Quoting Mara:“ yeah... well, good miss thang... cause you're ridiculously gorgeous and the mirror should be validation enough. screw numbers.”

I haven't weighed myself in a good month haaha.

Although i still don't like the mirror haha

Quoting Melliekay♥:“ I haven't weighed myself in a good month haaha. Although i still don't like the mirror haha”

*e-slaps you and gina and anyone else who's beating themselves up about their appearances*

geeze wimmin, what're you shooting for?

what's it gonna take? eh?

between being smart, healthy, beautiful, funny, mothers to fantab kiddos, can't you cut yourself some slack and learn to love all the gifts you've been given -- including the marvelous fact that you're so much more than some airbrushed boringly-self-obsessed-idiotic-soulless twig flitting around on a magazine?

*sighs frustratededly*

Quoting Mara:“ *e-slaps you and gina and anyone else who's beating themselves up about their appearances* geeze wimmin, ... [snip!] ... more than some airbrushed boringly-self-obsessed-idiotic-soulless twig flitting around on a magazine? *sighs frustratededly*”

I've always had major self esteem issues  , i promise it's something i'm working on.

Quoting Melliekay♥:“ I've always had major self esteem issues  , i promise it's something i'm working on.”

*shakes fist menacingly at whatever it is that has made you feel this way*

seriously, you've got to start letting it go-- it's not worth your energy to beat yourself up ... not over petty details like whatever it is you're not liking when you look in the mirror... especially you girls-- do you not see that you really came up on the top of the deck in the genetic department?

i know why ugly girls despise women like you: b/c you don't even know how it feels to truly be ugly and still you're telling yourself somehow that all the beauty you've been given isn't good enough.

i'm older so maybe i've just grown past that... i dunno.

this is the only body i have-- and i'm proud of it, b/c i've worked hard to keep it fit and healthy.

sure, it''s not perfect (i've got cellulite on my butt, short legs, a long torso, small boobies (now asymmetrical from bf-ing) -- but there really is no such thing as perfect in the first place.

this body is perfect for taking me on 13 mile runs, it's perfect enough to birth a beautiful baby boy, it's perfect enough to have carried me through this life to love the people i do, to feel the things i feel, to enjoy the wind on my skin, the feeling of the water when i jump in a lake/pool/whatever.

i love my body b/c it's me-- it's part and parcel of every good and bad thing i've ever done. i even love my little wrinkles that are starting to come in...

you women need to realize that your body is YOU not your nemisis.

i remember hating my body... but once i started taking care of it, i was less and less able to keep that emotion-- b/c my body was paying me back w/ increased energy, and yeah, i started loving the way clothes looked on me.

okay, i'm babbling... i just can't get how you guys can cling to these little details and miss the big picture of just how lucky you are to have all that you have.

Quoting Mara:“ *shakes fist menacingly at whatever it is that has made you feel this way* seriously, you've got to ... [snip!] ... how you guys can cling to these little details and miss the big picture of just how lucky you are to have all that you have.”

I really do have personal reason as to why i think the way i do, it isn't right and i have been working on it. I have got better, i've never been one to take it to extremes and i never will. But I am trying, losing the scale was a huge deal for me. I was very obsessive, checking my weight numerous times a day. It was ridiculous and iguess you can say that is a bit extreme now that i say it in the open haa.

But thank you, you always have amazing advice and know what to say. I do truly try to soak it in, you after all are the one who told me to ditch the scale. So thank you!

Quoting Mara:“ gina, i don't get it... where's the shame in that belly? seriously. i'm not kissing any asses here. i don't see what you're talking about.”

It just seems flabby to me! I don't know. There are some days that it doesn't bother me, but most days it does.

In all honesty: it's the way I look that matters more to me. But, to look as good as I did right before pregnant I would have to weigh less than when I started because of the shift in how I carry my weight since I've been preganant. I really like the way I look now, but I realize I could be healthier... I try to think of it in terms of being "healthy" and not really in terms of a number....

i too am a bitch slave to the scale. but i know it shouldnt be that way. its kind of a combo of the two really...i want to look perfect and have a low number. somehow though...they never coincide. even at 115, i see huge thighs.