So confused!

Okay some of you may remeber all the drama i have been going through with myhubby/baby daddy, whatever he can be classified as! Well i moved back in with him mainly becauce it is the only way that i could see my son after all the courthouse and police drama(in case you dont know what i am talking about....(we had a huge arguement,I left to cool off and where i was going wasnt a good environment for my son so i left him at his grandmothers, i got a call a few hours later saying that i couldnt go even see my son...abandonment and attempting kidnapping charges were filed...) well a week after all that drama and the court date we went to lunch and talked and he said that if i was willing to work on everythng and move back in with him that i could see my son and he would drop all the court papers and the other charges, so i have been living with him agian for the past 2 weeks and i hate it! I dont want to be with him like at all! but if i leave i know i wont beable to see my son because all that stuff still isnt dropped!

And to top it off....i started work about a month ago and i LOVE it but he wants me to quit because his mom cant watch the baby anymore....but i really dont want to quit my sister offered to watch adian but he doesnt trust her to! he is trying to control me yet again!

And not to mention that hwne we were split up i started talking to this guy from work and i REALLY like him like we are jsut friends but he has already told me that once i figure out what i am gonna do and i am ready to date agian to let him know he doesnt care how long it takes me! he knows about EVERYTHING that has gone on and he wants to meet adian and all that good stuff i am just a little iffy bcause he is 28 and i am only 19....I just dont know anymore i have no feelings anymore what so ever for my sons dad but i know that if i move out that i wont get to see my son!!!

UGH sorry that was like more of a rant than anything else!

Hmm..you know..just from personal experience, you can never solve a problem with a man if there is another one in the picture messing your mind up.

If I were you, forget the 'work' guy for now and DO NOT base your decision on what he has told you. You have to decide for yourself and your baby based on what you want for your future, and do not let your decision be influenced by another person let alone a man you just met. Otherwise you will be stuck, and forever miserable and angry.

You have to sit down and think clearly on what you need/want to do and where you want to see yourself and your child in the near future. Have you told the father of your child about how you feel about him? How do you know that the reason why you dont want to be with him is not the other guy at work? Have you made an effort since you got back (the last 2 weeks)? How is your baby's father to you? Is he mean? Is he rude? Does he hurt you? Because sometimes, we like to see the bad in people especially if we 'think' we dont want them anymore because there is someone better out there. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, so they say. But you know what? Not all the time.

I suggest you get your priorities straight. Take care of your baby if working right now gives you and your husband problems. How old is your baby? Maybe your baby still needs to be looked after by you. If your husband is willing to support his family (you and your baby), then there is no rush for you to go back to work. Prioritise the welfare of your child before yourself.

I am not a shrink but I think I see where you are coming from.