re: advice please!

Quoting Jennybby:“ i need some advice . im in a 2 year relationship . 17 & engaged . he's 16 . were expecting our ... [snip!] ... . i couldn't imagine seeing him with another girl , maybe we just need some time apart . i dk ! im so confused   help ?!”

Having been there before, in exception for being pregnant at the time, please get out of the relationship. Your CHILD is your priority now. If he hits you and verbally abuses you, what will stop him from doing the same to your child? What if you have a son who grows up being hit by his father and then he grows up to hit and verbally abuse HIS pregnant fiance? What if you have a daughter and she grows up seeing you be abused and she chooses to stay in abusive relationships because she thinks that's what a man does when he "loves" you? Is THAT what you want for your child?!? I know a 6 year old little boy who hits his half-sister. When his step mom told him it wasn't acceptable to hit a girl, he said "But Jimmy (his mom's new husband) hits my mommy, so I can hit girls too." Do you want your child to be that little boy? You said it yourself, you are unhappy. If you are worried he will harm you if you leave, alert your parents, his parents, the police, a women's shelter, etc... Anyone and everyone who can and will help you. Call a domestic abuse hotline. ANYTHING, but PLEASE get OUT of that relationship before any damage is done to your child and before any further damage is done to you.

Oh honey... I tell you right now that it doesn't matter if he has intentions of hitting you or not. Your young you love the guy but he doesnt love you he wouldn't hit you especially when you are pregnant if he did. I grew up with that sorta thing my mom was in an abusive relationship. Thats pretty much all I remember about my biological father....Ugh I can give you advice but it's up to you do something about it. Your having a baby now and if he cares so little that he is hitting you in the stomach knowing there is a baby inside you then hes not gonna stop at that. You have to think of the baby now too. Your whole world is going to revolve around that little one. If he hits the baby when it's inside you what make you think that he's not going to be abusive towards the child? You need to leave him.....soon before he costs you the baby. There are other guys out there and it's going to hurt to leave him and he'll come up with a million excuses to keep you around and he will swear he'll never hit you again but he will I've seen it they don't change.