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Quoting Madison Amber:“ I did tell my parents the day I found out. My Mother is my ROCK. She is amazing and I was not expecting ... [snip!] ... that what people are telling me is the truth, and that when I start feeling the baby move I'll start to feel more attatched.”

A lot of people feel distant at first so it is very likely that it will go away and you wont feel so distant.It took a while to sink in that I was REALLY pregnant with each kid. Picking out clothes, getting prepared, ultrasounds, feeling the kicks, etc all just made me more and more attached to the baby and holding them for the first time was amazing. Keeping the baby can be very rewarding "if" you can take care of them. I think you will become more attached because you have a strong support system and I dont think you would struggle to raise the child with a great mom like that. If you do choose adoption remember that no matter what the baby will be taken care of and loved. I have adopted cousins, aunts, and siblings and they are all very well loved and provided for. Either choice can be a GREAT choice. Just think it through and talk about it with your family and the dad. You have a logn time to think it through and see how it goes and how you feel later on so dont rush into anything.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ A lot of people feel distant at first so it is very likely that it will go away and you wont feel so ... [snip!] ... and the dad. You have a logn time to think it through and see how it goes and how you feel later on so dont rush into anything.”

I was and AM still attached to my son..and I put him up for adoption.

I just wanted to add that adoption is a very personal decision. It's not easy but raising children never is. I think making an informed decision is the best thing you can do for you and the baby. GOOD LUCK and if you need to talk, you can PM me. I wish you the best of luck in everything that is to come. **Hugs**

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ Hi! Some of the ladies told me about your situation sooooo I figured I'd check it out, haha.   When ... [snip!] ... open about it. My mom made me hide my pregnancy and my son from the world..so I'm lashing out! Good luck babe. It's very hard.”

Thanks for telling me your story. Did you know early on that you wanted to give him up or was it only because your parents convinced you that you wouldn't be able to give him everything he needed and wanted? I really hope that as I progress in this pregnancy that my heart and my head can make some sort of clear cut decision. Because right now, I have NO idea what I want to do about anything.

Quoting BreezyBell:“ My mother planned on keeping her son but eventually decided she couldn't provide everything he needed. ... [snip!] ... of, but of what kind of support system you will have. I wish I had advice to give. Good luck in whatever decision you make!!”

I know that my Mother will always support me in whatever decision I make. Which actually is making this harder right NOW for me because I don't want to do what she doesn't want me too do. Knowing my Mom she will want this baby kept in our family regardless of my age. But I do NOT want my baby to be raised by my Mom either.

Quoting PillowPants LipstickMafia:“ whatever you decide to do, I'll support you! Adoption is amazing. My husband and I are trying to adopt! I have 4 adopted siblings. Good luck momma! Keep your head up!  ”

I worry about adoption also though because even though you look into the families backgrounds and all that, you never really know who you are giving your baby too. Obviously there's MILLIONS of success stories but what if I were that one person to give my baby up and then the baby ended up being hurt, whether it was emotionally, physically ... mentally .. anything. I would worry for the rest of my life if I did the right thing.

Its awesome that you are even considering giving you baby up for adoption...not that it wouldnt be awesome if you kept him/her either...

I met one girl who gave up her daughter for adoption..she was nineteen at the time. Her daughter was actually adopted by her parents, the babys grandparents. This past year they finally broke the news to the girl after she asked. She is 15 now.

What you should do is maybe even consider an open adoption..if you don't like the idea of never seeing your baby again.

I love my mom, but I couldnt even see her raising any of mine..even if I was a teen. It would be to weird to have the public see my child as my brother or sister.

Faimly adoptions could be nice..but awkward....

Quoting [1w1d] til Leyah Rene':“ im not giving my baby up but i believe if you feel you cant give him/her what they need then you should. ... [snip!] ...   good luck. & they have a gladny center for adoption where i live and its real good. what part of tx do u live in?”

I think you could be right when you say that if it's just because I don't WANT a baby right now ... I know that is probably 80% of my feelings. I just hope that after everything settles down my feelings will start to change as well. I live in Ft Worth.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ A lot of people feel distant at first so it is very likely that it will go away and you wont feel so ... [snip!] ... and the dad. You have a logn time to think it through and see how it goes and how you feel later on so dont rush into anything.”

I hate the fact that it's such a longggg wait. If I'm gonna be questioning every decision I make like I have been ... for the next 7/8 months .. I'm gonna drive myself CRAZYYYY!

Quoting Ovulating Loopy:“ I just wanted to add that adoption is a very personal decision. It's not easy but raising children never ... [snip!] ... the baby. GOOD LUCK and if you need to talk, you can PM me. I wish you the best of luck in everything that is to come. **Hugs**”

Thank you

Quoting peddlinmommy:“ Its awesome that you are even considering giving you baby up for adoption...not that it wouldnt be awesome ... [snip!] ... would be to weird to have the public see my child as my brother or sister. Faimly adoptions could be nice..but awkward....”

I have one adoption in our family like that .. kinda. My cousin who is a dumbass [And I'm being KIND when I say that] she got pregnant and she knew she couldn't afford the baby since she already had like 7 other kids and only had custody of 1 and the rest are all with their dads.. Our other cousin who is married had been trying to have a baby for YEARS. Well she ended up giving her baby up for adoption and our other cousin adopted him. So he's still in the family but I think it's weird.

Quoting Madison Amber:“ I have one adoption in our family like that .. kinda. My cousin who is a dumbass [And I'm being KIND ... [snip!] ... ended up giving her baby up for adoption and our other cousin adopted him. So he's still in the family but I think it's weird.”

Weird yes, but at least she did the right thing,....even being a 'dumbass' ....

There are alot of faimlies out there who are trying to get pregnant and cant who choose to adopt....

whatever you choose.....if you choose to keep you baby after carring him/her for so long or still choose to give it up for adoption...it will be your choice..no one elses....I wish you the BEST of luck with this pregnancy and whatever choice you make.

Quoting peddlinmommy:“ Weird yes, but at least she did the right thing,....even being a 'dumbass' .... There are alot ... [snip!] ... will be your choice..no one elses....I wish you the BEST of luck with this pregnancy and whatever choice you make.”

Thanks!

what does you BF think about adoption? Have you nentioned it to him? If he is willing to step up and be a father, then that is extra support for you.

Quoting WE ARE TTC!!:“ what does you BF think about adoption? Have you nentioned it to him? If he is willing to step up and be a father, then that is extra support for you.”

He says he's willing to support any decision I make. Right now he is freaked out. As of now, I feel like he'd be the type of guy to step up and be a Daddy. But I'm also not "fat", moody and cranky right now either.