I told him, now what?

He thinks I should terminate too. This comes at a bad time. I am just so torn. I feel like it is in my best interests to terminate but I also feel very strongly that I want a baby. I am 35, when might I have another chance? After school would not be good cause then I am looking for a job. After I have found a job wouold not be good because then I want to keep my job. And then what? It is never a good time to completely change your life to where it revolves around one very needy and demanding person. I don't have a job. I have no income.and no hope of any right now. I so wanted to go to school but I can put that off for a year. Ok, that is it, consequences be damned...nevermind, I still haven't decided.

Quoting salamandah:“ He thinks I should terminate too. This comes at a bad time. I am just so torn. I feel like it is in my ... [snip!] ... to go to school but I can put that off for a year. Ok, that is it, consequences be damned...nevermind, I still haven't decided.”

once you hit 30 your chances of pregnancy goes severly down hill. Would you regret not having this baby in the future if later on you cannot conceive?

*edited for spelling*

I have always been told, "If you wait until you can afford a baby, you will never have one" babies are pricy. Yeah it does help to have a job and money and everything else for a baby. Older women have healthy babies all the time.

And if you decide that you can't afford the baby, why terminate? Give it to someone who can afford it and take good care of it.

Good luck and I wish you the best of luck.

I'd atleast wait until you give birth if you really think you can't handle it you can always adopt to a family that can't concieve and always wanted a child.... either way

do whats in your heart ....just to let you know you can do it on your own....i have 2 kids and i got divorced when the youngest was 2....i was a stay home mom and had no income or money....i quickly found a job and found a way to take care of not one but 2 kids....its hard im not going to lie...real hard ...but it can be done....

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about261334.html

Do me a favour and watch this before you make any kind of decision. Maybe it will change your mind, I so hope it does!

Ugh. Fuck what everyone else thinks. Fuck that stupid music video. Do what you think is best in your heart.

Quoting Dani+Bren:“ Ugh. Fuck what everyone else thinks. Fuck that stupid music video. Do what you think is best in your heart.”

why is that music video stupid?

I THINK IF YOU WANT TO TERMINATE THAT IS YOUR DECISION JUST MAKE SURE YOU'RE NOT BEING PRESSURED INTO MAKING YOUR DECISION THOUGH. DO WHAT IS IN YOUR BEST INTEREST.
IF THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE WITH DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE BABY THEN HONESTLY HE IS NOT WORTH IT. THIS IS A HAPPY MOMMENT FOR YOU. JUST MAKE SURE YOU MAKE THIS DESICION FOR YOU AND NO ONE ELSE.
I TRULY HOPE THIS WORKS OUT FOR YOU.
GOOD LUCK

omg Im in tears after watching that! So heartbreaking.. I cant believe 1 out of every 10 couples cant concieve. Personally if I were you I would keep it. Your right... there never is a PERFECT time to have a baby.. and nomater what everyone says no one exactly plans to become pregnant. It just happens when it happens. This has happened to you for a reason and these girls are right you might not have another chance or even worse you could become steril after having an abortion. Follow your heart... Im sure it will lead you in the right direction. If you dont want the child after its born(which I highly doubt) then put it up for adoption.. there are plenty of people out there that would love to be in your position right now.

Quoting bummalicious:“ why is that music video stupid?”

It's not stupid in a literal sense. I personally don't support media that is so clearly one sided and pro-life. I do have to admit that I only watched about the first minute of it, but that's all I could take.

Quoting Aeden's Mommy:“ omg Im in tears after watching that! So heartbreaking.. I cant believe 1 out of every 10 couples cant ... [snip!] ... doubt) then put it up for adoption.. there are plenty of people out there that would love to be in your position right now.”

My opinion, this has nothing to do with other people and their hardships. It's about HER life.

Quoting Dani+Bren:“ It's not stupid in a literal sense. I personally don't support media that is so clearly one sided and ... [snip!] ... one sided and pro-life. I do have to admit that I only watched about the first minute of it, but that's all I could take.”

there was alot more to it than abortion rates.. it was well rounded... from infertility, surrogacey, in vitro, etc. Pretty much the message was the motherhood isn't to be taken for granted

Quoting Dani+Bren:“ My opinion, this has nothing to do with other people and their hardships. It's about HER life.”

oh of course. I'm sure she wouldn't decide to keep the baby just because some people on the internet told her to. She asked for opinions, and we are all giving her some. She needs to weigh the pros and cons and make her own decision.