eating disorder and pregenancy

I honestly need help/support. I have some really hard questions to ask.

*NOTE* If you are going to slam me for this topic/question then please just don't bother replying. Please don't take offense-I just really don't need any more guilt than I already have.

I am 4wks pregnant, 26yrs old and have had an ED(eating disorder) for over 4yrs. I never thought that I would have any children. I am amazed and truly greatful for this baby. I want him/her more than anything in this world. I love this child more than life itself and it's only a tadpole....crazy. Needless to say-I am a bit worried about my past eating habits(or lack there of) and the little critters health. I am scared to talk to my doctor about all of this. I fear he/she will freak out on me or something. I am already high risk due to my weight. I am getting better-I am gaining a bit more control little by little everyday. I will not lie-I have not completely given up my bad habits. I am trying, I truly am, but this is an incredibly hard addiction to give up. I will beat this. I am strong. I know I can do it.

QUESTIONS-
Is anyone in a similar situation? Maybe a support system could help us both.
Is there any reading material that could update/educate me more on special extra steps to take to take better care of my little one? I want him safe and healthy.
Does any have any information on this topic?
Any info/help would be greatly appriciated.

If anyone has questions for me....real and brutal is how I prefer it, so ask away.
Yes, I know I am a bit crazy, but I am trying.

Thanks for the help and support
-B

If you talk to your doc (they won't get mad...trust me. They've seen pretty much anything), maybe they can recommend a support group or offer help.

Well, I'm pretty sure that anything you've done in the past won't harm the baby as long as it stays in the past. It will be hard to give up your habits, but just take it day by day and keep telling yourself that you have to eat for the well being of your baby. I have zero apetite since being pregnant, and I have to force myself to eat. I just tell myself that the baby needs it. Good luck with everything! I wish you the best for you and your baby.

I want to commend you for standing up and asking. People will probably bash you. I won't, because I know we all do things sometimes that others don't agree with, that we know aren't best...but you are trying to fix the problem, which is the important part.

Now, for some advice. I suggest you talk to your doctor about it. Most likely he/she has seen it before, and will have some pretty good answers and ideas about how to help you out. That is what your doc is there for. I know it is tough, I had a friend go through that when we were younger (granted, she didn't become pregnant). I saw how hard it was for her, I can only imagine how hard it is going to be for you. Keep your baby on the top of your mind at all times, it will help. I am here to help out however I can, if you just need some un-opinionated person to run your mouth at and listen (and give advice as you want to receive it), feel free to either PM me or email me. I have a pretty good set of ears! My email is wonderfulperfection@hotmail.com, and I look forward to helping however I can!   Good luck and God Bless!

Just take it day by day. Keeping thinking about the miracle growing in you.

I try to eat in small portions it may help you feel better about eating.

as longas you make sure you have a good, healthy, well balanced diet. Remember there will be days you want to eat loads and days you don't

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/risk_factors_eating_disorders_emotional.html

I hope this helps you

yeah i was in a similar situation.....before i found out i was preggo, i was smoking over a pack of cigs a day, drinking an americano with 2 add shots, and at least like 5 energy drinks a day...with barely and almost always no food. No matter how much weight i lost, i always felt fat. nothing helped me, but i felt if i didnt eat and kept losing weight id eventually be happy. lol yeah whatever. Anywho, we decided to get pregnant, but i couldnt quit my habbits until it became real and she was concieved. i quit everything cold turkey. ive gained 32 lbs already. but ya know what? Im enjoying it. I feel like this pregnancy gives me a pass. Like this is the one time i dont have to worry about anything and i dont have to care or control how much i eat. I eat what i want when i want. But trust me, the thoughts will never leave your head. I still think about it every time i eat. Every time i look in the mirror...its horrible. But just think that stressing out about it will hurt your little one and they need you to eat. Just try to eat healthy so you dont get upset about gaining too much weight. but deffinetly talk to your doctor, they will help you.

I am scared of my doctors(I have 2 now). Can he/she use this against me? I know ultimately they will just help, but I am terrified of the damage they can and the power that they have. How do I tell/ask them?

info/suggestions are always good!

Due mid-to-end November.
Thank you for all the support.
I am so greatful
B

ranger-roo wrote: I am scared of my doctors(I have 2 now). Can he/she use this against me? I know ultimately they will just help, but I am terrified of the damage they can and the power that they have. How do I tell/ask them?

info/suggestions are always good!

Due mid-to-end November.
Thank you for all the support.
I am so greatful
B

No, they won't hold it against you. Most women have something unhealthy they are doing, and I'm telling you, you won't be the first you doctors have seen have had an eating disorder.

ranger-roo wrote: I am scared of my doctors(I have 2 now). Can he/she use this against me? I know ultimately they will just help, but I am terrified of the damage they can and the power that they have. How do I tell/ask them?

info/suggestions are always good!

Due mid-to-end November.
Thank you for all the support.
I am so greatful
B

i can completly empathize with how your feeling. But trust me, the more they know about you, the more they can help you and your little one. They will not use it against you. They will use the information you give them to help you, because they only care about you and your babies health. Just tell them when they ask you for background and history of you and the father, or when they ask you if you have any questions or concerns. They always have something to give you that will help at least alittle. Like they might be able to point u in the direction of a support group or help you at least make sure your little one gets all the nutrients they need. good luck.

Ur concerns are totally understandable. Ur dr should not judge you (and trust me, they see this type of disorder along w/ many other types) and be supportive of your desire to improve your eating habits. if ur dr is unsupportive or patronizing, find a different one. it is already stressful enough changing a habit like this (i commend you!) to have other ppl lecturing u.

as another gal commented, it may help if u eat several small meals a day. try for 5 or 6 - morning, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, snack .. even when u do not have an appetite. a few bites is better than nothing.

we are here for you!

I just want to say that u CAN be a strong person and get through it! I know some what you are going through bc my cuz had a ED she was 87lbs when she got pregnant and didnt think she could get pregant but now she weighs about 110 after having the baby and i say she is still to skinny but i happy for her since she weighs that much! You can do she did and other women have too so be strong and work it through and remember everytime u want to go to the bathroom and do your thing that u need to not to for the baby not for no one else just for the baby bc i know if u couldnt do it for yourself then just image that u can really do it for the baby!! I wish you the best of luck!!! I KNOW u can make it throught this!!!

If you don't speak to your personal care provider about your eating issues please speak to a professional about this so that you are getting good nutrional advise and help. You could speak to a nutritionist, a dietician, a midwife etc.