Friends after pregnancy (vent and kinda long)

I'm sure this has probably happened to a lot of people...Ever since I got pregnant and married, my friends are pretty much non existent! I'll call them to see if they'd like to get together and they never call back, write them on myspace, no response, etc. We didn't hang out allllll the time before I was married (we got married about a month ago) but they would at least return phone calls and/or messages! I had 4 really good girl-friends and we would get together a few times a month but now I really feel left out- they haven't even contacted me!! There's only one that I've talked to in the last month! I definitely don't want to go to the bars and what not with them but out to dinner, girls nights in, like we used to! I know they're not mad at me for anything, they wouldn't have a reason to be so I have no clue why I have been so left out and why they wont return any of my calls or messages!?

My question is, did you ever confront any of your friends if they did this to you? What did you say?

I had the exact same issue. I never confronted my friends though... if they are willing to let 7 years of friendship slip away just because our lives are going in different directions, then they aren't the kinds of friends that I need in my life....

i never confronted my firends about doing that, but on a good note, ur wedding dress is beautiful

I have the same issue and I have been thinking about telling them off. I been holding it off because I know it wont be nice. Its fucked up they dont even call, visit or even send me a freaking text!! Assholes!

Alot of my friends did that. I just figure they are not worth it.

Yes the same thing happened to me and I have actually had a hard time with it lately because they pretty much disappeared when I got pregnant and my "best" frienddid not speak to me at all the last half of my pregnancy and just met my son for the first time and he is 3 months old. Not to mention she only came around because it was her birthday and she wanted attention. I have not confroted my friends I agree with the other poster if they are willing to just throw away years of friendship they are not worth it.

I'd like to tell off a few of them or at least kind of write them off, but one of them, we have been really great friends since we were 4 years old and she was my maid of honor!!! grr it makes me sick!!!

Quoting pixies62581:“ i never confronted my firends about doing that, but on a good note, ur wedding dress is beautiful”

Thanks!!!  

I had this happen to me during my first pregnacny and during this one already ,yes I did confront them and they stopped calling me all together all i would get was a couple of texts every now and then but they all want to come around once the baby is born but get mad thatbyou "dont spend time with them" I'm like gosh im a mother i can only agree to go out at least once a month now its all the same thing over again i guess thats just how it is with some un-mom friends

Heh, I think this happens to a lot of people.

It happened to me, too.

I've just moved on to making friends with women who are pregnant or have children. They're usually a lot more grown up anyway..

Quoting C.C.:“ I'm sure this has probably happened to a lot of people...Ever since I got pregnant and married, my friends ... [snip!] ... of my calls or messages!? My question is, did you ever confront any of your friends if they did this to you? What did you say?”

i have the same thing going on and after you have your baby there all gonn awanna come visit for like the first mont hyou'll have someone at your house everyday and then bam ur alone...thats what happened to my friend shawnte im the only the that visits her i try to go at least once a week but i've been slacking it really shows who your real friends are yanno

I'm actually going through the same exact thing right now. My husband and I have been married for almost a year now and I saw my friends significantly drop. Now that we're expecting, I'm noticing even fewer are around or up for anything other than a wild party. I've noticed myself changing though as well. I'm not up for a wild party anymore, and not only because I'm pregnant. My tastes are just changing. I find myself enjoying the company of my 30-something year old co-workers and my mother and her gal pals as opposed to my 21 year old friends. Even still, it bothers me that my best friend wasn't excited for me when I told her the news. She actually got mad at me because I "wouldn't be able to get drunk with her on her 21st birthday"! I haven't confronted her about it, thinking it's best to just let it go and move on, but it really bothers me. I wanted her to share in my excitement! I wanted her to help me plan! And instead all I got was a "wow, that sucks, looks like your life is over now." =[ So, I guess what I'm trying to say (other then venting as well haha) is maybe we're all just at a different stage in our lives. This is what life truely is about. And it's a beautiful thing. If they can't see that and make time for us in their lives then they aren't worth the time in ours! =]

Because I am a 'teen' mom (age 1 . I've def. found out who my true friend's are. They drop like flies or so it seem's, but I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that if they are basically giving me the middle figer by doing that, then I'll let them. The one's who really care, are here. Even if that's not very many. It's good enough. BG girl's help too, talking to people with kid's. I've been nannying for a family friend who has two young girls, and she's about 7 year's older than I am & we have more to talk about then my friend's & I do. (Sad). I just love the friend's that are so clueless..."What do you mean you don't have money to blow on thing's like movies EVERY day." Well, I have to pay for health insurance, and baby bill's, buy a new vehicle that I feel safer to drive my daughter in when she get's here. *shrugs* It's all worth it. Screw them. =)