Doing it alone part 2

I post the question who is doing it alone. here the second part to it. How did ya'll heal from being abandon by BD and How did ya'll move on with your life?

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about260038-2.html#lastpost

here is my story:

We were married for four months after that. I got pregnant when he find out. He bolt. No reason no idea why.....Not much of a story. He abandon me and my boys and gave all the bills to pay. Last I hear of him. He quit his job and sold his only truck ( So he has no way to pay me any child support) and living with his mom, sister, brother in law and his niece and yes they all live in the same Single wide trailer.

Well i am not doing it alone anymore but with my first I did up until now we broke up when i was 8 mnths pregnant I just took it one day at a time and eventually realized that he didnt deserve my daughter and I was lucky that he wasnt in her life because all he wouldve done was dissapoint her and since she is more important than anyone it was lik eif he doesnt care about her then why would I want him to care about me!

what happened? I'm for real alone now except i have some help from my mom. I haven't gotten over the fact that he's not a real dad though..still pissed as hell

I haven't had my baby yet. We sent the daddy to go work with his father in another state to make some good money for the baby, and all he was doing up there was drinking all the time. He met some girl, went to california and moved in with her, stole her vehicle, and is supposedly in Tennessee again. I have an Order of Protection out against him because he's very violent.

My parents are helping me out so much and as much as they hate my BD they are truely thrilled about being first time grandparents.

I still wish I had someone with me though....but I'm just hoping that I won't get weak on this baby. I'm hoping I can stay strong for her even after she's born.

Im struggling for breath what seems like every min. Dad left 3 months ago, but said he was still commited and would make sure that our bills were taken care of. Well, 3 months behind and his empty checking account he tells me he wants a divorce and refuses to even speak to me. This is my 4th (our first). The baby was planned and we were so excited. He WAS my prince, loved me, adored me, was a wonderful dad to my kids and step right in when their dad bailed on them.

I don't speak to my family, I have been a sahm for over 8 years and can't work at least until this baby is born. I have no idea what to do. I have to move out of my house that I have been in for 3 years - this week and have no idea where I am going to go, and I have 3 little ones depending on me.

In the meantime, he's living with his mom, and blowing through big checks. The one thing that I have asked is for him to keep paying ins., and he can't manage to do that either.

I don't know if I am more pissed off that he's not acutally my prince and he's such a selfish jerk, or because he pushed this baby on me and now I am dealing with it all on my own.

Wish I could help on this one. I'm in the same boat now in a similar situation. Basically because he wants to act like a spoiled brat and do what he wants without regard to my feelings and respect to me, and then bail when I get upset about it. It's still fresh and I'm still in that "what the hell am I going to do" phase.

It hurts when you love them and they leave, but as long as you have a supportive family, it's not to bad. I think the part that hurts most is that my daughter's dad wants nothing to do with her. Honestly, the only person hurt is me. She has a wonderful "DaDa" her grandpa, who adores her and loves her just as a father would. So I guess I am kind of lucky, I have my family.

I was dumped when I got pregnant, and I`ve been doing it alone since. my kid usually keeps me too busy to have time to be depressed but it is very lonely. i just hate when i see other families, it makes me jealous. at least i know i`m not the only one.

The BD and I broke up a week before I found out I was pregnant. By this time I had decided that I liked the guy but not for any long term thing. He just got on my nerves. He was very happy and excited when I told him (while I am totally crying all the time). But when I told him I just wanted to be friends he was mad and said to go have an abortion. At this same time the guy I had been with for nearly two years comes back into the picture. But says he can't love me while I am carrying someone else's child. Same old song and dance, get an abortion and you and I will make our own family. I can't do that. My family is very supportive and everyone I talk to says I don't need a man and I am better off without. But I am so jealous of all the happy families. I will never get to share the joy of my first child experience with someone. makes me cry all the time right now.