re: when in the TTC section...

Quoting Ashlyn & Connor's mommy:“ i understood where you were coming from... but i'm not TTC. i'm done with kids lol are your 13 kids your furrkids too? lol”

Yes!!   Your the first to notice that change I made! LOL...that makes me happy.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Yes!!   Your the first to notice that change I made! LOL...that makes me happy.”

awesome...i knew it wasn't there before, but i was hoping you weren't one of the ones that got butthurt and changed your profile around so no one would find you later lol. i've seen that happen a lot. people will all of a sudden be 90 years old with 15 kids...but i figured you just added your furrbabies  
and your avi cracks me up  

If you don't like the response stay out out of TTC.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ Honestly, I kind of feel the same way and I'm also TTC and seeing an infertility specialist on Thursday. ... [snip!] ... your baby to the ER? Are you going to wait online until bg can send you the money for a co-pay? I mean, seriously, come on.”

Something you must have missed is that she DIDNT ask for the money. Some one offered, and then other people pitched in...

Quoting AndiJustWantsBabies:“ Something you must have missed is that she DIDNT ask for the money. Some one offered, and then other people pitched in...”

So you're telling me that if I post a sob story on here about how my husband spent our baby fund on booze and a new car (yes, we have the money in there to fund a new car), that I'm not hoping someone will give me money?

There's a difference between venting and asking for things in a round-about way.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ So you're telling me that if I post a sob story on here about how my husband spent our baby fund on ... [snip!] ... I'm not hoping someone will give me money? There's a difference between venting and asking for things in a round-about way.”

That might be true, but in all honesty I dont think she was asking for the money, even without asking and just hoping. I think she was just bummed out and venting.

Quoting AndiJustWantsBabies:“ That might be true, but in all honesty I dont think she was asking for the money, even without asking and just hoping. I think she was just bummed out and venting.”

That's very possible, but I'm just saying that based on the rhetoric, it seems more like asking for money without asking. My husband rarely agrees with me on anything like this, but he read it and completely agrees that it is a complete sob story and that it shouldn't have been posted in that way (if even at all).

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ That's very possible, but I'm just saying that based on the rhetoric, it seems more like asking for ... [snip!] ... it and completely agrees that it is a complete sob story and that it shouldn't have been posted in that way (if even at all).”

Why? I don't understand why it should not have been posted. She was venting and never once asked for money.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ That's very possible, but I'm just saying that based on the rhetoric, it seems more like asking for ... [snip!] ... it and completely agrees that it is a complete sob story and that it shouldn't have been posted in that way (if even at all).”

I dont know. I realize it could be taken that way. And I realize some people do say things like that hinting around for help, but I just dont think she was.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ So you're telling me that if I post a sob story on here about how my husband spent our baby fund on ... [snip!] ... I'm not hoping someone will give me money? There's a difference between venting and asking for things in a round-about way.”

She was venting about being pissed off at what her husband did. I personally don't see how she was asking for money. I mean granted she could have declined it, but she never boldly asked for others to help her replenish the spent funds.

So do you think the women who get together to raise money for a fellow member of gaga to help them with something or other are also in a sense asking for money?

I hope I don't get in trouble for using this as an example but there was a girl that was attacked and hospitalized, people raised $1,000 for her, should she not have posted about what happened to her? Do you think she knew people would do that for her?

Why are so many people so shocked that there are good people out there.

Sorry if this sounds like I am being rude, I really am not. It is hard to convey emotion over the internet.

Quoting ♥ Mommy Meg ♥:“ Why? I don't understand why it should not have been posted. She was venting and never once asked for money.”

My husband just feels that the way it was approached was entirely wrong and I agree. The rhetoric was just wrong for the situation.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ My husband just feels that the way it was approached was entirely wrong and I agree. The rhetoric was just wrong for the situation.”

I honestly am not sure how I feel about the whole situation and how things played out in that thread. I mean I understand her frustration but also am curious as to why the offer to receive money wasn't declined. I personally couldn't take money from other people. Heck people that I have become very close to have requested my address so they can send me something once my daughter is born. I just feel weird accepting things from people. Thats just me though.

This next part might sound very rude, but who is to say that the money that gets sent to her will be used for the purpose intended? For all we know she could go on a shopping spree with the money. IDK I just have an issue with trusting people and tend to think worst case scenario often.

Quoting The Mrs. Dickey Monster:“ My husband just feels that the way it was approached was entirely wrong and I agree. The rhetoric was just wrong for the situation.”

I guess that is the difference in opinion. Why can people come on here and vent about anything, but if someone vents about her husband spending money than that's wrong.

She in no way shape or form asked for money. Someone said they would help and it went from there.

I guess i'm never going to understand what was so wrong with the other post. Mainly, because it was in the TTC forum and she didn't do or say anything wrong. Oh well.

Quoting ♥Lacey 6 days left:“ She was venting about being pissed off at what her husband did. I personally don't see how she was ... [snip!] ... people out there. Sorry if this sounds like I am being rude, I really am not. It is hard to convey emotion over the internet.”

I don't think that it's wrong to band together to support someone, but I think that the way that she went about it all was wrong and she seemed like she was asking for it.

In the words of my husband, "she labeled herself. She might as well have put a sign on her chest that said 'Pity Party.'"

I think it's wonderful that the women of BG are so supportive, but I think that it's wrong to whine about how your husband screwed everything up for you. The bottom line is that you should be prepared for everything, planned or not. If she can't afford a $250 co-pay, how is she going to face the costs of IVF or delivery? Obviously if her husband spent the money, they weren't on the same page to begin with. And if they could get the money in a month, why not wait another month? I mean, what's one more month out of the 72 plus that they've already waited? We all get impatient, but you have to learn when to just admit that you can't do something at the time.

Let me give you this example: Should I post a sob story about how my husband spent my life savings on guns so BG can send me money for shoe shopping?

Quoting ♥Lacey 6 days left:“ I honestly am not sure how I feel about the whole situation and how things played out in that thread. ... [snip!] ... on a shopping spree with the money. IDK I just have an issue with trusting people and tend to think worst case scenario often.”

I, too, have trouble taking money from people even family members. I would rather save money and not have to worry about paying anyone back or feeling that I "owe" someone something.

However, I don't know the OP in real life. I don't know if she really needed the money. I can only go by what she said in her OP and it looks like she doesn't have any issue with taking gifts from people... some people are different. What i'm having a hard time with is that people seem to be judging her based on her taking money. I really didn't see a problem with her post . . . maybe it was the way I read it. I'm not sure.