So stressed! What do I do?

What would you do?

I think you need to do what's best for you. Sounds like he's being an ass and should be enjoying the alone time that you two have before the baby comes. Men seriously just need to grow up sometimes.

Quoting *Kate* 3 weeks left!:“ So my boyfriend told me on thursday he was going to stay home and spend the weekend with me.. So I made ... [snip!] ... is stress me out and upset me which I really dont need right now! Do you think thats a little drastic? What would you do?”

I don't think you should ask him to move out, but wtf  
He's been horrible  
When my boyfriend does something like, not call, or something, all I have to say is, "how would you feel if I did that to you?"
And he stops, looks down thinking, and goes "I would have flipped out."
That's the end of that :/

Have you tried putting it to him like that?
And letting him know your baby can't have an alcoholic for a father, so wtf does he plan on doing once the baby is here?

Don't kick him out of the house until you decide that this is the new him, cause that's horrible. If it's just a phase, you need to get him to snap out of it asap.

i think that is VERY immature! he shouldnt have stayed the night anywhere if you were that pregnant first of all... an he should have called you an checked on you first thing in the morning...!

my hubby left me when i was 8 1/2 months pregnant an went to VEGAS FOR THREE DAYS with his phone off... i was LIVID. he came home with his tail in between his legs... THEN a few days after he gets home, i see a sent message in his myspace from him to some girl he met in vegas.... YEA.

guys are so immature.. why do they insist on leaving when you could literally go into labor ANY MINUTE..!! you should have a heart to heart with him an tell him that it is UNACCECPTABLE!

Quoting Mommy of Lily Love:“ I don't think you should ask him to move out, but wtf   He's been horrible   When my boyfriend ... [snip!] ... you decide that this is the new him, cause that's horrible. If it's just a phase, you need to get him to snap out of it asap.”

I wouldnt be totally kicking him out, just asking him to move out for the rest of the pregnancy... like stay at the hotel with the rest of the guys he is working with or something because he works an hour away from here...

And we have been threw this a lot with him and his drinking... He has 3 DWIs already and refuses to admit he has a problem, he has been assigned to take 24 hours of classes that he hasnt even started... I told him a long time ago if he doesnt stop his drinkin (I would say cut back but when you have an addiction cutting back doesnt work) he will not be allowed around the baby,

Quoting deborah:“ i think that is VERY immature! he shouldnt have stayed the night anywhere if you were that pregnant first ... [snip!] ... could literally go into labor ANY MINUTE..!! you should have a heart to heart with him an tell him that it is UNACCECPTABLE!”

Dont you love finding messages like that... My boyfriend went back to his hometown in SD a few weekends ago, and I stayed home, but when he got back here I found a text message in his out box to his ex telling her she looked sexy...

I am VERY laid back! I dont care if he talks to his exs or if he tells them they look nice or somethin innocent like that... But the whole Sexy comment really made me mad... I dont feel that great about how I look right now the last thing I want to see his him tell his ex she looks sexy and then lying to me about it!

Quoting *Kate* 3 weeks left!:“ I wouldnt be totally kicking him out, just asking him to move out for the rest of the pregnancy... ... [snip!] ... drinkin (I would say cut back but when you have an addiction cutting back doesnt work) he will not be allowed around the baby,”

Oh man...
That is horrible...

IDK, it sucks to think about, but I would seriously consider really splitting up.

You do NOT want an alcoholic to raise your children.

My dad is an alcoholic and it's only gotten worse.
My brother just killed himself - and it had a lot to do with who my dad is.

Seriously... think about the baby  

Quoting Mommy of Lily Love:“ Oh man... That is horrible... IDK, it sucks to think about, but I would seriously consider ... [snip!] ... worse. My brother just killed himself - and it had a lot to do with who my dad is. Seriously... think about the baby  ”

I am sooo sorry to hear about your brother! I couldnt handle something like that happening, you are a strong person... I have never had an alcoholic parent but my brother is, and I have seen some of what it can do... I already know that if he will not be in the babys life if he doesnt get his act together NOW. He was doing GREAT until like last week.
But I use to have a drug addiction I got sober May 18th 2007, and I got pregnant October 28th 2007 so I mean drugs were out of my life before I got pregnant and there is no way I will go back to them but everytime I tell him he wont be in the babys life if he gets another DWI or if he cant stop his drinking he just brings that up and tells me he will take the baby from me and it iwll be easy with my past.

I donno I am so lost right now... He was doing sooo good, I might just be making excuses for him but I think that his nerves are just gettin the best of him right now.

Quoting *Kate* 3 weeks left!:“ I am sooo sorry to hear about your brother! I couldnt handle something like that happening, you ... [snip!] ... doing sooo good, I might just be making excuses for him but I think that his nerves are just gettin the best of him right now.”

I don't think he can get you just for your past:
Is there proof?
Do you have a history of arrests or anything?
If you can pass a drug test, I think you are fine.

You need to keep everything you have evident of doing anything wrong; text messages, phone messages, when was the last time he got a DWI? All the proof you can get that he is irresponsibly drinking, get it.

Yea, you should tell him to leave for the next two weeks. Tell him, it's a chance for him to get better about the drinking, because if he comes back when the baby is born and he is drunk/drinking, he is gone. Tell him that you don't want that stuff around your child, and if he is going to choose alcohol over his child, then he doesn't deserve to be a daddy.

Quoting Mommy of Lily Love:“ I don't think he can get you just for your past: Is there proof? Do you have a history of arrests ... [snip!] ... want that stuff around your child, and if he is going to choose alcohol over his child, then he doesn't deserve to be a daddy.”

The cops knew about me, but I was never arrested or anything! The only proof of my past at all is a completed drug treatment program when I was 17..

I dont remember when his last one was... a few months ago, but his next court date is July 21, my due date! I dont have anything saved from when he would drink, but his police records are pretty long, drinking and stuff like that.

If he ever comes home I am just going to sit down and tell him we need to talk, and I am going to ask him to leave till I have the baby because really my number 1 concern is my childs well being... and stress is not good for him... and in the future his father acting like this is not going to be good for him either.

I do love him but I have to think of my baby now!

Quoting *Kate* 3 weeks left!:“ The cops knew about me, but I was never arrested or anything! The only proof of my past at all is ... [snip!] ... future his father acting like this is not going to be good for him either. I do love him but I have to think of my baby now!”

Exactly. He can live on his own... your baby depends on you - and everything you allow him to have is going to define who he is & what he does.. he depends on you entirely!

The fact that you completed a drug program, is a good thing for you- it means you got help.
How old are you now?

Quoting Mommy of Lily Love:“ Exactly. He can live on his own... your baby depends on you - and everything you allow him to ... [snip!] ... entirely! The fact that you completed a drug program, is a good thing for you- it means you got help. How old are you now?”

I am 20 now, I will be 21 the end of August.

...How do I keep myself from stressin now... I want to call him but screw that! I have never been the type of person to keep calling until someone answer... So do I jsut wait and stress, or what do I do? lol I hate this! I feel like if I didnt have my pregnancy hormones going crazy I wouldnt even care, but right now its all I can think about!

Quoting *Kate* 3 weeks left!:“ I am 20 now, I will be 21 the end of August. ...How do I keep myself from stressin now... I want ... [snip!] ... I feel like if I didnt have my pregnancy hormones going crazy I wouldnt even care, but right now its all I can think about!”

I understand that feeling. It sucks.
But at the same time, if you didn't have your pregnancy hormones, it probably wouldn't be as big of a deal - cause it's not just YOU, it's you and baby!

Just do your best not to think of it   Go take a nap, or... a hobby that makes you not think of it.. Go visit your mom? Or a friend?  
That stress really is bad on your little on. May put you into labor.. lol.
And you should wait till July 19th to have the baby  

Try not to call him... I'd say try not to act like you care at all. Maybe your lack of being upset will worry him or something. Don't call.. and when he calls, wait about 3 rings to answer lol. Make him think you don't care what he does... maybe he'll be like "What??? but I'm being an asshole??!!!"