Military girlfriend/wife/fiance

Ok my boyfriend is a cadet in the army national guard. He left until august yesterday. for training. the thing that scares me is im gonna have him leave for long term. he told me that he doesnt care about me sleeping with other people until he gets back as long as i tell him. but i respect him enough to not do that.
so does this get any easier? what can i do to make the sex extra special when he gets home and the next time he has to leave again. im a very open person. oral sex is not a problem for me. i usually initiate it so if thats what you were gonna suggest its already been done countless times. to the point that he decided when we get back we are gonna make a video yearbook for the next time he has to go away... lol... any help would be great. i am very mature for being only 18 and hes 23. i wanna make this work. i love him. and the only thing is i wanna get advice on the military significant other lifestyle.

Waaaaait a sec. Your boyfriend doesn't care that you sleep with other people until he gets back? You do know that he's going to sleep with someone, even if he is training... I'm sorry, I have nothing to say that will help you but that's just disrespectful. I wouldn't stay with anyone who said they didn't care if I slept with other people.  

If he is ok with you sleeping with other ppl....what about him...how is that working? Easier.....yes and no.....its hard but you get used to it...hope that makes sense. As for sex....there is lots of ways to make it interesting....search the net and you will find several things....but if either of you arent having sex with anyone else....the time a part alone keeps the sex good.

Quoting LittleTee22 ☮:“ Waaaaait a sec. Your boyfriend doesn't care that you sleep with other people until he gets back? You ... [snip!] ... help you but that's just disrespectful. I wouldn't stay with anyone who said they didn't care if I slept with other people.  ”

Prude.

It's hard having them away for such a long time nut when he comes ghome it'll be the best time in your life. Just keepp your chin up and see if you and see if you can fiind out an adress where you can write to him. That's what kept me from going crazy when my husband went to basic(before we were married and I had only been able to hang out with him for two weeks) I still have his letters and reread them all the time. As for the sex..I'm noot a big sex person so I can't really help you there sorry.

Quoting LittleTee22 ☮:“ Waaaaait a sec. Your boyfriend doesn't care that you sleep with other people until he gets back? You ... [snip!] ... help you but that's just disrespectful. I wouldn't stay with anyone who said they didn't care if I slept with other people.  ”

Lol I agree. I definetely think the guy will sleep with someone else with an attitude like that. When I first read it, my mouth opend and I was like "WHAT?"

Quoting LittleTee22 ☮:“ Waaaaait a sec. Your boyfriend doesn't care that you sleep with other people until he gets back? You ... [snip!] ... help you but that's just disrespectful. I wouldn't stay with anyone who said they didn't care if I slept with other people.  ”

trust me he wont be sleeping with anyone else. he got divorced due to giving his exwife the option of having sex with someone while he was gone as long as when he asked she told. she lied they divorced. i told him before he left that i could wait the effin month it wont kill me and he just got this huge smile on his face. i guess that wasnt the answer he was expecting.

Quoting *Arrogant Cocksucker!*:“ Prude.”

Married? Faithful? Un-sloot like?

Quoting Akeema:“ It's hard having them away for such a long time nut when he comes ghome it'll be the best time in your ... [snip!] ... his letters and reread them all the time. As for the sex..I'm noot a big sex person so I can't really help you there sorry.”

I still have my husbands letters from boot camp from 3 years ago and read them during deployments! I remember waiting what seemed like forever for him to write the first one lol. Hmmm he seemed so much sweeter in those days lol

Quoting AriJ&?sMommy:“ Lol I agree. I definetely think the guy will sleep with someone else with an attitude like that. When I first read it, my mouth opend and I was like "WHAT?"”

I didn't mean to come off harsh, call me prude but I was like welllll... THAT is how people do NOT last.

Quoting LittleTee22 ☮:“ Married? Faithful? Un-sloot like?”

A whole month too ...man. I thought I was doing good

Quoting Akeema:“ It's hard having them away for such a long time nut when he comes ghome it'll be the best time in your ... [snip!] ... his letters and reread them all the time. As for the sex..I'm noot a big sex person so I can't really help you there sorry.”

thank you for not being judgemental. but anyways we were gonna write but he said he really wouldnt have the time and since its only for a month by the time he gets my letter he'll be in my arms. hes not in basic im not 100% sure what hes in fort louis for but i know its basic like training

Quoting Amanda_Beth:“ trust me he wont be sleeping with anyone else. he got divorced due to giving his exwife the option of ... [snip!] ... the effin month it wont kill me and he just got this huge smile on his face. i guess that wasnt the answer he was expecting.”

Sooooo... He got divorced for giving his wife that option... And he gave the same option to you... I'm just putting two and two together, it seems like he doesn't give a shit if you guys break up BUT that's just me. I don't know you guys so I'm stepping out of this now. Good luck!  

Quoting LittleTee22 ☮:“ I didn't mean to come off harsh, call me prude but I was like welllll... THAT is how people do NOT last.”

Some people have esteem issues lover.
Rog is the opp uber jealous and harsh about it.
Same prob, diff reactions

Quoting Amanda_Beth:“ trust me he wont be sleeping with anyone else. he got divorced due to giving his exwife the option of ... [snip!] ... the effin month it wont kill me and he just got this huge smile on his face. i guess that wasnt the answer he was expecting.”

I dont know you or your b/f personal but I can almost guarentee (sp) you with an attitude like that, he will probably sleep with someone else. A lot of cheating goes on in the military......I would believe that he probably cheated on his wife too and thats why they are divorced.