Quoting Megan♥ baby Lydia:“ I think this is what the issue is. She does it out of excitement, frustration, anger. She is learning ... [snip!] ... in another room. Even when i go to the bathroom, she is in the hall right outside the door. Thanks for all the help ladies!”

My family thinks I'm mean because while I don't let him CIO, if he is playing with something he shouldn't and I take it away, I don't give into the crying for him to get it back. Try making a different sound when she screams and see if she'll mimick it, or scream very quietly. With Kieran, whenever he would growl really loudly (and I do mean REALLY loudly) I would just do a whispered growl back at him. Now he thinks it's funny to make the whispered sound.

Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:“ My family thinks I'm mean because while I don't let him CIO, if he is playing with something he shouldn't ... [snip!] ... I do mean REALLY loudly) I would just do a whispered growl back at him. Now he thinks it's funny to make the whispered sound.”

That's a good idea.  Yeah, Lydia cries when I take stuff away from her, but I don't give it back.  Usually I redirect her to something she can play with and she stops crying.  

Quoting Megan♥ baby Lydia:“ I agree that would be CIO, but I talk to her and play with her and give her toys and stuff. I just don't pick her up until she uses a different form of communication. Does that make sense?”

OOps I said CIO, but I do that too and I do Ap.. I dont' let him Scream at me either.... as soon as he stops I get him...

I don't feel what you are doing is CIO ..

If Hailey starts whining for no reason, I ignore her and she has learnt mommy isn't going to respond to her whining for no reason. When she stops the whining, I will respond to her.

You're sure he's just screaming and not crying? And it's not from Pain? Welcome to my world, Khym does this for fun. He enjoys it, doesn't do it if he's unhappy. Freaked my Aunt out at first, she couldn't figure out why he was screaming when he seemed happy. He does still have a scream-like cry, but it sounds different. And that's the one we usually get when we're in the car. He hates not being able to see us, and being "Tied" down, and doesn't want to believe us when we tell him he has to and that we still love him even if we're not in his face, and he's strapped into his car seat. Not many toys can make him happy in there, and we pray for him to go to sleep. He really does hate it that badly.

Quoting Lupin:“ You're sure he's just screaming and not crying? And it's not from Pain? Welcome to my world, Khym does ... [snip!] ... his car seat. Not many toys can make him happy in there, and we pray for him to go to sleep. He really does hate it that badly.”

It's a she and she is 6 months old.  I'm pretty sure I've figured out the difference between her cry and a scream.  I let  her scream if it isn't a pain scream (I am learning to tell the difference) or a panic scream.  I talk to her and tell her that mommy doesn't like screaming and she can ask me better for what she wants.  As soon as she cries I give her what she wants or pick her up.  

Quoting jamils_mommy:“ OOps I said CIO, but I do that too and I do Ap.. I dont' let him Scream at me either.... as soon as he stops I get him...”

Thanks!
I was hoping you, Danielle, or Holly would post in here.  I know you guys are pretty much in line with what we do.  

Since Lydia is doing it out of frustration and I know her pain scream from her frustration/whining scream, I don't respond to the frustration/whining, only the pain. 
I am so afraid she'll think I'm not there for her, so I just tell her that she doesn't need to scream and I understand she's frustrated, but crying would be a better way to tell me.  
I think a lot of it has to do with her teething right now, though.  And we've had a crazy busy week!  
IMO it's not CIO because I'm talking to her and not just leaving her alone.  So, I am letting her know I am here for her, but she needs to find a better way to express herself.  Which is caring guidance to me.  
I just wanted to see everyone's opinion.  

Thanks ladies!!

Personally, I do not think it is CIO.  She isn't crying, she's doing an attention grabbing scream/squeal.  Plus, you go to her as ssoon as it turns to a cry.  But, CIO is what you make of it- I think that after checking to make sure she is ok, and she is fed/dry/warm/etc and she is still wailing, I will put her down for 5 minutes to take a braether.  I do not think that is CIO, I think that is keeping me sane!  I don't let her cry for 20 mins or whatever that some people recommend, but I will let her go for a few minutes if I am washing dishes or whatever.  Actually, she doens't even cry that often now, it was more when she was maybe up to 3 months.  I definitely don't think you are doing CIO though  

Quoting merbobear:“ Personally, I do not think it is CIO. She isn't crying, she's doing an attention grabbing scream/squeal. ... [snip!] ... even cry that often now, it was more when she was maybe up to 3 months. I definitely don't think you are doing CIO though  ”

Lydia has only twice ever gotten to the point where I've had to take a breather for my sanity. But, I don't think doing that is CIO either! I think it's best for baby for mommy to be calm as possible!

I am alsoanti-CIO for long periods of time.I do believe that a high pitch scream could be caused by pain ie teething, tummy ache, etc. Although I am anti-CIO when I put my son down for a nap or to bed and he cries, I usually let that go on for 10 min tops. He eventually figured out that when I put him in the crib it meant that he is to sleep and the crying eventually stopped when I put him in the crib and he just layed there, talked, rolled around for a while and then went to sleep within a few minutes. I do know that crying is their way of tellig us whats wrong but you will be able to figure out what type of cry it is soon enough. & by them CIO for a few minutes is only going to help them learn.

I hoped this helped you. =)

Well, luckily she hasn't been screaming in frustration as much as she was because she's got the crawling thing down now. Thank goodness! She was just mad because she couldn't go as fast as she wanted. Stinker!

I voted NOT! Easton went through a phase where he screamed but it was just because he found his voice.

I would redirect him and say really quietly "inside voice" then he would start trying to whisper. If that didn't work I just moved on to another toy and then eventually he would shimmy over and join me.

Now we are dealing with temper tantrums... babies just never let you win!