re: when in the TTC section...

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ I don't think that it's wrong to band together to support someone, but I think that the way that she ... [snip!] ... Should I post a sob story about how my husband spent my life savings on guns so BG can send me money for shoe shopping?”

I totally see what you are saying, and what you mean with your posts.

I understand that some posts can come off as a "look at me" type of post and can even make others feel bad for them and look for ways to make things better for them. Sometimes a persons downfall can be "being too nice". I used to try to help people out that I seen where in need, but majority of the time ended up getting screwed over.

Perhaps her wording could have been better. Do either of us know if her intentions were to possibly seek money from others? No, neither one of us will ever know what her true intentions were with her post. All I can say is that I hope the money does indeed get used for its intended purpose, however all the women who donated did have the choice to do it or not.


I apologize if some of my posts aren't making sense. It is late and I am kinda in and out lol

Quoting ♥ Mommy Meg ♥:“ I, too, have trouble taking money from people even family members. I would rather save money and not ... [snip!] ... her based on her taking money. I really didn't see a problem with her post . . . maybe it was the way I read it. I'm not sure.”

I do believe that people were having an issue in the beginning of this post with her complaining about her husband spending the money for their co-pay and them having to perhaps wait another month for another appointment because they didn't have the money to replenish the spent funds.

The OP was stating that she was curious as to how they would be able to afford another child if they were unable to afford their co-pay, and even questioned the other womans husbands true desire to have a second child. People were trying to make the OP of this thread realize the somewhat harshness of her post to the other woman in her post.

I do understand that some people don't have issues taking money/gifts from other people. I personally would feel weird taking money from people I have never met. For all we know this all could be a lie. All we have to go off of is what the OP is telling us.

Quoting ♥Lacey 6 days left:“ I do believe that people were having an issue in the beginning of this post with her complaining about ... [snip!] ... from people I have never met. For all we know this all could be a lie. All we have to go off of is what the OP is telling us.”

Right, I understand. I hope she uses it for the intended purpose.

Quoting Ashlyn & Connor's mommy:“ awesome...i knew it wasn't there before, but i was hoping you weren't one of the ones that got butthurt ... [snip!] ... all of a sudden be 90 years old with 15 kids...but i figured you just added your furrbabies   and your avi cracks me up  ”

Thanks. DH saw the avi and at first was like, "Whoa, the baby looks a lot like Darwin....waiiiiit. It IS Darwin! haha!"

And I figured it's time to add my fur babies in the count b/c they're already in the "about me" and photo albums, so why not put them in the section under all our posts too?

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ If she can't afford a $250 co-pay, how is she going to face the costs of IVF or delivery? Obviously if her husband spent the money, they weren't on the same page to begin with.”

That was the first thing that popped into my mind too...which is why I asked her the questions I did. And it was out of curiosity, not to be hoity-toity.

Quoting ♥Lacey 6 days left:“ People were trying to make the OP of this thread realize the somewhat harshness of her post to the other woman in her post.”

I think it wound up being one of those instances where reading words vs hearing words is what caused the "problem."

What I said was never meant to be rude, harsh, or any negative thing. As I tried to tell the other OP, I like to offer a non-emotionally invested pov. In a public forum I think that's just to be expected. Sometimes our own judgement of our actions is clouded until someone else can point out the obvious.

But anywho...I think most of the "problem" has been cleared up!  

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ That was the first thing that popped into my mind too...which is why I asked her the questions I did. And it was out of curiosity, not to be hoity-toity.”

I definitely don't mean to come across as hoity-toity or anything either, but I mean, seriously. That's one of the first things that Ryan and I realized and it's exactly why we started our "baby fund." If you don't have a nest egg to fall back on, you can get screwed over fast.

I guess not everyone is financially sound, but I thought that having an emergency fund was common sense to everyone...*shrugs*

i know im super late on this...damn moving states on the friggen fourth of july...but anways.

im just sorta sad that people have not given her the benefit of the doubt. i understand the op's initial question. if you choose the lake over ur apt (hubby), then is he really in it? but seriously how many hubby's have made a poor decision not thinking. they dont think about consiquences. mine doesnt. not often. he thinks if he has 20 in his pocket ther must be at least 200 in the account. while im sitting here witht he bills going no.......that 200 is for bills. anyays is it quite possible that like someone mentoined earlier...the money didnt fall with the apt. you konw we had the money but since dumbass (who i love) husband lost his head and wasnt thinking...we dont RIGHT NOW. to me it's a i need the money thursday but dont get paid til friday.   crap.

i guess its just me because although she seems new here, she's not. in fact ive been talking to her for quite some time now. i know taht she is otherwise financially stable. i know how much her and her hubby both want a baby. she's not the type to intentionally solicite money. if i remember reading correctly jenell is the one who even brought up the prospect. and for those who think its stupid to take money here...we all know paypal is secure. if the people do ing it didnt know the risks, they wouldnt have sent the money. also...after 5 years of trying to have a baby while you watched people all around you who never wanted kids, who abort babies, who treat their children like crap have babies, wouldn't you feel a bit desperate? wouldn't you want to take that small amount of money if it meant going one less month without the apt. she's waited so long...she's tried so hard.

im not tarring and feathering anyone, im not yelling anyone. im simply stating my take. my take that other people dont have because they dont really know her. and no, i have never met her...but we've never met have the people we talk to on here and love somuch....