maid of honer???????????

well my lil bro is getting married on 8-8-08 an his fiance asked me to be the maid of honer what are my obligations to do cause im not really sure so i really need help any advice would help please an thank you  

i think it depends on how traditional they are. i think throw a bachelorette party and make a toast at the wedding?

lots...


Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.

Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.

If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.

Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits.

Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.

Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!

Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!

Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.

Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.

Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Attend all bridal fairs with the bride as well as cake and catering tasting.
Wedding Day

Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.

Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup

Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.

Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.

Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.

Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!

Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.

Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.

Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.

Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!

Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Too often, the duty of "straightening/fluffing" the Bride's dress is overlooked. If the Bride is staying on a level, straight path, then this can be done before her descent down the aisle. However, if she is turning, or stepping up steps and/or turning to reach her destination, then the Maid/Matron of Honor should first adjust her train before accepting the bouquet to hold. This is most easily done by holding the train at points about (2) feet apart, and gently "shaking" the train (as if shaking a rug!) one good time, and it will fall beautifully in place.

ooh yeah, and maybe tell her if shes making the biggest mistake of her life, but i doubt you would think that since its your brother, but who knows haha, nobody prolly knows him better than you 

To be her bitch until the wedding if she's a bridezilla.

Everything she needs and wants! But yeah I believe depends on how big a wdding they are doing. http://www.weddinggazette.com/content/002309.shtml
Good Luck!

Quoting MamaMary:“ lots... Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the ... [snip!] ... other guests). Attend all bridal fairs with the bride as well as cake and catering tasting. Wedding Day ”

yeah what she said haha   i love those little rings inbetween all the things  

Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ To be her bitch until the wedding if she's a bridezilla.”

LMFAO!!!

Being maid of Honor is a HUGE responsibility......
You're pretty much at the bride's beck and call when ever she needs you... thats not to say you should let youself be walked all over but there's a lot involved here....... from picking dresses, attending fittings, helping keep the rest of the wedding aprty organized and in-line to helping with all the grunt work of set up and invites ect ect.....
you need to be ready for anything and everything the bride needs help with and yes... that includes holding her dress when she has to pee  

Most of all you need to be able to support her emotionally... weddings are stressful.. you need to be honest and tactful and always support her in front of everyone else even when you may not agree with her choices.
You need to be friendly and courtious and helpful.
And yes then there's hosting the bach. party and saying the speech.
It IS a big deal.
I'm really layed back and easy going and my wedding wa sthe same... but my MoH didn't do a damn thing to help ... not even helping set up tables... we ended up in a huge fight after the wedding and it realy effected the 'happy' aspect of my day.....
before you say yes make sure your willing to do whatever when ever she needs you to.

Quoting lolajessup:“ ooh yeah, and maybe tell her if shes making the biggest mistake of her life, but i doubt you would think that since its your brother, but who knows haha, nobody prolly knows him better than you ”

brother or not she is making a big mistake lol he is so selfish an a asshole on the real note i actually feel sorrry for her cause she is so oppisite an a sweet heart an why the hell would she wanna marry him for example she goes on maternity leave a week before the baby is due so he has to pay the bills an stuff mind you she begs the doc to release her back to work at 4 weeks an so she goes back an he tells her he aint paying shit cause he had to pay for everything for a month an a week wtf???? an he really isnt helping her with shit an dumb girl still wants to marry him idk anymore she is the one who is planning an paying for the whole wedding she you can say is the bread winner

Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ To be her bitch until the wedding if she's a bridezilla.”

lmao never for god sakes i will be about to explode with my son before this wedding so im no ones bitch she is actually concerned with making sure i am comfortable like she is renting me a plush chair for the reception so im comfortable an she has pretty much has everything planned an done i just put my 2 cents in when needed  

Quoting kristy-renae:“ brother or not she is making a big mistake lol he is so selfish an a asshole on the real note i actually ... [snip!] ... to marry him idk anymore she is the one who is planning an paying for the whole wedding she you can say is the bread winner”

omg thats crazy. well is he faithful to her? thats important as well.

Quoting lolajessup:“ omg thats crazy. well is he faithful to her? thats important as well.”

ya he is faithfull but why marry him if he isnt going to contribute an btw the baby is 6 months old an she is paying all the bills in there home while he splurges on his harley wtf?!?!?!?!?!? dumb dumb girl smh

I was my sister's maid of honor..All I required to do was show up.. Help her get dressed, hold her bouquet and the ring. Then pose for some pictures at the reception  

My sister was my matron of honor.. She did the same thing for me as I did for her..

we didn't have toasts..I didn't need help with the invites..