Custody problems (not for me though)

It's my best friend. Me and her have been best friends for about 10 years now and have done everything together. We happen to get pregnant at the same time too.

Her son is 2 weeks older then mine and her and her boyfriend broke up about 6 months ago. When they broke up they decided that they were not going to do the whole court or child support thing beacuse they broke up on good terms. Well, her now ex-boyfriend completely did a turn around and started atcting crazy and calling her while she's at work and calling her mom and just being horrible to her and saying nasty things. He kept threatening to take Kaden (their son) from her and getting full custody of him when he had no other reason except the simple fact that he doesn't like her anymore. He has a new girlfriend and keeps telling Krysta (my friend) that his new girlfriend is going to be Kaden's mom and she would be a better mom then her to Kaden anyday and blah blah blah. The other night it was Krysta's night with Kaden and he resfused to give him to her. He kept saying he was going to get custody of him and she wasn't going to get to see him again. Somehow she ended up getting him to drop Kaden at her house after all. She called me last night and told me about it and ended up in tears beacuse she doesn't know what to do. I didn't really know what to tell her toehr then I would be there for her.

She called again today and was crying so hard I could barely understand her. She said Zack (her ex) got some papers saying that she can't see Kaden until March 23 because of a restraining order Zack got on her for Kaden. He is suing for full custody and wants child support.

So my question is, how is this possible that he can do that? She is a WONDERFUL mom and loves her son more than anything. She doesn't do drugs, or drink (around her son), she has a clean home and there is no reason for Zack to want to do this other then the fact that he doesn't like her. I don't know what to tell her when she calls me about this because I just don't see how this is possible.

Sorry this is so long but I really need some help on this.

have her get a lawyer on this. What he is doing is wrong. Unless she can't support her kid or she is abusing her kid, he can't do that to her. And i think the new girlfriend is involved.

So have her get a lawyer ASAP!


btw, I am watching reruns on Judging Amy lol...so I am in my 'law' mood! ha!

well first i would like to say i am truely sorry, and i hope that you have the strength to help her through this, second she needs to get a copy of the restraining order and get a hold of the courts and talk to someone they have lawyers that can help if you can't afford one, if he has no reason to do this then they should have never given him a restraining order normally an order of protection in a case where a parent of such obtains on for a child, so he had to lied if nothing is going wrong, which she can get him for if he falsified police documents, i wish the best of luck to you and your friend sorry i don't know much else

Thank yall so much. I just don't get it, she is a great mom to her son and has done nothing to deserve this.

I think the new girlfriend is involed too and that is really pissing me off. I'm going to try and do everything I can for her. I just feel so bad, she doesn't deserve this.

He CAN NOT get a restraining order regarding the child unless the child is being injured and can prove it...so I would disregard that all together. But I would have her get an attorney, because in all reality she can use all this stuff as a reason why he SHOULDN'T have custody

first off what state does she live in?

Yeah she should definately get a lawyer, and call the atterney generals office or judges and see if she can get the restraining order reversed.
I hate to hear that people do that to not just the other parent but the kid. Unfortunately it is usually the mother that does it.  
I hope things get better for your friend!

She lives in Texas

DillsMommy wrote: She lives in Texas

oh then she has nothing to worry about. My cousin lost custody (He lives in Texas) to his son because they automatically gave the kid to his mother.. and they shouldn't have, she drank and did drugs. He didn't. I felt bad for him..

but for ur friends case, I am sure she will win the custody.

has she been served with a restraining order? bc if not then there isnt legally one there. a restraining order is something that you have to both appear in court before its actually in effect.

DillsMommy wrote: She lives in Texas

dang. i was gonna say if she was lucky enough to live in GA, the mother has sole custody until the father takes the mother to court to do a paternity test and so on.
My childs father is a real jerk so i went to a lawyer about everything, and the worst that could ever happen in a situation like that, for me, would be that the father would pay child support and at most get visitation every other weekend. ha.

But dang, seems like the father might have more rights in texas, kinda scary.

She lives in Tx? I cant believe he even got a restraining order. The mothers are pretty much the only ones with rights around here..lol

I know, this is what I don't get. She was served with the restraining order this morning and was reading the paper to me and it's all so messed up. I told her he had to have lied about something. Otherwise there is NO reason for her son to be taken from her. She said he is trying to get it where she has no rights what-so-ever to her son. Like for her to be out of her life completely.

Did the restraining order say why? He had to have said something like that she beats him, or is on drugs....but even if he had said something like that I would think that they would have had CPS go check it out first. Does he "know people"?

I don't know if it said anything or not. Also I'm not sure if he "knows people" or not but I do know that this whole thing is real messy to me. She is going to call CPS though and get someone to go out to his house because she's been conserned about his house beeing so nasty anyway. She's also going to get "the best damn laywer in Texas" (her quote). She said he has some bs laywer who's pretty much just in it for the money. She's going to get one who specializes in this kinda stuff.

I don't think she is going to have much to worry about when it comes to the custody thing. She just doesn't know what shes going to do without her son until then.

I just hope her ex knows what he's in for. I just talked to her and she's so pissed she can't think. She's gotten over the shock of it and is taking acting asap.