Feeling Guilty....

I ask that you give me a chance to explain myself before you say I am horrible! I have been anticipating finding out the gender of my baby in the future. In fact I have about 10 weeks until I can do so. This is my second child. My first baby was a girl, and I was just overjoyed at the idea. Her and I have this amazing relationship that I don't think I would have had with a boy. I am feeling guilty because I am wanting another girl, and I am afraid if I find out its a boy I am going to be secretly dissapointed. Girls are all I know. All of my siblings and cousines are girls. As well as all my sister's children. Above all it is important that my baby is healthy and happy, I do realize this. Still, I can't shake the fear that this is a boy. Anyone gone through the same (whether anticipating a girl or boy)?

Kelli

hehe... dont feel bad, I cried for three days straight when I found out I was having a girl bc I wanted a boy. Now that she's almost here I kinda like the idea of having a girl... Either way you'll do fine!

I was just the opposite of you. I was a teeny bit disappointed that I wasn't having a boy. My gut feeling told me it was a boy and I was all excited to be able to have one of each. I don't know why, but I have always wanted a little boy. I was thrilled that the ultrasound showed a healthy baby, but couldn't help being a little bit secretly disappointed that it was another girl. That quickly changed within a few days though and I found myself getting excited about buying her clothes and picking out her name. Now I am thrilled to be having another girl and couldn't imagine it any other way!

I felt the same way when I found out I was pregnant with my first daughter. My son was such a momma's boy and I just knew I wouldn't be able to bond with a daughter the way I bonded with my son. I of course was WAY wrong. When you see your beautiful baby, regardless of the sex you'll forget all about how you feel now and fall head over heels in love. Don't feel bad! It may be hard to imagine loving another baby the way you love your daughter, but you will. 

im glad everyone else felt what i felt when i found out i was having a girl .. i really was hoping for a boy , but i think once i start shopping for her i will feel alot better about having a girl

I think it's pretty natural to have these feelings, but I felt pretty guilty too when I was disappointed to find out I was having a girl. I knew everyone kinda wanted a boy because we already have enough girls in our family, and it didn't help that the tech said sadly, "awwww...sorry I think you're having a girl, not a boy." It actually took me a couple weeks to get over the disappointment, even though I completely hid it from everyone else and pretended like I was excited to have a girl. I even cried once in my bed because of the disappointment AND the guilt. Now I'm so glad I'm having a girl cuz pink is my favorite color and I can't wait to dress her up and teach her all the girly things my mom never taught me. I'm sure even if you have a boy, you'll have ways to convince yourself that's exactly what you wanted.

Quoting kelli baby belly:“ I ask that you give me a chance to explain myself before you say I am horrible! I have been anticipating ... [snip!] ... Still, I can't shake the fear that this is a boy. Anyone gone through the same (whether anticipating a girl or boy)? Kelli”

Oh dont feel bad!! I was the same i was jumping for joy because i wanted a girl and i am having one, my husband and i would have been a little sad if it were a boy! Maybe having a boy would be a little challange for you! I think that if i were to get pregnant again i would want a boy, i want my daughter to have a brother to stick up for her and beat up the bullies LOL 

Thank you all. Sometimes this can be a rather critical forum. I was waiting for someone to call me a monster or something! I just feel so much pressure to have a boy. My boyfriend is the last living family member that can carry on the family name, so its (secretly) important to him that we have a boy. I think the fear comes from not knowing how to handle a boy. Then again when I think about it, I didnt know what I was in for with my little girl, so its natural to be afraid. Fingers crossed that I get a girl after all I am going through. My 1st pregnancy was a breeze. This one, yeah not so much. Gotta love the acne and the morning sickness!