What an ass

So my ex, Tom, and I still have a very close relationship. We talk multiple times a day, hang out about every other day, sleep together, you would think we are still dating. Basically we are just without titles, because we are exclusive to each other. Or at least that's what I thought. On Saturday night he didn't call me like he said he would, I knew something was up, like he fucked up or messed around. Well this morning I found out he fucked some other girl that night. Oh its because he was drunk... He was trying to mess around with me this morning and he said he needed to use a condom, big hint he did something! He said he didn't know the girl, she was over at his friend's house and got drunk and "accidently" slept with her! I feel like such a dumbass for believing he changed, he started going back to church even. He said I can't really be mad because "technically" we aren't together. I don't give a fuck, I still feel like he cheated on me! It doesn't make me hurt any less. I asked how he would feel if I slept with another guy, he said he would probably kill him. So why is it ok for him to do it? He wants me to just forgive him. He guilts me into talking to him when I'm mad by saying we are having a baby together. I'm so hurt right now because I still love him a lot. Oh and he even had the balls to ask me if he could move in on Monday, AFTER he fucked her already! And he asked if I could buy him some groceries because he is so strapped for cash and I did yesterday. This is just so messed up on so many levels, I try to think he isn't so bad, but this is just disgusting. This is really bad, I feel like I'm some stupid string along who he can just use and walk all over. Sorry girls, I just needed to vent and maybe get your opinions on what I should do...

I would say leave him, but I know it's hard...I do'nt know what to say, except I am sorry he is treating you like this...I don't even know ya, and I know that you deserve better than that.  I hope you have the strength to leave, or he has the decency to change his ways for you and your baby.

Quoting Haley (16 weeks left):“ So my ex, Tom, and I still have a very close relationship. We talk multiple times a day, hang out about ... [snip!] ... who he can just use and walk all over. Sorry girls, I just needed to vent and maybe get your opinions on what I should do...”

Why would a beautiful girl like you put up with someone who is obviously a sh*thead? You deserve someone that wants to be with you and only you all the time. You shouldn't have a problem finding someone like that.

ugh...that sucks dude. I agree with you just because yall don't have titles doesn't make it hurt any less, Im sure. Are you going to let him move in with you? I don't think I would...Good luck to you, hope he straightens up.

my now fiancee and I were FWB for our first three months... He slept with someone else about a week after the first time we had sex. It hurts, I know... Guys are just dumb, and if you do not voice your emotions and how YOU think your relationship is, they will do stuff... I'm really sorry you had to go through that, its really hard and a really tricky situation. If he wants you, though, you will HAVE to learn how to forgive him... sometimes it still hurts me, but I have gotten over it and realized he is only mine for the past ten months... Good luck, hun!

Quoting Haley (16 weeks left):“ So my ex, Tom, and I still have a very close relationship. We talk multiple times a day, hang out about ... [snip!] ... who he can just use and walk all over. Sorry girls, I just needed to vent and maybe get your opinions on what I should do...”

I would leave him. If he cared about you that much he would have never done that drunk or not. Especially when your pregnant you deserve so much better.

You will never find happiness if the being together without a title continued. I am sorry but as another poster said you are very pretty and I am sure would not have a hard time finding someone who would treat you right.

Quoting Haley (16 weeks left):“ So my ex, Tom, and I still have a very close relationship. We talk multiple times a day, hang out about ... [snip!] ... who he can just use and walk all over. Sorry girls, I just needed to vent and maybe get your opinions on what I should do...”

Im going threw the same thing you are. I have been with my ex off and on for 4 yrs now. We broke up like 2 mons ago but we still was spending time together, going out, love making the whole 9 we jus didn't have the title. Well lately he's been acting real funny and his brother told me he hasn't been coming home at nite. So since Sat I jus been crying I mean I can't be to mad cuz we are not together but it really hurts because I still love him. I wasn't seeing any one eles so why would he. I asked him about it and he told me it wasn't true but i know he's lying because why would his brother tell me a story like that???? I love him with all my heart and just dnt know how to let him go but I kno I need 2. Everybody says things are going to change when the baby gets here but I want them to change now because I love him and couldn't see anybody eles with him expect for me. So I kno how you feel you can't control your feelings for the 1 you love. I hope you work threw it tho good luck!!!!!

Although this won't be much of a help to you but I would just go with what you feel is right for you. I have never been in your situation and I know that if i was I would be torn.

I DO hope though that you find someone who treats you better and will think your simply amazing and won't even look twice at other girls.

Follow your heart girl!

Thanks for all your input girls. You all made me cry. I am really torn up about this. I wish it would just be easy for me to tell him to fuck off and not talk to him. But I'm dumb when it comes to him, I would do pretty much anything for him. It really breaks my heart. He says he loves me and I'm the mother of his baby so we are a family now, but why would you treat your family so shitty? My hormones have been getting the best of me lately and I've been super depressed and this couldn't come at a worse time. Thanks again ladies.

Quoting Haley (16 weeks left):“ Thanks for all your input girls. You all made me cry. I am really torn up about this. I wish it would ... [snip!] ... been getting the best of me lately and I've been super depressed and this couldn't come at a worse time. Thanks again ladies.”

Well you are a beautiful girl and even if it doesn't work out with him, you and your baby are still a family and I am sure that any guy would love to complete it.

I have been dumb like that with a guy before and it took about 2 years to end it. Once I did I found the love of my life..my hubby. At that time I didn't think that I could find anyone better than that guy and I didn't feel as though I deserved it (I felt ugly because of the other girls). But where you are having his child it's a whole other ball park. I just hope for your happiness!