So sad

Not sure if I should post this here but, it does have to do with relationships. I know some ladies have been following my posts so, this is kind of the addenum.
I finished cleaning out his dresser drawers today and boxed all his stuff up from his bathroom. Yeah, I know, I should've made him do it but, the less time he's in my house and near me the better. The "he" I'm referring to is my soon to be ex-husband. Well, I have some better names for him than that, but, I'll keep it clean and call him my "children's father". That's all he is to me now.
Anyway, I've had baby stuff in bags in the corner of my bedroom because I didn't have anywhere else to put them. So, I decided to make some room and get them out of the bags. I put the stuff I do have in his empty dresser drawers. It occured to me as I was doing it how damn sad it was. Here I am, almost 8 months pregnant and putting my unborn child's stuff away. Something I thought we'd do together when it got closer to time. I know it sounds trivial but, it was something that would've meant alot to me.
I know it'll be even worse when I have to put together the baby bed, swing, bouncy seat and all that together by myself too. Because I know I'll be thinking then, as I was thinking a little while ago, that instead of being here doing this stuff, he's shacked up and probably laid up with his girlfriend.
My therapist told me today I need to sit down and go ahead and have a big bawl fest. Not over him but, just over all my feeling. Help me to kind of purge them out a little so I don't get too over done with them. And I know she has a point. I cried the other day for my daughter when he told her he was leaving. Just because he broke my daughter's heart. But, right now, I just can't seem to find the tears for even myself. Thanks for reading. Just had to get this out of my mind.

Oh, I'm so sad for you. How hard it must be to be doing the things you thought you'd have a partner in while you prepare for your new baby.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Not sure if I should post this here but, it does have to do with relationships. I know some ladies have ... [snip!] ... But, right now, I just can't seem to find the tears for even myself. Thanks for reading. Just had to get this out of my mind.”

I remember reading the other post, its the only one I've read besides this one.

I don't know the whole story but I think its crappy of him to be leaving you at this point and moving in with his girlfriend... he should have been man enough to let you know things weren't working for him before he got a girlfriend and before he got your pregnant again.

As for the tears... don't worry about trying to find them. When its time and you're ready they will come and they won't stop when you want them to. Which is a good thing because it is good to let things out.

For now I would just focus on you, your daughter and unborn child. Things will be okay.

Bless your sweet little heart!

I'm sorry that you are hurting. If there was something, anything, that I could say to make you cry just to feel better, I would. Men suck let's pretend we just keyed his car and busted the lights out. I feel a little bit better how 'bout you?

I'm so sorry. Things will get better. Easier at least.

I was alone when i had my first daughter. My bf left me when i was 6 months pregnant. I felt the same way. It was hard. I had all my friends over to help me put stuff together and we talked about how much of an ass he was. It actually made me feel better, and it was kinda fun since we had no idea how to put anything together.

Quoting CynthiaRenee:“ I'm sorry that you are hurting. If there was something, anything, that I could say to make you cry just ... [snip!] ... I would. Men suck let's pretend we just keyed his car and busted the lights out. I feel a little bit better how 'bout you?”

Well, I have entertained the idea of spray painting "two bit whore" on the side of her car and "lying, cheating, no good bastard" on the side of his truck. But, I'd end up in jail and that would make them both happy.

Oh my....you broke my heart. I'm am literally in tears for you right now! You seem like you are being very strong.

Quoting babygaga_mommy:“ I remember reading the other post, its the only one I've read besides this one. I don't know the whole ... [snip!] ... because it is good to let things out. For now I would just focus on you, your daughter and unborn child. Things will be okay.

Thanks. I see it the way you do too. I've just got to come to grips with eveything. I hasn't been a week yet so, I know it'll take time. This pregnancy wasn't planned and the way he told it he planned to leave and then, I got pregnant. My way of thinking is the same as yours. Why wait til now? I can understand the not being happy part. What I can't understand is why start a relationship with someone while you're still married to your pregnant wife. Tell me you're unhappy, leave and then go out and do your thing. That's men for you I guess.

Quoting ♥ Shizzle ♥:“ Oh my....you broke my heart. I'm am literally in tears for you right now! You seem like you are being very strong.”

Thank you. I'm trying very hard to be.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Well, I have entertained the idea of spray painting "two bit whore" on the side of her car and "lying, ... [snip!] ... and "lying, cheating, no good bastard" on the side of his truck. But, I'd end up in jail and that would make them both happy.”

Don't do it to their vehicles put a notice in your local paper. "So and so is a whore that sleeps with married men, she totally broke woman code of don't sleep with a man if you could break up a family." and "Biggest prick alive, {insert name here}leaves pregnant wife and child to be with two-bit whore." Consider it a public service announcement. Try to smile. All of this stress is no good for you and baby.

Quoting Star77:“ I was alone when i had my first daughter. My bf left me when i was 6 months pregnant. I felt the same ... [snip!] ... much of an ass he was. It actually made me feel better, and it was kinda fun since we had no idea how to put anything together.”

Thanks for sharing your story. Gives me some hope to all this. I wish I had the luxury of having close friends around but, I really have no one. My mother's health is fragile and my sister and I don't get along. So, I guess it'll be and my oldest daughter trying to figure it out together.

Quoting CynthiaRenee:“ Don't do it to their vehicles put a notice in your local paper. "So and so is a whore that sleeps with ... [snip!] ... with two-bit whore." Consider it a public service announcement. Try to smile. All of this stress is no good for you and baby.”

It's funny you say that. When I explained to my therapist today what was going on her first reaction was "well that no good slut!" Supposedly he lied to her and told her we were already seperated. I told him if he didn't tell her he lied, then I would. She said she pretty well figured it out (well, DUH! he's still wearing his wedding ring and living in the house with me!) So, tells you the caliber of person she is. I told him that he may have started it but, she did nothing to stop it. There is such a thing as saying no.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Not sure if I should post this here but, it does have to do with relationships. I know some ladies have ... [snip!] ... But, right now, I just can't seem to find the tears for even myself. Thanks for reading. Just had to get this out of my mind.”

Hey, girl. I feel for you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. When the time comes for you to cry, just go with it and let it all out. And whatever you do, always remember that whateverit was thatcaused your soon-to-be ex to leave, it had to do with HIS own problems, not you. You're a worthwhile person. Don't let his crappiness make you feel any less worthwhile.