Stupid people shouldn't be allowed to breathe

I had the misfortune of talking to a real live idiot today. Unfortunately, I didn't realize she was an idiot until afterwards...

I went to the Brick and while I was waiting for the salesgirl to get back to me with some info. I sat down on one of the couches. There was a woman sitting on a couch across from me. Anyway, this is the conversation I had with her:

Her: How old is your baby?
Me: Three months.
Her: Is it a boy?
Me: Yes, he is.
Her: Is he yours?
Me: Uh, yeah.
Her: (disbelieving tone now) So, he's your first?
Me: Yes, he is.
Her: OK

Then she gets up and I find out she is the manager of the store. So it's unlikely that she has some mental problems to justify why she asked if my son is mine. I know it sounds stupid of me and maybe I'm being weird about this, but lately, a lot of people, when they see Julien, comment on how he looks mixed. Invariably, they say this AFTER telling me my son is cute or good-looking, or whatever. That's fine. If you compliment my child, I have no problem with you asking if my child is mixed (a logical question since I am relatively pale and have red hair and blue eyes, while my son has warm, golden skin and brown eyes). But to ask me if my child is mine? I wish I had been smarter at the moment to ask her if she knows of any places that rent out three month old babies...

Question: To those of you with mixed children, has anybody ever asked you if your child is yours or if you adopted him/her?

I will agree with you on the not breathing! As for your boy, he is so fricken adorable! what she was probably implying was, Was he adopted? But either way, he'd still be yours. Some people ned to think before they speak...and some people just need to not speak altogether!

Quoting scubakitty:“ I had the misfortune of talking to a real live idiot today. Unfortunately, I didn't realize she was an ... [snip!] ... Question: To those of you with mixed children, has anybody ever asked you if your child is yours or if you adopted him/her?”

I agree with "wwg" why would anyone say anything like that??? people are stupid... you gotta come up with a great answer that will make them shut their mouths LOL... esp. if you are the manager of the store... the lady sounds like a bit of a beyatch..   ... he is too cute   

omg that is so rude, i have a mixed baby also she is half african, im fair skined with blonde hair blue eyes, she has light olive skin and dark features, i havent been asked if she mine but if i ever do i sure will smack them down ppl have no right 2 ask questions like that.

Yeah, I just left there shaking my head thinking, what the hell did she mean? Because, exactly, adopted or mine biologically, he would be mine no matter what but to ask like that....it's just weird. Most people who are wondering, either ask me if he's mixed, or the really clever ones say, "wow, he must look a lot like your husband" (which is kind of funny because Julien's father and I aren't together anymore so then I have to stop myself from saying, "Oh no, I don't have a husband"...which is pretty bad around here because I live in the country and it's pretty religious out here.). Ah well.

BTW, thanks for the compliment!  

Quoting adelaidemum~Ella's here~:“ I agree with "wwg" why would anyone say anything like that??? people are stupid... you gotta come up ... [snip!] ... mouths LOL... esp. if you are the manager of the store... the lady sounds like a bit of a beyatch..   ... he is too cute   ”

That's awesome! It sounds so...kewl! I should change all my display names to intials hehe!

Quoting scubakitty:“ Yeah, I just left there shaking my head thinking, what the hell did she mean? Because, exactly, adopted ... [snip!] ... around here because I live in the country and it's pretty religious out here.). Ah well. BTW, thanks for the compliment!  ”

LOL no you should just be like, well I wouldnt know b/c see I got tired of waiting for Mr. right so I just went to a frat party and found a random passed out guy and used him instead, but thank you though. Haha omg they'd piss themselves probably!

I don't have a mix baby, but people constantly ask me because of my age .
They think the baby is my mothers when she's like 52 years old .

& Your baby is beyond cute ! I love his eyes , what is his ethnicity ?

Quoting Weeble Wobble+Grant:“ That's awesome! It sounds so...kewl! I should change all my display names to intials hehe!”

LOL.. i know you would sound like some sort of wrestler LOL... hows the little man today????

Yeah, I read some article in a magazine once about how to handle stupid questions if you are the parent of a child that doesn't really look like you. But the example they gave was:

Question: Oh, cute kid. Where did you get him/her?
Appropriate answer: Oh, the usual place.

LOL, so either way, I am SO prepared to use that answer. But I totally didn't expect today's question. And it's not really a big deal if I think about it, but it totally rubbed me the wrong way. Not to mention, I hope I don't come across idiots like that when my son is older and able to understand. I mean, how would HE feel if someone asked me if he was mine and he was say, five or six years old? He'd probably be totally shattered.

oh my goodness i just looked at ur profile, your son is sooooooo freaking cute.  

Quoting scubakitty:“ Yeah, I read some article in a magazine once about how to handle stupid questions if you are the parent ... [snip!] ... how would HE feel if someone asked me if he was mine and he was say, five or six years old? He'd probably be totally shattered.”

that would probably upset him and make him think about it too... and wonder if you really are each others if you know what i mean... maybe you should print up a shirt for him saying "yes he's mine" LOL....

Quoting Weeble Wobble+Grant:“ LOL no you should just be like, well I wouldnt know b/c see I got tired of waiting for Mr. right so I ... [snip!] ... party and found a random passed out guy and used him instead, but thank you though. Haha omg they'd piss themselves probably!”

Oh, I love it. I'll definitely be using that as an answer at some point. So far, I've almost thrived on making people uncomfortable. I remember when I was about 8 months pregnant and we had electrician come to the house and he was saying something like, "oh, just get your husband to...." and I looked him in the eye and in a happy voice said, "oh, I don't have a husband". He stared at my big old belly for a minute and then said, "oh". He never did come back to finish the job he said he'd come back and finish....LOL

Quoting scubakitty:“ I had the misfortune of talking to a real live idiot today. Unfortunately, I didn't realize she was an ... [snip!] ... Question: To those of you with mixed children, has anybody ever asked you if your child is yours or if you adopted him/her?”

no but i have had a lady come up to me at the medicaid office sat down and said is your baby mexican? I looked at her like uh yeah, my MEXICAN bf was sitting right next to me and im as far from mexican as you get lol so i know the feeling, ive never been asked if shes mine but i get asked if shes mixed all the time lol its actually just funny how dumb some ppl can be.  

I think it's rude to ask .

If they're never going to see you again ,
why should they care ?