am i the only one?

whose family never came around?

They hated the fact that I got pregnant, and I can completely understand that they were a little pissed... but they STILL haven't come around after I had my baby girl. Everyone was all like, "dont worry, they'll come around when you have your baby." I have done everything in my power to get in touch with them but they don't want anything to do with me. No one in my family has seen or cares to see my little Ava, and it makes me really upset.

Quoting Fallon aka Mommy:“ whose family never came around? They hated the fact that I got pregnant, and I can completely understand ... [snip!] ... don't want anything to do with me. No one in my family has seen or cares to see my little Ava, and it makes me really upset.”

my mom and brother I* do not talk at all.. havent in over a year.. this isnt the first falling out with her.. but ohwell

It's unusual. BTW you guys are a beautiful family  

When I got pregnant my family wouldnt speak to me either , but when my son was 8 months old .... they came around .  Give them time & Good Luck

Quoting Jyn D'lere:“ It's unusual. BTW you guys are a beautiful family  ”

thank you!!!

The same thing happened to me. In the end, my mom came around after a few months, it took my dad 4 1/2 years to even speak a word to me again. He still doesn't want to have anything to do with me now, even though I am married now and am living a pretty good life. I don't know what else to do but to give it more time. If they want to miss out on the experience of their grandchild, they are the ones who are going to have to deal with the regrets later on. Does the father's parents have anything to do with her?

It's there lost. If they don't want to you cant push them. But I personally I think sooner or later they will eventually come around. But if they don't you shouldn't care cause obviously they don't. You just keep on being a great mom and if they don't want a part of your new family then screw them. You tried and they didn't. You can only do so much even though it hurts so bad.

I guess I should have added the fact that I was raised by my grandparents.So it's a little different story with them,because they are more old fashioned. Which like I said, I can understand that they were pissed. But you would think they would have come around by now.

They used to hate my mom because she ran away for 2 years and they thought she was dead. Now after all these years my mom is on their good side and my mom is the only one from my family who will talk to me. But she won't dare tell them that she talks to me on the phone sometimes because "she doesn't want to stir up drama". ( she wants to stay on their good side.) It's so messed up. She keeps the fact that she talks to me a secret and she won't even come see me because then she'll have to tell them where she went and she doesn't want to have to lie.

Quoting emmyn74:“ The same thing happened to me. In the end, my mom came around after a few months, it took my dad 4 1/2 ... [snip!] ... are the ones who are going to have to deal with the regrets later on. Does the father's parents have anything to do with her?”

yeah, they love her. Which is bittersweet, because I love that they support us, but it just reminds me of how much my own family doesn't.

thats crazy.
they havn't even met ur little girl??
im sure if they would lighten up just enough to meet that beautiful little girl they would change their minds.
but it really is their loss.. i mean i can understand you are upset.. its your family that raised you and now they wont speak to you.. but you cant dwell on it.. you have a beautiful daughter now and your own family.. they just have different views on life.. and obvisouly dont want to back down from that enough to meet the new addition to their family.. which is sad.. but it is what it is. im sorry you have to go through this though. have you tried to contact them at all? or send pictures of ava?

Thay are the ones missing out! You have a beautiful daughter!

Nope, they haven't even met her. They were the first people I called after I had her. I called like 5 times and left a message and they never got back to me. I haven't really tried to send pictures though. I talked to my aunt a few times while I was pregnant, but she was always rude. She is always over at my grandparents house and stuff because she can't leave their side, and she told me that my grandma really doesn't want anything to do with me and she probably won't ever come around because this is just too much to handle. She also told me that getting pregnant has "killed" my grandpa. Figuratively, of course.

It's really pathetic.

Thay are the ones missing out! You have a beautiful daughter!

Quoting Fallon aka Mommy:“ Nope, they haven't even met her. They were the first people I called after I had her. I called like 5 ... [snip!] ... to handle. She also told me that getting pregnant has "killed" my grandpa. Figuratively, of course. It's really pathetic.”

aww well just remember.. they are older.. and set in their ways.. its hard to change old folks minds lol.. but you could try sending pictures of your daughter... maybe w/ a letter? just saying that you wanted them to meet her.. it is really sad that they cant set their feelings aside for your daughter.. i mean they dont even have to agree w/ your life, but that doesn't mean they should completely shut your daughter our from theirs. i mean if they can forgive your mother for running away for two years, then they just might come around after time goes by... i think giving someone the impression that you are dead is a little worse than bringing a beautiful baby into the world!

Quoting Paiger [Kaleb's Momma!]:“ aww well just remember.. they are older.. and set in their ways.. its hard to change old folks minds ... [snip!] ... by... i think giving someone the impression that you are dead is a little worse than bringing a beautiful baby into the world!”

i know right. i know i've made a few mistakes but at least they know where i'm at and that i'm safe and sound. but it did take around 20 something years for them to finally come around with my mom, and coincidentally that was right after I got pregnant. so i really don't know. i know i will keep trying to see them and talk to them , that way if they really never come around at least i know i did my part.