LOSER. =/ VENT

im almost 30 weeks pregnant. my boyfriend just quit his job. he lied to me and said he had money saved up. he didnt. fucking asshole. were broke. he sold one of his trucks so we could have some money to pay bills and stuff and what did he do with it? humm? spent all of it in a day! $1200 in a fucking day. on what? a new fucking motor for his damn car. yep. a fucking car is more important that taking care of his family and unborn child. what does he expect to do when the baby is born. i cant buy diapers with my looks you know! damn. i just dont get it? sould i stay with him? i asked him the other day if he wanted to do anything with his life.you know what he said? ehh i dont know. WTF! im already signed up for collage and shit. and all he does is go hang out with his fucking friends. what a fucking bum. damn.

Do you have a job, or is he completely supporting you? You definitely need to find a way that you're not dependent on him, so taht you can atleast take care of yourself and your baby! It's awful to be dependent because then you're pretty much trapped. Sorry to say it, but sounds like you'd be better off without him...he obviously doesnt get what being a parent means! Sorry you have to deal with that stress hun!

I'm so sorry. I'd be stressed, too!  

Is staying with him enhancing your life in any way? Or is being a single mom going to be virtually the same as being in a relationship with him? If there aren't some heavy "pros" in the column to outweight the "cons" you just listed, you might have your answer right there.

And for what it's worth, you could get diapers on your looks if the world worked like that.  

Hang in there! I'm sorta in your situation... My bf doesn't have a job and hasn't for a little over a month. He has a mustang that doesn't run and he refuses to sell the performance parts off of it because he might fix it up. Some times guys need to grow up!

I would leave him. He sounds like a loser to me but IDK. I hope everything works out for you. You'll do what's best for your child. The decision will come easy when you think of the baby. Good luck and I'm sorry your going through this.

Sounds like he's not ready to step up to the plate as a dad or a real man....if I were in your shoes I would not stay with him. People like him just don't change and shape up because they are gonna be fathers.

Quoting carsonlia:“ Do you have a job, or is he completely supporting you? You definitely need to find a way that you're ... [snip!] ... be better off without him...he obviously doesnt get what being a parent means! Sorry you have to deal with that stress hun!”

its ok. yea i had a job up untill a week ago. then my doctor said it would be best for me not to work for the rest of my pregnancy. so im kindof stuck for now.

Yep. This sucks. Fe needs a reality check man.

well, my SO was like that while I was pregnant. He probably spent 20 bucks on the baby before he was born.

Maybe it hasn't hit him yet. It's like, we become mothers when we're pregnant and men become fathers after the baby is born. You never know, he could be totally different.

My son's father was an asshole while I was pregnant, but did a complete turn around.

Quoting jnazmom:“ I'm so sorry. I'd be stressed, too!   Is staying with him enhancing your life in any way? Or is being ... [snip!] ... your answer right there. And for what it's worth, you could get diapers on your looks if the world worked like that.  ”

 

I understand your frustration! My child's father has a job but it only pays enough to cover his own bills--not enough for a baby also. To this day he still doesnt have a second job. I couldnt deal w/ the stress so I had to let him go. I cant be w/ someone when they are not taking care of their responsibility. How can I ever respect you?? So its been hard going through this pregnancy by myself but thankfully, I have the support of my family. I only rely on myself now b/c thats all I can control. I cant afford to get all upset and spend extra energy on my child's father for not doing what is needed. We HAVE to get along for our daughter's sake but at the same time, I'm not going to be with you and act like everything is ok. I'm just not one to settle....however hard those decisions may be. Be stong and make the decision that will be best for you and your child. You deserve to be happy. A significant other should add to your life....not take away from it!!!