re: when in the TTC section...

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ I think she ignored me? not sure...”

I think she was trying to avoid the drama, which obviously didn't happen. Of course that's just my opinion.

Quoting Carmen DeSoprano:“ Can you say DRAMA”

hardly

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ You didn't ask a question though...you just popped in to say I'm lame...which is so uncalled for since I'm only asking a question. Your opinion is great...your judgment of me is rude.”

I didn't say YOU were lame. I said you posting this was not necessary and it was lame. There is no difference between a question and opinion on the internet, everyone wants to put their 2 cents in obviously.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ I think she ignored me? not sure...”

Well, maybe she didn't want to talk about it with you. You have no idea what her income is like. She was venting. TTC is a very hard process emotionally and physcially. She didn't need you posting things that seemed like she could not care for a child properly.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Aww...thank you. You're the only one who's offered an explaination! I really appreciate that.”

Your welcome, just ask my husband, he cops it all the time over such stupid things.
I was never like this until a few years into TTC, now I am such a bitch and the sad thing is I know it lol.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ You didn't ask a question though...you just popped in to say I'm lame...which is so uncalled for since I'm only asking a question. Your opinion is great...your judgment of me is rude.”

You ask a question of someone and it was seen as rude, now you asked a question and feel someone was rude to you....now maybe you know how she felt.

Quoting Ashlyn & Connor's mommy:“ i could only imagine TTC'ers are in a rough spot. i could see how they'd get offended by that remark. ... [snip!] ... that comment and ask yourself if you'd possibly get offended. if you decide to ask the question anyway, prepare for the brunt..”

yeah, it's always a risk on a public forum...

but if the roles were reversed, as I mentioned in that other thread...a 3rd party pov is great to have b/c that pov may ask about something you've never considered.

Quoting msplainjane:“ I think she was trying to avoid the drama, which obviously didn't happen. Of course that's just my opinion.”

*looks around..** hmm, no drama! except from those of you who insist on tarring and feathering me

Quoting msplainjane:“ No, I'm sure not    Once again though, you don't really know how you would react until ... [snip!] ... react until you are in her position. I'm not saying your question wasn't a legit one, but this post wasn't really necessary.”

just your opinion...isn't it?

and asking about finances is an obvious question, dare I say it...I DO...even necessary.

Let me rephrase. She was probably trying to avoid discussing it with you, since she said she didn't have to explain herself, maybe she just wanted to drop it?

**Looks around** Still haven't seen anyone be tarred and feathered.

Quoting ♥ Mommy Meg ♥:“ Well, maybe she didn't want to talk about it with you. You have no idea what her income is like. She ... [snip!] ... emotionally and physcially. She didn't need you posting things that seemed like she could not care for a child properly.”

maybe she did need me posting things that seemed like she couldn't care for a child financially. IF she's in a tight pinch the responsible thing is to not have a child despite really wanting one.

Quoting Lynn wants a Prince!:“ You ask a question of someone and it was seen as rude, now you asked a question and feel someone was rude to you....now maybe you know how she felt.”

no, not the same...I never called the lady stupid or lame...and I didn't call her vent lame. so it's apples and oranges here.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ yeah, it's always a risk on a public forum... but if the roles were reversed, as I mentioned in ... [snip!] ... mentioned in that other thread...a 3rd party pov is great to have b/c that pov may ask about something you've never considered.”

very true! i don't know how you said it though...did you maybe come off as being bitchy? sometimes, unless you're trying to be a bitch lol, you have to re-word things or maybe state that you weren't trying to be a bitch.

Quoting msplainjane:“ Let me rephrase. She was probably trying to avoid discussing it with you, since she said she didn't have ... [snip!] ... to explain herself, maybe she just wanted to drop it? **Looks around** Still haven't seen anyone be tarred and feathered.”

I never asked her to explain herself...I even said she doesn't owe anyone an explaination!

and if she didn't want to talk about her situation then she shouldn't put it out there on a public forum.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ maybe she did need me posting things that seemed like she couldn't care for a child financially. IF she's in a tight pinch the responsible thing is to not have a child despite really wanting one.”

That being said.....How many girls on here are on gov assist...are you going to question them too about being able to take care of a child??
She said the money was saved and spent on somethng extra for this weekend, not ddaily expences....Like I said, if she wwree to get pregnant again I am sure they would have skipped a weekend on the lake