One of them "what would you do" questions

Ok, so I posted a topic on here last night entitled "oh what the hell am i gonna do now". I'm not going to get down again with the story but, the end result is I am 28 weeks preggo with my 2nd daughter and my hubby has decided he wants to leave, he is just too unhappy. I'm sure it has nothing to do with the chick I suspect him of seeing. Anyway, if you want the story..read the post.
But, this is my question. I know right now I'm hurt, mad and all the gamut of the emotions. But, I feel as if he has betrayed our family, especially this unborn child.Causing me a ton of stressI really didn't need. Andat this time I really do not want him near me or in the room during labor and delivery. It would seem to me that him beingthere and trying to even give supportive care would lack the genuine sincerity and care a hubby should give his wife at that time and that him beingpresent would kind ofbe amockery of her creation, sinceshe was conceived in the midst of all his lies to me. And knowing this child wouldcome into the world in an already divided home.I don't care if he's atthe hospital as longas he's in the waiting room. Does anyone think that's wrong not to let him be present? What would you do?

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Ok, so I posted a topic on here last night entitled "oh what the hell am i gonna do now". I'm not going ... [snip!] ... atthe hospital as longas he's in the waiting room. Does anyone think that's wrong not to let him be present? What would you do?”

Sorry, I didn't type it in like that I don't know why some of the words are all ran together.

My ex husband was not allowed in the room for two of our children for this very reason. I figure if they aren't going to be there throughout your pregnancy, they don't need to be at the birth!

I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you feel. I agree with you and how you feel about the situation.

I wouldn't let him in the room. He cheated? fuck him then....

My ex husband got me pregnant on purpose, and left three weeks later.... He decided he wanted to be with this other girl but still know me and the baby, and be involved. We discussed him being there for the birth... essentially, I decided to let him, but it didn't turn out that way. I haven't seen or heard from him since a month and a half before my daughter was born. I wouldn't have it any other way - and if he decides he wants to be involved, I'm going to make him fight for it, because I feel it's wrong - all he is to me is a sperm donor.

I agree with you.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Ok, so I posted a topic on here last night entitled "oh what the hell am i gonna do now". I'm not going ... [snip!] ... atthe hospital as longas he's in the waiting room. Does anyone think that's wrong not to let him be present? What would you do?”

It's totally up to you. To be honest if i were in your shoes I would tell him the same thing. That he is welcome to come but he can stay in the waiting room. It's yours and the baby's special day and you should be surrounded by people who love, care and support you!

Thank you ladies. I plan to tell him exactly what I've posted here about it. Just thew it out there to see if anyone thought it was selfish or what not. I don't think so and I'm really glad I'm not the only one that sees it this way. Thanks again!

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Thank you ladies. I plan to tell him exactly what I've posted here about it. Just thew it out there to ... [snip!] ... it was selfish or what not. I don't think so and I'm really glad I'm not the only one that sees it this way. Thanks again!”

I am so sorry to hear this..... You know what truly amazes me. That there are women who would cheat with married man who's wife if pregnant. What is happening to our society. Women used to be the stronge chaste ones...well, for the most part. It's truly piggish and classless and she is a Jerry Springer girl for sure. You know, theclassless pigs that go on that show. I think she should be expecting the Karma train to run through her life soon.

As for you husband...I hope he contracts a bad case of the clap from her...she sounds like the kind of skankthat will probably have it.
If he can't find joy in the process of his unborn child and the eventual birth then he is truly a hopeless case and need some therapy or maybe a gun. I hope you rake his ass over the coals financially. That should make him even unhappier. Wow, I am being harsh but hey. I am venting for you.... Delivery room? Delivery Room? um, um, maybe you should let him in . Not as your coach but just to stand there and watch the miracle and the pain.....but I don't know. I don't think it would be at all selfish to NOT let him in either.

Quoting Vamul1:“ I am so sorry to hear this..... You know what truly amazes me. That there are women who would cheat ... [snip!] ... and watch the miracle and the pain.....but I don't know. I don't think it would be at all selfish to NOT let him in either.”

That's what I thought....what a slut to see a married man who's wife is pregnant. I can't say for sure they're seeing each other as I have no real proof but, that's what my gut tells me and it is seldom wrong. I always said I had no respect for a man that would leave his wife/gf/so while she's pregnant. So, I have no respect for him at all, even respect shown for someone just for being a human being. I know the karma train will probably run over the both of them. But, I'm not going to waste any more of my time dwelling on the sorry sack of shiznit. He didn't even get upset when I told him I didn't want him there. If that don't say it all, I don't know what does.

I am also in a situation where the father and I are not together, and at first I was willing to let him in there. But after all the stress he has caused me, on purpose, I have decided not to have him in there anymore. You don't need that kind of stress while you are going through the labor and delivery. It's enough on its own, without dealing with some POS standing there irritating you. So do what you feel is best for you and the baby at that time.

Quoting rabidmommy:“ That's what I thought....what a slut to see a married man who's wife is pregnant. I can't say for sure ... [snip!] ... of shiznit. He didn't even get upset when I told him I didn't want him there. If that don't say it all, I don't know what does.”

Damn! Your husband even. Maybe he's just going thru some weird phase or something. Is this your first together?

Quoting angel mommy:“ I am also in a situation where the father and I are not together, and at first I was willing to let him ... [snip!] ... without dealing with some POS standing there irritating you. So do what you feel is best for you and the baby at that time.”

I am sitting here counting my blessings. I feel so bad for both of you. Me and mine have been fighting a a bit this week and I told him to leave. The night before I read RabidMommies post. Weird...maybe just the planets or off or something. He didn't leave of course and I said that just to shut him up, I didnt really want him to leave.... I guess I should be more patient.

My son's father wasn't in the room when I had my son. When we were together he was cheating on me so we broke up and that was that. Never saw him again.