insecure =\ kinda long..

okay so this is something that i really dont know how to go about even trying to fix/cope with..it seems like ever since i got pregnant im the most insecure person about everything. and by everything i mean anything and everything that has to do with babies. what sparks this up is today being a holiday i was around alot of family, which is overwhelming all in itself being 9 months preggo, but my cousin had her babygirl about 5 months ago..and just everyone telling me to hold her and saying "better get used to that!" when she fussed about drove me off a cliff. when my boyfriend rubs my tummy in public..i seriously want to start crying. i hate ANYTHING that draws attention to that fact that im pregnant. i dont get why this is...being a teen and pregnant yeah i knew i was going to get judged but im more the type of person to be like screw em! if they wanna stare-let em! but i almost feel ashamed of myself in a way. and when anyone asks me ANYTHING about it i become so mortified/embarrassed i just want to curl up and die. i dont get it!! i am SO in love with this baby and am not ashamed of giving this child life, so why cant i just be okay with it?! and i know when he actually GETS here its only going to be worse..i get this anxiety like i dont want ANYONE to watch anything i do cause i dont want them to think im doing it wrong..im just really scared im going to let all this anxiety overpower my ability to be the best mother i can be..can anyone give some input?  

You will be a great mother; I am sure everyone is just trying to help you be prepared and seems like everyone always has their 2 cents they want to add in. Anyone who is a mother had to learn at one point or another and being a mother IS learning along the way. I am sure you will make mistakes, just like I will and everyone else in the world. Just remember that...nobody is perfect and I am sure you will do great. You have your head on straight and WANT to be the best mommy you can so just try to ignore all the comments or at least shrug them off. Good luck to you, I hope things get better!

I know how you feel, I get the same around anyone elses children. I feel like if I mother them that their actual mother will tell me I'm doing it wrong or something. I won't even play with a child unless nobody is there to watch me and tell me I'm doing it wrong. I used to tell everyone I don't like babies just so they wouldn't put me in that awkward position, but now it's coming back because everyone keeps saying "Geez you hate kids, how are you gonna handle having your own?". I have a feeling that having my own child will help me overcome that problem, because then I will have experienced what they have and know what to do.

It got really bad the other night when I was having dinner with my mum, her boyfriend, her friend and her friend's husband. I was telling them our plans (Like cloth diapers for around home, taking formula with us when we go shopping because I don't want to BF in public etc) and her friend pretty much laughed in my face and told me "No, that's not going to work". I felt like crying  

Quoting lindsey09:“ I know how you feel, I get the same around anyone elses children. I feel like if I mother them that their ... [snip!] ... in public etc) and her friend pretty much laughed in my face and told me "No, that's not going to work". I felt like crying  ”

agh yeah thats completely it right there!! just down right awkward. and it seems like im that way about everything that has to do with it!! its driving me crazy i want to be like all excited and ranting about how much i cant wait but im dreading itt! haha ugh. 

Quoting JuLY 27Th**:“ agh yeah thats completely it right there!! just down right awkward. and it seems like im that way about ... [snip!] ... its driving me crazy i want to be like all excited and ranting about how much i cant wait but im dreading itt! haha ugh. ”

I know   Maybe it's because we're young...I feel like people are going to look and say "She doesn't even know what she's doing, look at how young she is." when really it's nothing to do with our age, just how little help we may or may not have. It scares me even more when I come on here and people are asking questions about their newborns and a lot of the time it's something I've NEVER heard of before...I feel like I should go out and buy a billion baby books just to be a bit smarter about this lol. But either way, we'll be good mums. I think the fact that we're worried about doing things right will make us better, because we'll constantly be keeping an eye on our children and wanting to learn more about them. Which is better than not having any kids and thinking you know absolutely everything  

Quoting lindsey09:“ I know   Maybe it's because we're young...I feel like people are going to look and say "She doesn't ... [snip!] ... and wanting to learn more about them. Which is better than not having any kids and thinking you know absolutely everything  ”

ahh well said!! you give me hope   haha

You sound really nervous to me, and that is just SUPER normal. No matter what your age is. It's OK to be nervous, let those feelings cycle instead of trying to make yourself feel otherwise and just find ways to cope. Read, research, plan, etc...

I'm sorry you are struggling so much right now.

I have also been thrown into that situation many times already and I'm only 9 weeks along. I am afraid to hold babies since my nephew almost fell backwards out of my arms when I was younger. But recently I have been nagged about babysitting for other family members, and learning this and that. I figured, yea I have to learn sometime but I feel more comfortable learning when I am comfortable. And I'm hoping it comes easier with my own child. And it's strange that to look at me with someone else's kids people can't imagine me being a good mother, but I feel on the inside that I will, and try to remain confident for the months ahead.