So aggravated...vent
1270 postsposted 9th Jul
Ok, I have a friend who recently found out she is pregnant. She basically got pregnant on her honeymoon while on bc. They weren't planning on having anymore children because she has 1 and he has 2 already. She keeps writing to me telling me how terrible it is to be sick and tired and how she just wants all this to go away.Don't get me wrong, she is now happy to be having this baby even though it was a shocker. But, she doesn't know that I have been TTC since Feb 07 and had a m/c in June 08. I am trying to be sympathetic, but all I can manage to say to her is "be thankful your baby is healthy" and "there are lots of people who would love to be pregnant even if itmeant being sick." I don't know what else to say without blurting out my whole story and making her feel even worse.
quoteI'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
7391 postsposted 9th Jul
"I've been trying over a year and a half and don't want to hear your bitchass complain, whorebag!"
What, too mean?
I'd just be honest and say that you're happy she's pregnant but you'd give anything to be in her position because of your struggles to concieve and your m/c. It's not about making her feel worse, it's about making her aware that there are way worse things than a morning barf.
quoteWhat, too mean?
I'd just be honest and say that you're happy she's pregnant but you'd give anything to be in her position because of your struggles to concieve and your m/c. It's not about making her feel worse, it's about making her aware that there are way worse things than a morning barf.
I have 3 kids & live in Wisconsin
46 postsposted 9th Jul
I understand what your feeling but pretty much all pregnant women complain about something along the way! Just try to be happy for her and hope for the best for yourself, being bitter about it wont help things, treat people the way you would want to be treated if you were in theyre situation.
I am sorry about you not having good luck with TTC but hopefully things will look up for you!
quoteI am sorry about you not having good luck with TTC but hopefully things will look up for you!
I have 1 child & live in Semmes, Alabama
1673 postsposted 9th Jul
aaww im sorry to here that dont worry tho, ur time will come.. ***babydust to u***
quoteI'm due December 22nd (a boy) & live in Texas
1015 postsposted 9th Jul
Quoting ** trying again **: Ok, I have a friend who recently found out she is pregnant. She basically got pregnant on her honeymoon ... [snip!] ... even if itmeant being sick." I don't know what else to say without blurting out my whole story and making her feel even worse.after I had my first miscarriage our family found out that my sister was preg and my grandmother decided to rub it in my mom's face and of course that got back to me. it's hard dealing with losing one and having someone else get pregnant. she was greatful that she was pregnant but I know how much it sucks.
I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in California
22 postsposted 9th Jul
1st Im sorry to hear of your loss but if shes your friend then you should tell her you shouldnt go through it alone maybe then you can both be understanding of how the other feels.
quoteI'm due January 4th & live in Lake Worth, Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting JenInWpb: 1st Im sorry to hear of your loss but if shes your friend then you should tell her you shouldnt go through it alone maybe then you can both be understanding of how the other feels.
I am kinda scared to tell her about my situation because no one really knows except my immediate family. I totally agree though, I think it would help us to understand each other. I don't want her to feel like I am giving her the cold shoulder when she comes to me.
I'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
posted 9th Jul
I was very sick in my 1st trimester I lost 15 pounds I even had to go to the hospital for dehydration so I know how it feels to want it to go away but i never wanted my baby to go away just the morning sickness
quoteI'm due January 4th & live in Lake Worth, Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting jnazmom: "I've been trying over a year and a half and don't want to hear your bitchass complain, whorebag!" ... [snip!] ... m/c. It's not about making her feel worse, it's about making her aware that there are way worse things than a morning barf.
LOL, when I first starting reading your post I was like "sorry, didn't mean to offend you". Then I read a little further down. Yeah, I would love to tell her to suck it up, but I may be in the same position when I finally get pregnant again. So I don't want to say to much... ugh this is so awkward.
I'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting JenInWpb: I was very sick in my 1st trimester I lost 15 pounds I even had to go to the hospital for dehydration ... [snip!] ... for dehydration so I know how it feels to want it to go away but i never wanted my baby to go away just the morning sickness
Aww, I am sorry to hear about that. Do you go on to have a healthy baby?
I'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting ** trying again **: I am kinda scared to tell her about my situation because no one really knows except my immediate family. ... [snip!] ... would help us to understand each other. I don't want her to feel like I am giving her the cold shoulder when she comes to me. If shes a good friend she will understand and just tell her that you would like her to keep your conversation just between the two of you. Being that shes already a mommy Im sure she knows how delicate a sistuation can be for someone who has lost a baby
I'm due January 4th & live in Lake Worth, Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting ** trying again **: Aww, I am sorry to hear about that. Do you go on to have a healthy baby?
Nevermind...I just read that you are due on Jan 4.
I'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
posted 9th Jul
Quoting ** trying again **: Aww, I am sorry to hear about that. Do you go on to have a healthy baby?
Yes everything is fine now they had me on a drug which helped me keep liquids down but I hated taking it I dont want to jeoperdize the babys health tho I need to eat and drink so I only took it when needed. Eveythings great now I only get sick in the morning about 1 a week instead of everyday 10 times a day lol
I'm due January 4th & live in Lake Worth, Florida
3510 postsposted 9th Jul
Quoting jnazmom: "I've been trying over a year and a half and don't want to hear your bitchass complain, whorebag!" ... [snip!] ... m/c. It's not about making her feel worse, it's about making her aware that there are way worse things than a morning barf.
Oh my god! I f*cking hated every single pregnant girl that I looked at. when my friends got pregnant I was like " Ohhhh I am so happy for you" (sobbing inside)".
I would come home and take a bath everytime one would tell me. It was so frequent that my hub would say "who's preg now" everytime I was in the tub.
I have 1 child & live in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania
posted 9th Jul
Quoting MissImEricka: Oh my god! I f*cking hated every single pregnant girl that I looked at. when my friends got pregnant ... [snip!] ... take a bath everytime one would tell me. It was so frequent that my hub would say "who's preg now" everytime I was in the tub.Hahaha that is to funny. I don't have any habits like taking a bath, but I can definately relate to putting a great big smile on the outside and sobbing inside. I truly am happy for my friend, I just wish I was right there with her.
I'm due August 10th, have 1 angel baby & live in Florida
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