re: Letting newborns Cry it out

Most likely, letting him cry it out won't do anything but make him cry more. He is still confused with this whole day and night thing and probably just doesn't want to sleep. I had my times with my son when I would cry with him at night.. Have you tried laying him next to you and nursing him? It always seemed to calm my son down. Good luck, I know its hard but they really don't know how to self soothe at this age. Make sure you are napping with him in the day and then making a routine out of bedtime, turn the lights down and the tv off and let him understand that bedtime is when its dark and daytime is to play.

Have you seen a pedi since he has been born? Kailyn was like that for the first week - inconsolable at night... when we went for her weight check she was losing like crazy. I was having trouble BFing and had no idea... I am definitely pro-BFing... but it might be something you want to check out - he may still be hungry.

You could also try swaddling, cuddling, your shirt in his bassinet, womb sounds or white noise, ora swing if you have one. We started co-sleeping early on and supplimenting with formula at about 2 weeks old. But by 6 weeks we were exclusively bottle feeding. At 8 weeks she was sleeping all night. But the first few weeks are the toughest! Do you have friend/family who could stay with you for a day or two to help you out so that you can get some sleep? I am a single mom, my mother was a HUGE help to me in those first few weeks! Good luck!

Quoting Sabr1na:“ My mom told me to let him CIO. I was told you can't spoil a newborn but I'm going to try the chest thing. Maybe skin to skin contact will work also. Thank you   I feel so helpless.”

It will get easier!! That is the hard part thinking that it will never end! But it will. Just remember your baby has been inside of you for 9 months - close to you and now it has to get used to all of the new things going on - sleeping away from mommy, eating new food ( BM ) and just living outside of its cozy warm womb!   you will be ok...just take it a day at a time!

Quoting Mrs♥ Mendoza:“ What worked for me was laying my baby on my chest for a bit patting her back or bottom lightly till she ... [snip!] ... till she just fell asleep once she did i laid her in her crib gently and she was fine. I hope this helps a little good luck!”

That's whatwe did. I had to be veeeery gentle, because she woke up easily. But it worked for a while. 

Oh my goodness you guys I let him cry for a few and I couldn't let him just do that I picked him up and rocked him to sleep. I tried the chest thing and thats all he wanted. I feel like a bad mommy   I had to cry with him I know he's brand new. Tonight I tried a bath with that nighttime bath and he feels very good now. Thanks for your responses I felt so shitty just letting him cry, but I know it will get better. Things just seem so much worse when your dead tired but he puts a smile on my face when he looks up with his little eyes, he's so alert.

Just wanted to say my baby is only 2 weeks old..so i feel your pain..but laying her belly down on my chest and rubbing her back while making a quiet "shushing" noise realllly helps
but I have also noticed that at night...she just wants to be held..and me holding and rocking her is the only thing that will put her to sleep..

I feel the pain. Today was Aubrey's two week birthday, and I've cried at least five nights from the past fourteen because she seemed inconsolable. She doesn't like baths yet, and she doesn't like her swing, but she DOES love laying on her tummy on my chest. I usually have to keep her there for half an hour after she's dozed off before it's safe to put her in her crib without waking her back up.

the advice you got is golden. works almost everytime.
but if you want, while your feeding him try laying down and have him lay beside you and while he`s laying there, trying litely singing to him and also patting his back gentally. between the comfort of eaating, hearing your voice and the ease of his back being patted, im certain he`d be out like a light.
also if your trying to get him to sleep at night, dont turn on a big light maybe turn on a light in your hall way just so you can see, but dark enough he cant focuse on anything, so he wont get distracted and find thing to keep him awake.

Get a swing, they are a life saver!! And a Glinder chair, they work like magic!! Do you have a rocking chair sometimes that works as well, after you fed him just rock him and he should be out like a light.
The chest thing works, so I've read, b/c they hear the sound of your heartbeat, remember thats something their used to hearing, thats why it works best.

Oh man well its 6:39 and I'm still awake I can't sleep now and he's out like a light. I don't understand why he gets so fidgety during the night, he never does this during the day. He's perfect during the day I don't get it. He doesn't like his swing and he gets so irritated at night that he has flung the pacifier across the room. Its like he has ants in his pants or something. I do put him on my chest while I"m rocking him and sometimes he gets annoyed at that too. My mom says he has colic but I'm not certain on that one, but she also says my breast milk isn't satisfying him. I really don't think she knows hwat she's talking about. Hopefully these first few weeks will fly by and he'll get on track soon. I feel so helpless when I can't help him at night. I've tried bathing him, singing to him, feeding him, etc. I think its time for a call to the pediatrician.

Quoting Sabr1na:“ Oh man well its 6:39 and I'm still awake I can't sleep now and he's out like a light. I don't understand ... [snip!] ... help him at night. I've tried bathing him, singing to him, feeding him, etc. I think its time for a call to the pediatrician.”

You know it could be gas or/and acid reflux....so yeah maybe you should take him to the pedi.

Quoting SNUGGLES0414:“ You know it could be gas or/and acid reflux....so yeah maybe you should take him to the pedi.”

acid reflux actually popped into my mind when I saw him fidgeting I'll have to call today. Poor little guy

Quoting Matthew's Mommy. ♥:“ I read somewhere that there is no such thing as spoiling a baby.”

Oh,it's possible. But not within the first few weeks.

Quoting Mama Denise:“ Oh,it's possible. But not within the first few weeks.”

My mother keeps telling me that me and my SO should listen to her because she and his mother and step mom have been there, done that. She said letting them cry it out in 10 min intervals and forcing them to stay awake during the day is what we should do. I don't know but the freaking books and no one ever tells you about the reality of when you bring the baby home and all this happens.

Quoting Sabr1na:“ Does anyone do this? I'm probably a bad mother but my 1 week old is still up at 4:39 and I haven't been ... [snip!] ... rock him, put him on his boppy. I knew it wasn't going to be all peaches and cream but omg he has his days and nights mixed up.”

It will get better with Sam 3 weeks passed by before I even went to sleep. Get some one to watch him in your house during the day so you can sleep and stay up with him during the night. That's what I did and it worked great.