Am I taking it too far??

Right now I am 23 weeks and I am expecting twin boys in October. This is me and my boyfriends first pregnancy, but he never wants to go to the doctor with me or anything. He doesn't even feel my stomach when the babies kick. When I went and found out that I was having two boys and had all of these ultrasound pics he didn't even care to look at them. I just can't figure out whats the problem. Is it me and my hormones?? He makes me think I'm crazy everytime I try to talk to him about the problem and says its the pregnancy talking. He was so excited at the beginning of the pregnancy now it feels like he doesn't want talk about it anymore. He recently started talking to a girl that he was working with and had the nerve to tell her that the twins are not his. I'm just so stressed right now and don't know what to do anymore. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because I just can't figure out what happened. And now he wants to get an DNA test after the twins are born, I just don't know what went wrong??!! I'm trying to stay strong for me and my babies but it is really hard for me...What should I do??? I will be graduating from college in the fall and I just recently found a four bedroom house in Tx for me and my kids because I want a good life for them but I don{t think my boyfriend wants to be in the picture!! And he{s always pushing me to the side telling me to stay out of his business!! I just don{t know anymore 

dump him. that is stupid. he shouldn't trat you that way.

Quoting msros:“ Right now I am 23 weeks and I am expecting twin boys in October. This is me and my boyfriends first pregnancy, ... [snip!] ... in the picture!! And he{s always pushing me to the side telling me to stay out of his business!! I just don{t know anymore ”

=[ That's sad. Jeff was excited. It freaked him out hearing the heartbeat and he actually had to leave the room, ha, but after that he was cool. The whole dad thing scares him I think.

your man is retarded. Sorry to say it.

If you found a house and can make it on your own, and you have a good support system...then screw him!! It's not worth the stress you're putting on yourself and those babies. Plenty of fish in the sea, baby. Fuck him.

Then...give him the paternity test and take him to court and sue him for all the child support you can. Screw that whole "I'll be with you if they're really mine" shit. He should trust you no matter what. I HATE HATE HATE men like that. Women have enough shit to deal with while being pregnant. Sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let some loser guy bring you down just because he wants to look good for some stupid girl. And if that girl he's talking to has any sense at all, she'd stay the fuck outta the picture. Obviously, if he's gonna put you through all that, what makes her think he'd do any better for her??? Some people are just so ignorant...and disrespectful as hell. If it were me, I'd be referring to him as just a 'sperm donor' now.

Sorry, that was a little harsh....but....ya gotta love prego hormones. ;)

good luck, girl. ::big hugs::

Absolutly not. It seems like he all of a sudden has an interest with this new girl and wants to leave his responsibilites behind him. That is so selfish and you deserve better. I am so sorry goodluck

Quoting Kperry143:“ Absolutly not. It seems like he all of a sudden has an interest with this new girl and wants to leave his responsibilites behind him. That is so selfish and you deserve better. I am so sorry goodluck”

agreed, if you can't afford the house on your own will your parents let you move back in with them to get some help until you can get yourself on your feet?

He should feel so blessed you 2 are having twins, it's twice the blessing. I swear guys don't grow up until they're 30+, or worse, never!  

I totally agree with Danielle!! Men seem to take FOREVER to grow up!! My BF was not too excited when I found out I was pregnant, he actually wanted me to get an abortion (totally out of the question for me!) I tried so hard in the beginning to get him 'involved' and want him to be part of it. Then all of a sudden one day I said.. you know what... I don't need him!! My little boy and me deserve a wonderful daddy figure that will spoil us completely and love us no matter what to the ends of the earth. As soon as I let go and showed him I didn't need himand I was less interested in 'making' him want this.. he all of a sudden stepped up. He didn't like the idea that we would be fine w/o him   He finally realized I was no longer going to bed or grovel at his feet.. he was either in completely with his heart and dedication.. or we would find someone better   Now he's great.. can't wait for the little guy to get here   So don't push yourself to worry... if he's not the one, there will be someone   No point in making something work that doesn't. Every woman deserves a man that will rub her back, get her food, rub her feet, play with the babies and feel the kicks, be active in the Dr's appts..

Don't worry if you're alone with that now.. your sons need you more than anything. There will be someone to share the good moments with you and the twins.. someone to watch their first steps, buy them their "1st Bday" cakes, take them to Disney Land, make them smile.. it may be your BF, and it may not. Dont' worry.. and Don't stress   You always have the support of women that know how that feels and goes  

I'm not wanting for anything in a financial way I just think its the whole thing of me doing it all by myself with no spouse that is killing me. I don't want my kids to grow up without there real father but it seems that I'm going to have to do whats best for me and the kids. I just don't know what to think about him anymore because everytime I tell people that I'm having twins they get more excited than my boyfriend does. He doesn't even know how many weeks or months I am!! That's just ridiculous, but when he first found out I was pregnant he did and said everything to let me know that everything would be alright. We have been together for four years now and I have never seen this side of him. When I called the girl that he is suppose to be talking to he got really upset and calling me all types of names which made me confused because this wasn't the same guy that I have known for four years!! And the only reason that he's still talking to me now is because he thinks that I'm going to put him on Child support and he doesn't want that to happen. We both have apartments in the same city because we go to the same college and he won't even be caught dead with me in the mall or wal-mart!! Its like he's ashamed of me or something but everyone else wants to take me out and show me off like I'm some attraction or something. I'm just so confused...... I really hope no one else is going through this because it doesn't feel good at all!!

well 1st off hunny my hubby is the same way. he is a MAN and a lot of them just dont care to hear about babys i guess. i dont make him go to DR. appt. or anything cuz its really up to him if he wants to. he goes to the birthing classes and u/s but thats it. but its kinda like they dont really get into FATHERING until the baby or babies are here. we become mothers much sooner. its just the way things go most of the time. so its not really that big of a deal. dont let it upset u..NOW about him and this other girl..FUCK that. let him get a DNA test dump his ass and hit him up for CS! =]] be a bitch right back. SHIT if nick pulled that shit on me..we would be DONE and he wouldnt be seeing his son. he should deny his babies until he knows 100% they ARENT his. so let him test then tell him to FUCK OFF. =]]

Quoting NewMommy2Be!:“ I totally agree with Danielle!! Men seem to take FOREVER to grow up!! My BF was not too excited when ... [snip!] ... BF, and it may not. Dont' worry.. and Don't stress   You always have the support of women that know how that feels and goes  ”

I had a very similar experience. DB really wasn't into this baby thing in the beginning, and abortion was definitely one of the things on his mind. However he did go to my Dr's appts from the very beginning, but keep in mind he's prob much older than your bf. When I finally got upset and told him if he doesn't show me he loves the baby & I, he'll never see us again, and he's doesn't need to go to the Dr's appts with me anymore cuz I don't need him, he really stepped up. Now he's almost as excited as I am. Sometimes when you back off and show them they're not necessary, they man up. But this other girl thing, I don't know, I'd kick his ass over that.