re: for the teen mommies

Ladies I do appreciate the advice. Thank you all very much. I'm not going to worry until the baby is actually here. Guess there's no point in freaking out now.

my sister didn't want me to have my son and was of couse shocked, now she is in love with him and helps me out when she comes down.
really i would just support her and not try to judge her, because she will be getting judged anyways by people, she doesn't also need to be judged by her family also.

and if i were you, i wouldn't watch the baby during dances or games, if she really wants to be a mommy then she should take the baby also. i mean you can't just pawn him/her off on you. the only dances i MAY go to is prom and homecoming, and that is the only time i will ask my parents to watch the baby so i can go to a school function.

Quoting CynthiaRenee:“ He does know but his new girlfriend told him that he had to choose between her and his baby that won't ... [snip!] ... POS's mom wants to be in the baby's life and help out with money and diapers and clothes, she says. So it could go either way.”

Thats kind of like my situation. I can't believe some girls who would encourage a guy to never see his baby! WTF is wrong with you seriously? What if it was you having a freaking baby and the baby's dad's new girlfriend did the same thing to you idiot! You would DEF change your opinion then huh ? UGH I hate that. Its a baby!! Its deserves a daddy just like all baby's do.

Don't let him sign his rights away either. Make SOB pay her child support. She needs all the help she can get and right now the main reason he prob wants to sign away is so he doesn't have to pay.

Quoting Samantha Michelle:“ Don't let him sign his rights away either. Make SOB pay her child support. She needs all the help she can get and right now the main reason he prob wants to sign away is so he doesn't have to pay.”

Agreed 100%

This is a tough situation and I understand your sister's situation because when I was 15 I used to sneak out of the house with an older guy... Luckily, I never got pregnant though.

Still, the baby is soley her responsibility, and she's going to have to learn at some point. I would suggest to her now that she get a job and save up as much as she can (no crazy spending on unnecessary things) and that for watching her child all the time so she can finish school, she ought to compensate you in some way. I'm not saying pay huge amounts of $400 a week like daycare, but she needs to realize she can't just keep getting everything for free because she's a single teen mom. There's teen moms out there who DON'T have family to watch the baby for them. And another agreement I would say is a good idea is the condition that you will only watch the baby if she is definitely going to school, passes, and graduates.

But again, you're not her mom, you're her sister, and sisters mean loving. So I would always be assuring her of my support and how much I care about her. Make sure she knows that you being hard on her isn't because you're just mean but because you love her so much being that she's your little sister. After all, big sisters can't help but be a little over protective at times.

All the same, I think that with a loving and attentive sister like you (who already has experience with kids) and that husband of yours who seems like he definitely has some personal interest in her too   (I like the bench-pressing side note lol), she'll be fine. I hope she knows how incredibly lucky she is to have someone caring so much.

I am 17 and a mum to be. The only thing everyone is doing for me in encoraging me, and that is all they can do to be honest, as you cannot make someone do something that they do not want to. The best thing is to do, is to let her know you are there for her, and tell her what is best, but do not nag, but at the end of the day it all depends on the road she wishes to take. However I know that when I hit about 19 weeks of my pregnany I grew up a lot, and started to feel more like a mother, and knew what I should do, before-hand I would say I was rather lazy and did not care much for things, however I did want my education. Just make sure that you tell her she has your help.

17 really isn't too young to have a baby. Just because she maybe young and immature doesn't mean anything. My friend Daphenie had a baby at the age of sixteen. She was really immature but once the baby came along she actually got really mature.

Only time can really tell on if she'll be fit to raise the baby. I was pregnant at the age of fifteen had a miscarriage but I still think I would have made a good mother.

i would say that you should let her know that you are there if you need her, and let her come to you for help.
i think once her baby comes, she will mature a bit, i know i did, and i just turned 17 that day. so i understand..

just encourage her and such.

im a teen mom 2 b and im 8 weeks. the thought i had was that you are a very nice sister. But u should have your sister get a job so that she can save it up so that she doesnt think its so easy. ANd staying n skoo is a good thing she should pay u 4 watching her baby also so because nothing is free

I like what your asking..my mom said "your the one who had a baby, not me"...lol..but shesALOT of help..she didnt take over..or anything..just helping is enough..