re: Letting newborns Cry it out

Quoting Sabr1na:“ Oh man well its 6:39 and I'm still awake I can't sleep now and he's out like a light. I don't understand ... [snip!] ... help him at night. I've tried bathing him, singing to him, feeding him, etc. I think its time for a call to the pediatrician.”

Also remember that they can feel and sense our frustration! I am not saying it is easy to relax yourself whne you are so sleep deprieved.. but try to calm youself when they get fussy....they can feel our frustration

Quoting Sabr1na:“ My mother keeps telling me that me and my SO should listen to her because she and his mother and step ... [snip!] ... know but the freaking books and no one ever tells you about the reality of when you bring the baby home and all this happens.”

Even ifsomeone has "been there, done that", it doesn't mean that it'll work for you and your child. Every baby is different! Advice to a new mom is always appreciated but we can choose to take it or ignore it, that's our perogative.

I don't think you should let your new born cry it out just yet. And keeping a baby awake during the day is not right, either. Newborns sleep about 16-20 hours out of the day. Keeping them awake during the day is more for older kids, but not babies. They sleep almost constantly in the womb - why would they stay awake now any more than they did then?

The books are a joke, in my opinion. You can take bits and pieces of the information you read and integrate it into your lives, but if you listen word for word, you'll stress yourslf out and be very disappointed when things don't go your way.

You're doing just fine mama.
The first six weeks are survival. Don't worry about a schedule or routine just yet. Do what you have to do to get by and everything else will fall into place eventually. Promise.

Quoting ler♥sef:“ It will get better with Sam 3 weeks passed by before I even went to sleep. Get some one to watch him ... [snip!] ... him in your house during the day so you can sleep and stay up with him during the night. That's what I did and it worked great.”

Yes I know it will get better and I keep telling myself this. I can't believe I'm wide awake,alert and actually have energy right now? I think I went to sleep though at 8 and got up at 11 or 12. Its crazy how you adjust like that, the human body amazes me. My mom just left back to CA and my bf's mom is going to come stay for a few I hope.

Quoting mamajapa:“ Also remember that they can feel and sense our frustration! I am not saying it is easy to relax yourself ... [snip!] ... relax yourself whne you are so sleep deprieved.. but try to calm youself when they get fussy....they can feel our frustration”

I have actually gotten better about not being tense I'm just very very tired I just want to comfort him when he's upset and fussy. I know they can probably sense the frusteration but I'm actually surprisingly calm well until I start crying with him.

Quoting Mama Denise:“ Even ifsomeone has "been there, done that", it doesn't mean that it'll work for you and your child. ... [snip!] ... a schedule or routine just yet. Do what you have to do to get by and everything else will fall into place eventually. Promise.”

Doing what I need to do to survive is just what I'm doing. I know the books aren't right in everything that they say, I take a lot of what is written kinda like how I take what my mom says actaully. Some of it is good but it doesn't all work for everyone or isn't true for everyone. I think the babies are going to do what they are going to do and that can't be prevented. Gosh I don't know how my friend does it with her twins. I guess you always find a way.

Quoting Sabr1na:“ Doing what I need to do to survive is just what I'm doing. I know the books aren't right in everything ... [snip!] ... going to do and that can't be prevented. Gosh I don't know how my friend does it with her twins. I guess you always find a way.”

And after a few months, some people are ready to TTC again. I don't get it. I've got my hands full with just one. I know that it will get harder in different ways, and I don't want another one for a few years. Oi.

Sounds like you're doing exactly what you should be doing, mama.
Hang in there!

Quoting Mama Denise:“ And after a few months, some people are ready to TTC again. I don't get it. I've got my hands full ... [snip!] ... don't want another one for a few years. Oi. Sounds like you're doing exactly what you should be doing, mama. Hang in there!”

We wanted two but now I'm pretty sure we are done lol, I know I am. I dont see how people w/more than one do it, I'm pretty sure they posess superhuman powers.

cio is dangerous for a newborn.  Just have to sleep during the day with him for now!

Newborns lack the cognitive ability known as object permanence, which means thatthey really don't know that things exist if they can't see them, including parents! So newborns should not be allowed to cry, as others have pointed out in this thread; they need plenty of attention when they're awake. However, if the baby just fed and is still fussing after he should be full, you are probably dealing with colic. This is simply a gas problem. We experienced this, and found that mylicon works great. You should be able to pick it up at any supermarket or drug store. Just use the dropper in the bottle and give him about .03mg in his cheek. It will settle that gas and pass throughhis system. It is completely safe. Hope this helps!

i didn't read any responces, but

Letting a new born CIO is considered neglect and borderline child abuse in my opinion.