.

First of all, if he loves you, he'll love you for who you are, not what you look like. You're about to be the mother of his child for pete sakes!!! Second...you're pregnant!!! There's a big difference between fat and pregnant!! And yes, you're going to gain weight. The amount you gain you can control so you don't over do it but, you don't want to under do it either! I know you already know this. And I'm completely sure you want a healthy baby. Tell him to kiss your gym ass...you're too tired. Second trimester if you feel a little bit more engergetic then, do what your doctor clears you to do. Don't worry about him being repulsed because you "look bigger" or you'll get bigger. Most men (I'm bitter right now so you'll have to excuse the venom) are thrilled and love the shape of their wife when they're pregnant because of what they're carrying inside them....a miracle!!!