pray for me

i'm 5 & half month pregnant with a man who doesnt wanna ever marry me....ruined my immigration status...doesnt do much except blame stuff on me...thinks he can come n go frm my life...it hurt so bad cause im pregnant n all he does is complain about every single thing bout me....im so worried 4 my poor baby...im halfway there n blames me for getting pregnant when all i can think of is how happy im to b blessed with my baby....i dont even ask for any kind of help from him...he jus brings me down...please pray for me...

Quoting greenleaf:“ i'm 5 & half month pregnant with a man who doesnt wanna ever marry me....ruined my immigration status...doesnt ... [snip!] ... im to b blessed with my baby....i dont even ask for any kind of help from him...he jus brings me down...please pray for me...”

I will pray for you.
And I pray that you kick that loser to the curb too, you don't deserve to be treated that way!

And you havent left him because?

then leave him he is not worth it you have a baby on the way and that baby is worth everything

He sounds like a turd.

Quoting greenleaf:“ i'm 5 & half month pregnant with a man who doesnt wanna ever marry me....ruined my immigration status...doesnt ... [snip!] ... im to b blessed with my baby....i dont even ask for any kind of help from him...he jus brings me down...please pray for me...”

Honey... this is hard to hear, but GET OUT. He's not worth that!
I know you have an idea now of how much a mothers love can take over you, but when you lay eyes on that baby it takes it to a whole new level! You& your baby DO NOT deserve that! Protect your baby from being around THAT... believe it or not, from birth on it really affects your child. Kids know more than adults give them credit for, they can sense animosity and tension.
You didn't climb on top of yourself and get pregnant!! He's responsible for 50% of this. But that doesn't mean he has to be involved. Maybe it's better that he shouldn't be from the way he sounds!!
I'm always here if you need to talk!

Didn't he already leave you?

Quoting greenleaf:“ i'm 5 & half month pregnant with a man who doesnt wanna ever marry me....ruined my immigration status...doesnt ... [snip!] ... im to b blessed with my baby....i dont even ask for any kind of help from him...he jus brings me down...please pray for me...”

You ruined your own immigration status because YOU dropped the case with your lawyer.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ You ruined your own immigration status because YOU dropped the case with your lawyer.”

agreed...

i will pray for you... but get rid of that asshole... your baby is tonnes more important than what he is

i agree with u all...u all sound like bunch of my girlfrenz...i fell for his words... he even threatens me tht he'll take the baby away frm me using my immigration status but i doubt if he can, if he does i wont go down without a fight 4 sure...anyhow thankx 4 ur voice ladies...

Quoting greenleaf:“ i agree with u all...u all sound like bunch of my girlfrenz...i fell for his words... he even threatens ... [snip!] ... immigration status but i doubt if he can, if he does i wont go down without a fight 4 sure...anyhow thankx 4 ur voice ladies...”

He cant take the baby just because of your immigration status however if you are illegal then you can be deported and you will have the option to leave the child with him or to take the child with you.

Personally, to me you sound like you want everyone to take care of you and you not to have to do anything yourself. You have the ability to fix your immigration status as long as you get off your ass and do it yourself. No one is going to piggy back you all the way to where you need to be. you have to actually "work" for the things you want in life. Just because someone says they want to marry you doesnt mean they cant change their mind. People break up all the time.

You should really speak with an an immigration attorney. I don't know how things changed after 9/11, but it used to be that the Immigration Service would really mess with you if you had a U.S.-born child. Regardless, the child will be a U.S. citizen by birth and cannot be deported. I can't imagine that they would force you to abandon your child. You should really speak to an attorney.

Quoting J-Ray:“ You should really speak with an an immigration attorney. I don't know how things changed after 9/11, ... [snip!] ... cannot be deported. I can't imagine that they would force you to abandon your child. You should really speak to an attorney.”

The child wouldnt be deported but the mother still can be so she has the option of leaving the child with the father or taking the child with her. The child will still be a US citizen yes but having a US born child doesnt mean you get to stay if you are illegal. They wouldnt be "forcing" anything. Its totally up to the mother what she does with her child.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ The child wouldnt be deported but the mother still can be so she has the option of leaving the child ... [snip!] ... get to stay if you are illegal. They wouldnt be "forcing" anything. Its totally up to the mother what she does with her child.”

I understand that, but prior to the 9/11 reorganization and merging of I&NS with USCS, it was the unwritten policy of the I&NS to not 'break up' familes by deporting the mother of a U.S. Citizen (USC) child. Far from a guarnatee, but a very common practice noetheless.

Additioally, some immigrants are given (were given) preferences for various reasons. An immigration attorney would be able to tell her if her being the mother of a USC child.would give her such status/preference.

l don't know where this woman is from or what the conditions are in that country, but from my perspective and in light of a possible deportation, neithere decision would be completely voluntary (take child away from father to leave or leaving child to return to home country). The circumstances are unfortunate, but not hopeless. I certainly don't condone people violating U.S. Immigration law, but the greater tragedy would be to break up a family or deny a U.S. citizen the right to live in the greatest country in the world (IMO).