And it goes on.....

Some of you may have been reading my little saga. I don't know. But, for those of you who have, just an update.
After my hubby informed me Tuesday night he was no longer happy and wanted out I told him as soon as he could make arrangements, I wanted him out of the house. He had made it sound that night like he could move in with his brother. Brother and brother's gf said no. So, he tells me he's moving in with this chick he works with, the same one I suspect he was seeing. I hit the fucking roof!! So, then he finally admitted to me that he'd been seeing her for the last few months. I told him I have no respect for anyone that would leave their wife/gf/so pregnant, especially for somone else. I also told him I had no respect for any woman that would be seeing a married man knowing his wife was pregnant. He says he lied to her and told her we were already seprated when he (by his own admission HE) initiated the relationship. I told him, well, if you don't tell her you lied to her, then I will. And I plan to. I know our problems went back years and deeper than this little twit, she's just a whole new twist in the plot. He cheated on me before, and I should've known he'd do it again, but, tried the best I could to make it work, because I did love him and we had been together for so long it seemed like a waste to not make an attempt. Then I said, so you planned on continuing to lie to me and see this bitch behind my back for the rest of my pregnancy and after she was born and then tell me. And he said yeah. Real fucking winner I tell you. I cannot believe I wasted 17 years of my life on this man. I know I haven't been perfect. I didn't have a good role model of what a marriage should be like when growing up and I did the best I could. He wasn't perfect either. And now that I am against open visitation and/or joint custody he wants to tell me what a terrible mother I have been to our 7 year old and how I'm going to treat this baby like shit too. I haven't been a perfect parent either, but who is? We make mistakes and learn from them. I didn't have a good role model of what it meant to be a good mom either and I've done the best I could, the best way I know/knew how.
I'm just so damned hurt, angry, frustrated.....I'm so many things right now I really dont know what the hell I am. I'm stuck at work til tomorrow and I really don't want to be here but, I really can't afford to go home. I want to just burst into tears but, I cant here and then I get so angry about wanting to cry over his sorry sack of shit ass, that I get pissed at myself. Oh happy fucking day!!!

If it makes you feel better, I bet your divorce lawyer can make him look like rat scum of the earth good enough for you to get full custody...

and lots of alimony....

Fucktard deserves it.

I just feel like the biggest, fatest, dumbass fool on the fucking planet right now.

wow i dont even know what to say. i just really truly dont know what to do. i will applaud you for being civil vs. whoppin his ass! and screw what he says about you being a bad mother, does he think he deserves the best dad of the year award, hell no!

OMG! i also applaud your self-restraint because i might have choked him out especially being pregnant (hormones!!) i also agree that a divorce lawyer will rip his ass to shreds. first, he admits to starting an affair and then walks out on you while you are pregnant. girl, have your doctor put you on stress-related bed rest and make his dumbass PAY ALL THE BILLS! you will get tons of alimony and child support. i would be so done with him! move on you deserve much better.

Quoting Cassie's Taxi:“ OMG! i also applaud your self-restraint because i might have choked him out especially being pregnant ... [snip!] ... ALL THE BILLS! you will get tons of alimony and child support. i would be so done with him! move on you deserve much better.”

agreed! and i have to tell you i love your avi!

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Men are pigs.  

I would love to go on the stress induced bed rest but, for one~ I like my job and it'll help me keep my mind off of everything and secondly, I'm not goin to let him know he's got to me that bad. Oh, he don't know he's gonna have to pay big time. Especially since I have no sick leave/vacation time or maternity leave since I just started this job in January, 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant. So, he's gonna have to pay all my bills while I'm out. I would love to choke the shit out the bastard but, I'd rather let the karma train runhis ass over than sit in jail and can't be with my kids.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ I would love to go on the stress induced bed rest but, for one~ I like my job and it'll help me keep ... [snip!] ... choke the shit out the bastard but, I'd rather let the karma train runhis ass over than sit in jail and can't be with my kids.”

is really possible that your job wont alott you maternity leave or vacation time seeing as how your going to need it?

Quoting .Kingston's.Mommie.:“ is really possible that your job wont alott you maternity leave or vacation time seeing as how your going to need it?”

Nope vacation and sick leave have to be built up. And maternity leave is not even offered where I work. And since I haven't been here that long I have like 20 hours of vacation and sick leave. I won't even qualify for that Family Medical Leave Act since I haven't been here a year. Even at that it's unpaid leave. Yeah, I'm so screwed. I won't have the money for an attorney for awhile. I'm going to have to work double overtime and try to save. He was never physically abusive so I don't qualify for legal aid. I have to go and try to qualify for WIC and I don't know if I can get Medicaid since me and my daughter are insured. I'm going to try to get food stamps but, I don't know if I'll get that either. And since we're in debt up to our eyeballs, he's gonna have to work 5 jobs to pay for two households. And that's fine..fucker deserves to have to do that. I hope he gives himself a damn stroke.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Nope vacation and sick leave have to be built up. And maternity leave is not even offered where I work. ... [snip!] ... 5 jobs to pay for two households. And that's fine..fucker deserves to have to do that. I hope he gives himself a damn stroke.”

wow. man there is something that you can probably do. it just doesnt seem to a ass up. seriously, i havent been working at my job for 3 months yet and i was offered maternity leave, lol, and if they arent, after i have the baby, im going to take a month off and find a new job. maybe if possible thats what you'll have to do,plus working overtime might add extra stress on you which can put you in a high risk category. i say take sometime to think about it, i know you like your job and all but sacarifice, esp. when it comes to your children isa must.

Quoting .Kingston's.Mommie.:“ wow. man there is something that you can probably do. it just doesnt seem to a ass up. seriously, i ... [snip!] ... take sometime to think about it, i know you like your job and all but sacarifice, esp. when it comes to your children isa must.”

Oh yeah, I know. I meant after the baby comes I'll have to work double. No, they don't offer any type of maternity. And since it's a county government I work for, they don't have to. I'm going to try to find a job with regular hours when I go out on leave. That way I won't have such a hard time trying to find someone to watch the baby, since I really have no kind of support. That's a whole other story.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Oh yeah, I know. I meant after the baby comes I'll have to work double. No, they don't offer any type ... [snip!] ... such a hard time trying to find someone to watch the baby, since I really have no kind of support. That's a whole other story.”

oh i interupreted it wrong! lol my bad. but i get what your saying. well hopefully it all works out in the end in a positive way.

Quoting .Kingston's.Mommie.:“ oh i interupreted it wrong! lol my bad. but i get what your saying. well hopefully it all works out in the end in a positive way.”

Thank you. I appreaciate you listening. 

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Thank you. I appreaciate you listening. ”

no problem, just keep us posted! lol