please, please help..

I just wrote a 3 page letter explaining to my bf that we couldn't be together anymore... we've been together for almost two years and he's just not growing up and won't. Tonight he said he was leaving for 15 minutes and was gone for 3 hours. It's not only that, it's the fact that he won't stop getting high and drunk with his lil buddies that are teenagers & he's 21, he buys them beer and shit and I don't want him to end up in jail for it but he won't stop, he lies to me every time he walks out the door, and leaves me here at his mom's to deal with his family who are reall ypissed at us because we were planning on moving out and they don't want us to, so he leaves tonight after I took him shopping & shit with my baby shower money, and we just told his parents today that we planed on moving out.. I'm so torn because I really do love him with all my heart but I can't just keep forgiving him and now I'm bawling my eyes out because I told him in the letter that we couldn't be together and I don't want that but he keeps messing up and I have a feeling he'll never learn, I'm so confused and upset and now I'm worried about the baby's heartbeat because I'm crying so hard, please help..

Omg...sweetheart, Im sorry. Your boyfriend sounds like mine...Mine does the same shit all the time. We've been together almost 2 years and lived together just as long...I got tired of his shit and decided thatWE were moving back to my hometown, i thought that he might grow up if he wasnt around his friends as much...but now he stays at his moms and I stay at our apartment...Im sorry sweetie...I wish I could tell you what to do, but the letter sounds like a good idea...tell me how it goes over.

Quoting -*Ashton.NiCole*-:“ Omg...sweetheart, Im sorry. Your boyfriend sounds like mine...Mine does the same shit all the time. We've ... [snip!] ... sorry sweetie...I wish I could tell you what to do, but the letter sounds like a good idea...tell me how it goes over.”

I wish I could just make him grow up, it's almost 3 AM here and he's stilll not home, he's at his friend's partying with a bunch of teenage boys & girls and I love him so much he's my best friend in the whole world and usually treats me like gold but he just won't stop doing stupid shit like this and now I'm really unsure whether or not I can deal with it, I don't want my son growing up around it and I'm just a mess and have no one to talk to because it's so late and he's gonna come through the door drunk and all pissed off because I'm pissed and I just don't know what do to anymore, how can I make him realize that what he's doing isn't okay?!

first off calm down and breath a little, give him a choice he can grow up and be a man or your gone. its hard i know, mine wont grow up either he is 20 and he is currently playing dragon ball z, and he disappears with his friends for hours too, but he comes home once i throw a fit. tell him inorder for you two to be together he needs to change his ways he sounds just like my brother to tell you the truth i raised his little girl til recently when mom decided she was finally going to be a mom to her 3 kids. tell him drinking and getting high wont work when he has a child kids cost quite a bit diapers formula clothes other things they may need. His parents will have to get over the fact that your moving out its not like you were going to live there forever anyway.

Quoting $@])!3..:“ I wish I could just make him grow up, it's almost 3 AM here and he's stilll not home, he's at his friend's ... [snip!] ... off because I'm pissed and I just don't know what do to anymore, how can I make him realize that what he's doing isn't okay?!”

I wish I knew what to tell you...its like we are dating twins or sumtin, cuz mine acts the same...but sit him down and have a talk with him...when he's sober and explain to him how you feel and what you are going through. Tell him that he's going to have to man up and take responsiblity...and that you dont want y'alls son growing up in that kind of environment. tell him that you dont want your son to grow up remembering daddy coming home late at night drunk and arguing with mommy..

Quoting $@])!3..:“ I just wrote a 3 page letter explaining to my bf that we couldn't be together anymore... we've been together ... [snip!] ... never learn, I'm so confused and upset and now I'm worried about the baby's heartbeat because I'm crying so hard, please help..”

my boyfriend did the same thing to me and he kept lying ot me and he expected me to wait at his moms house for hours on end for him to get home juss so i could 'sleep' with him on the couch wtf kinda shit is that after we broke up things got a lil easier and i started getting shit together i loved him and i still do he's the daddy to my child but i decided that it was best for my child not to be aroudn someone who can only think about parties and when he's oging to get drunk next dont get me wrong i loved being with his mom but its so inconsiderate and irrisponsible to expect you to do that. im not going to tell you to leave him cause its not my place to say thats what i chose to do yah its really hard but in the endi figure it will be worth it yanno. i hope u make the rigth choice honey just remember its not only you anymore you have a child to think about that has to be your number one! good lucky sweetie!

HUGS

You poor thing. You know, sometimes they need to be taught a lesson and it seems to me this is the time for you. You dont want to get the situation much worse. If you have a place to move in to then please do that. He needs to grow up. He needs to clean up his act because he has a child on its way. If he wants to spend his money on his friends then let him. Its his choice. But leave. It would hurt as you are now, but I am sure you will be glad that you did in the long run.

Also, when you leave, it won't be the end of you guys. He may just clean up his act and he may just prove to himself and to you that he can change so be strong, you can do it for you and your child. The atmosphere is not very good for you and you need to get away from that. You deserve that. Look after yourself and your baby.

All the best!